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Today I'm gonna be looking over a very interesting article
I found giving my response, my take on it.
It's from the INFJ Blog.
Yes, the INFJ Blog and it's called
"6 Biggest Myths About the INFJ Personality Type."
We are in for a good one today.
So we'll see what the author of the article,
Megan Malone has to say about (inhales deeply)
the myths surrounding the INFJ (spooky instrumental music)
and I'll throw in my two cents and try to look smart.
Number one is that INFJs are special snowflakes.
This really comes from this whole thing about INFJs
being the rarest type, you know.
And what's interesting is that when you look
at Myers-Briggs stuff, like the official stuff
or books that they've come out with,
they never mention that INFJ's the rarest type.
Like, it'll be there in the tables
that show the percentages of the population,
but they're not like, oh my gosh, it's the rarest type.
That stuff about the rarity is being pushed
and highlighted by other media outlets
that want you to click on them.
So if they were just saying, like,
here's some stuff about the INFJ personality it's like,
whatever, but when you say, it's the rarest type
everyone's like, oh my God!
Oh my God!
And so then that has the implicit,
the implicit implication. (laughs)
That has the implication that because it's the rarest
it's the most specialist because rare is scarcity,
that means special, whatever.
The thing is, first of all, who knows
what the real rarity of INFJs are.
If you want to go more into depth about that
I made a video called INFJ Rarity.
I recommend you watch it.
Let's just say it's true, I don't know.
There's really no way to know,
but let's say it is the rarest type.
Once you get to know INFJs and you look online
at people who have been typed at INFJs
and you see them all, they're kind of boring. (chuckles)
Can we get real?
They're not, I mean, every type can have people
who are boring and exciting, right?
And when you start to see a lot of INFJs
you're like, okay, cool, there's really nothing.
They're not like, it's not like I'm looking
at every INFJ and every one of them
is fricking Dumbledore or something, you know.
They're not like shooting lasers out of their eyes.
There's nothing that special about them.
Sure, they have unique abilities for that personality type,
but every personality type does.
So yeah, INFJs are not special snowflakes.
They maybe happen to be the rarest type,
but every type has their own special thing going on.
They're not any more special than any other type.
So number one, myth busted, get it out of there.
Number two, myth number two, INFJs are extremely emotional.
Now, the reason that people might think
that there might be this myths that INFJs
are extremely emotional is that they are a feeling type.
And maybe because they have extroverted feeling you're like,
oh, they're constantly extroverting their feeling.
Now, I think it's true that someone
with extroverted feeling, especially as a function
that they feel comfortable using
they're gonna want to display what they're feeling
but that doesn't necessarily mean
that they're always gonna be wearing their emotions
on their sleeve, I mean, they could, but they might not.
I think one of the things about extroverted feelers
is that emotional states, feelings or whatever,
they can kinda pick 'em up and put 'em down,
you know what I mean?
INFJs aren't necessarily extremely emotional
because I think INFJs have the power
to just drop emotional states if it's not serving them
I think, so that myth, busted.
Hey, why don't we stop for a quick commercial break,
what do you think?
Thanks for sitting through that.
Myth number three, oh no, this is one I have said
before on this channel.
INFJs are the most extroverted introvert.
Yeah, I have said those words on this channel before.
Now look, here's what I'm gonna say.
Any, what am I saying?
When it comes to the introverts, the IJs,
doesn't have to be INFJ, the IJs
are going to be capable of being,
giving the appearance of being extroverted
because they have the extroverted thinking or feeling.
Those two functions wanna bounce off of everyone else,
and so that is where you get that
most extroverted introvert thing.
Whereas IPs, they don't have that in their top two functions
so they're a little bit more likely
to kinda step back and be true introverts,
but that only means that an INFJ or any IJ is capable
of being the most extroverted introvert,
but that doesn't mean they necessarily have to be.
You know, for me, for example, I consider myself
a bit more introverted, but there are probably
other people who are even more introverted than I am.
And then there are other people
who are more extroverted than I am
who would also be considered INFJ
or any other IJ type, does this make sense?
And it really has to do with the preference of
how comfortable do you feel using that extroverted feeling
and your extroverted sensing as well?
How comfortable do you feel with it?
So when people say INFJs are the most extroverted introvert
the more accurate thing to say would be,
they have the capability to be,
some of the INFJs have the capability
to be the most extroverted introvert, get what I'm saying?
So myth busted. (explosion resounds)
When I was in high school I remember some kid,
there was thing where it was like, man, give 'em the first.
And they'd be like. (mimics blow landing)
Was that from a movie or something?
There was a kid named Vic and they'd be like,
"Give 'em the first, Vic!"
And he'd go. (mimics blow landing)
Just me, okay, moving on.
Myth number four is the opposite of myth number three.
INFJs are shy and timid because they're introverts.
Now here's the thing is that, so these two myths
are explaining that spectrum I talked about.
INFJs can be on the spectrum of introversion
and extroversion in the more colloquial sense,
in the more Big Five sense.
The thing is, shy and timid is different than introverted,
you know, that's what Megan talks about in this article
because when you are shy it means it's like,
oh, I'm a little afraid of that social interaction, you know
and timid is like, afraid.
But introversion isn't fear.
It's just like a preference to be alone
rather than with other people.
It means that you are more pumped up in your solitude
and that's what you prefer.
It doesn't mean you're afraid.
It just means that's the preference.
So myth busted. (chimes ringing)
Oh, here's a good one.
Number five, myth number five, INFJs are fake.
Man, INFJs are so phony!
The reason is because of extroverted feeling again,
extroverted feeling is concerned with maintaining harmony
and it also is very aware of etiquette, social graces,
what should be said, what will give the best impression,
what will make other people feel best
and so that can often feel fake.
And especially when you combine introverted intuition,
the dominant function of INFJs with extroverted feeling
those two together give you someone
who is really aware of reading people
and what is going on with people
and what the social situation is and how to play things
and then is able to take it all and just run it
conceptually through the funnel of NI,
of introverted intuition and to really clamp everything down
and get a good grasp on all of the concepts at play.
It makes INFJs really good at
just understanding the human mind and understanding society.
That could allow them to be a bit fake.
It doesn't mean that they are.
You know, sometimes extroverted feeling
just comes across as fake, especially to people
who don't have extroverted feeling, but it's not.
It's not fake, it's just trying to do what it does best
which is establish some kind of balance,
some kind of harmony to line up
the person's feeling state with the feelings of others.
They have the capability to be fake
'cause they can play people if they want to,
but they're not necessarily fake.
And sometimes, like I say, maybe they come across as fake.
Maybe we do, I don't know, but myth busted.
I'm just gonna say myth busted right there.
And then the last one, myth number six, INFJs are psychic.
Man, yeah, you hear this all the time.
It's like, man, they can predict the future.
Oh man, they're seers into the future.
And they just know what's gonna happen.
Here's the thing, introverted intuition
isn't like some kind of extrasensory perception thing.
It's not like you can actually see into the future.
If you wanna boil down introverted intuition
into the most stupid person explanation
what it would be is introverted intuition
is a big guess about the future.
And it's just one guess and that's it.
I mean, really what it comes down to
is the INFJ has basically like one big concept
in their mind of how everything's gonna work out
and so they take that concept and they're like,
this is what's gonna happen.
Here is really what's gonna happen.
This is the possibility, this is the next thing
that will happen in this pattern
because I see the concept, you can thank me later.
Extroverted intuition would be wanting
to make a lot of different guesses
and see a lot of different possibilities.
Introverted intuition just wants to pick one.
And so it's always future focused
and INFJs can predict the future,
but it doesn't mean it's gonna be right.
They will predict the future.
It doesn't mean they're gonna predict it correctly.
They're no Nostradamus, is what I'm trying to say.
They're not psychic, they're just able
to project into the future and guess what's gonna happen.
They may be right, they may be wrong.
I may be right, I may be crazy.
It's just the way that our INFJ brain is functioning
is always thinking about the future
and maybe you're right, but it's not being psychic.
It's just, that's the way the brain is oriented
for someone with introverted intuition
is to think in the future.
So myth busted. (explosion resounds)
Thanks so much for watching, I appreciate it.
And thanks to Megan Malone for writing this article.
Make sure you check out the link in the description
and go read this article in its entirety
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