Namaste everybody Lisa a Romana here the breakthrough life coach and I wanted to
create a video today that I think can help a lot of people understand why it
is is so difficult to love the self and I can you know speaking for myself right
because that's the way I deal with things I have a problem I figure out
what the problem is and then I try to figure out a solution it doesn't make
any sense to me to be in pain and not identify what the problem is because if
you don't identify what the problem is you cannot come up with a solution so on
my healing path waking up from depression chronic fatigue you know
pulling my hair hair out of my head suffering from eating disorders migraine
headaches rashes all over my body like I said clinical depression panic
disorder not loving myself severe codependency I mean I was the queen of
codependency seriously waking up and realizing that I was a mess you know
I was so happy to know that there was a freaking name for what I felt
codependent I'm codependent that's awesome at least there was a
frickin name for how I felt I was so excited didn't know what it meant at the
time but I made it my life's mission to figure out what it meant to be
codependent along my path I discovered that not only was i codependent was i
needy was I had people pleaser did I laugh not only did I lack a self I
didn't know I had a self what the hell is a self I have a self
you know I didn't know that and so then I realized that even though I had a big
mouth and I complained a lot you know I stamped my feet a lot I didn't love
myself I didn't did not love myself so on the healing journey what I learned to
do was get you know very analytical about my life and I began to identify
the problems I had one of the problems was I was codependent deeper than that I
was codependent because I had a non self I had I didn't lack herself and so part
of my journey was understanding what it meant to be codependent developing life
skills to help me not be codependent but absolutely I had to learn how to
love myself this is how I approached it and if you're interested I've created a
four-part video series that's available immediately
unlike mites while we break the coaching program where you have to wait for the
class to start because I moderate it with the team this next class is
actually available immediately and has four downloadable self-hypnosis
brainwave meditations that will help you learn how to love the self and identify
what's the problem because you know if I don't love myself telling me to take a
bath isn't really gonna help me love myself okay it's not gonna work if I
don't love myself telling me to do telling me to look in the mirror and
tell myself that I am beautiful it's not gonna work because I don't love myself I
don't even know what the hell itself is so it makes no sense to me doing
affirmations not going to work if I don't love myself if I don't know what
itself is so I just wanted to share with you quickly how I learned to love myself
so what I started to do is I start to understand what the problem was I wanted
to understand what the self was I didn't have an idea of what the self was so I
studied psychology all the best known most famous known psychologists all
their theories bla bla bla bla and a lot of them made sense some of them didn't
make so much sense whatever but what I began to understand was that I am more
than what I thought I was and there was a time where I was just completely
reactive I thought that I was my emotions
turns out no that's not true emotions are just indicators emotions help us
figure out where the hell we are emotions help us identify what our
boundaries are emotions help us to know when somebody violates something that is
not in alignment with our true self however however until we awaken to the
true self we're dealing with the psychological self okay and this
psychological self has been affected by all the bullshit in our environments
sorry but that's just the way it is what do I mean that mean by that so the
psychological self is that aspect of us that is that has been affected by out
side circumstances then on the other side of the coin we have the divine self
the divine self is perfect at our core we are divinity the moment the sperm and
the egg came together when two became one we were qualified we were worthy
okay what happens from there not our fault but at that moment in time we're
worthy we're enough we're innocent we don't do
anything wrong we don't deserve to be abused know we don't know we don't know
it all so we're born to people who may not be
that highly functional maybe below the veil may be narcissistic alcoholics
abusive codependent not understanding they're supposed to be protecting us
from what's happening we don't know that and so when we are children we are born
to these people and our experiences our it'd our ego super-ego ego which is
comprised of the ideal self and the conscience all of this gets affected by
all of that okay so who we develop in terms of our psychology right very much
and yes biologies effector and factor and yes chemistry is a factor but most
of us are suffering from the abuses that we've experienced in our childhoods that
have affected the way we see the self or our understanding of the self so what I
hope you guys are just bear with me there's a psychological self and then
there's the inner self there's the yep there is the perfect divine self we're
all trying to get to the point where we can merge our psychological self with
the divine self the divine self is that aspect of us that understands and in
folds all other aspects of ourselves so that means divine self when we get into
contact with divine self we are at a point where we acknowledge the in us and
the ego and the super-ego we acknowledge the inner critic we acknowledge that our
conscience has been subject to the norms and rules of it if it's not if you're if
you have any choice if your family is Roman Catholic or Muslim or whatever or
seventh-day Adventist or Pentecostal or Baptists what you don't have a choice
you're born into this faith whatever that faith believes about homosexuality
whatever that faith believes about other people whatever that faith believes
about other religions you now have become brainwashed or conditioned to
believe that to be true I please hear me dear ones I'm not knocking anybody's
religion I'm just explaining what happens when I'm just explaining what
happens to us as we grow up and we're developing ideas about the world the way
we see the world is the result of what we've experienced from the outside and
we're tiny little babies everything that mommy and daddy think we naturally think
because we've been conditioned to think that way so we have the psychological
self we have the it we have the ego we have the super-ego now if you have an
inner critic okay really interesting if you have an inner critic that is telling
you you suck and telling you how ugly you are and pointing out all your
cellulite and did I say that right cellulite cellulite however you want to
say it ladies you understand what I'm talking about
if you have an inner critic that tells you that you're ugly that you're old
that you're too old you're never gonna manifest anybody too damaged due to this
interestingly enough only people who come from abusive homes who have been
criticized have a really rough inner critic my husband my current husband
came from a very loving family his he knew his mother loved him and even
though his dad was very uh well he was arrogant you know and he was difficult
to deal with my husband says he always knew his father loved him my husband
does not have this horrendous self-sabotaging in a critic it does not
exist the few people that I know that grew up feeling loved don't have this
inner critic if you're watching my channel if you've taken one of my
classes if I've coached you and if you're in my facebook group if you
follow me on Instagram and Twitter chances are you have a pretty rough in a
critic like I did you suck you're ugly you're no good you're too fat
you're not smart you're not interestingly enough you know you're not
enough blah blah blah vomit vomit vomit right my whole life I thought I was bad
I heard a voice telling me you were bad you were no good okay because that was
my experience from the outside up little girls that grew up you know in homes
where mothers and fathers got along there was respect they didn't have that
inner critic because they weren't criticizing the outside they felt loved
hard to believe that that is possible but I like to think that at least as I
got I got became more enlightened and became more evolved that my mothering
became more authentic and my children now are able to feel loved
at least with my younger one I know my older one has an inner critic that's
probably awful because of the way I raised him I absolutely know that
because I was critical of him you know I thought I was doing the right thing I
wasn't I wasn't and it's very difficult to deal with but I have to note like
Maya Angelou says when you know better you do better so dear ones I want you
understand if you learn if you're having a difficult time loving the self you
have to understand that there is a doorway okay the Bible says you know
knock and the door shall open I'm only here as a messenger to help you know
that there is an absolute door between you your psychological self the part of
you that has been affected by everybody else's bullshit okay that's not your
fault your are the psychological self you're
in your ego your super-ego the inner critic the idealized self the conscience
whatever that all that all of your all of your experiences from the outside
I've helped you create this version of yourself right so if you're very
critical of yourself if you don't think that you're very smart or you're very
witty or you're you're this and you're that or if you're very negative about
yourself I understand that's a psychological self if you have been
abused in childhood and you you're you have learned to tone down your needs
because of of the the needs of your parents right they weren't there for you
so you had to deny what you felt just to survive that's that's part of how the
ego got created okay and evil gets a bad rap ego gets a bad rap ego is always
trying to mitigate the of our inner child and the outside world
okay and then the super-ego like I said the super-ego is is comprised of the
ideal self which mommy says you should be an engineer even though you want to
be a ballerina mommy says you should be a lawyer even though you want to be a
writer daddy says blablablablabla you are you
are gay but your religion says you should be straight that's your that's
your that's your ideal self that's that plays into your conscience your moral
code how you judge yourself be a bit of a bear that's all part of psychological
self and on the other side is your ideal set in sorry is your real self is your
authentic self is your enoughness is your knowing is your connection to all
that is is your God self you are literally creator incarnate in flesh but
it is the psychological self it is the aspects of the outer world that have
affected the psyche the psychological way you view yourself your psychological
self now in-between this psychological self and the ideal self is a door okay
and as you continue to heal you are able to see that there's a door and
eventually you'll be able to knock that door open and you and the ideals of you
and your authentic self your Divine self will emerge and become one this is
integration now okay on a quantum level because we're not only a psychological
self and the divine self we're also a quantum being okay we are it is gotta
get over it and not just eyeballs and eyelashes and hair I am a vibrating
quantum subatomic being that is interfacing with this matrix I am you
are we're all responding to the field well actually no the field is responding
to us yes the field is responding to us how we think is the way is affecting
what we see in the outside girl okay a lot going on a lot of come out of my
mouth but I have a lot to share now psychological self the divine self
vibrational self your vibrational self is always going to side with an honor
what aspect of you is more emotionally charged so if you've got a lot of pain
it's unresolved psychological self so your vibrations
are going to be in alignment or going to be resonating actually you're going to
be resonating giving off giving off emitting the vibrations that equal the
wounds that have yet to be healed now as you heal and as you heal and as you heal
as you heal psychological cognitive dissonance as you go from I'm not
wearing it to wait a minute I am worthy I'm a Divine Being
I've just got to walk through that door I gotta heal myself I've gotta learn to
love myself if I'm codependent I've got to figure out what that means I've got
to figure I've got to touch the wounds that other people have taught me to deny
I've got learning to validate myself okay that's all part of it that's the
12-week breakthrough coaching program by the way the masterclass is all about the
law of attraction but it's important what I want you guys to understand is
that healing is possible okay and you know what if you've been to a therapist
or a psychiatrist or psychologist just really ask yourself how much time did
they spend with you before they diagnosed you and and pads you on your
head and water and you walked out with medication just saying just saying we
can heal we are magnificent creatures we have
tremendous brains we have an amazing ability to understand the self but we
need people who understand the self to help us understand ourselves so that we
can come into alignment so we can love ourselves so we can become the god
selves we were born to be so we can become the creators that were born to be
so we can tap into the light that we are and share that light with others what
I'm hoping that you take away from this video is this idea that you are enough
but your psychological self may be so battered and so abused that you just
don't know that so dear ones know that you were enough know that you were more
than your psychological self there is a divine self just waiting for you to open
to knock on that door and the door will open I promise you one day it will
happen and in the middle in the middle what's happening is just so you know the
quantum you is responding to whatever vibrations you're emitting that are the
strongest so hopefully one day and my prayer for you is that you will get to a
point where your Divine self is it you are in alignment you are vibrating with
love you know that you were loved and the
past is the past and your vibrational self is now in alignment with your
divine beautiful authentic self and you can start manifesting amazing things and
you can start attracting the life that you always deserved and and should
desire because you are enough nameste dowon's once again just want you
guys to know if you're interested in a four-part video series that available
for immediate use check out the link below the meditations in the program are
downloadable you can listen to them on loop all night long if you wish the PDFs
are downloadable and they're printed friendly and they came out beautiful if
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you bye for now