Hey Fitlifer, Drew Canole, back again with Christine Hassler, best-selling author
women's coach, helped thousands of people all over the world
phenomenal, inspiring woman. Thank you for coming out today.
Yeah and today we are talking about emotional support. Now a lot of people
email in and they're like "Drew, I just, I have all these cravings. I crave sugary
things, I create fat - there's a different reason for each one of those of why you
crave it and Christine's gonna get to the bottom of it in this Mindset Monday.
A lot of people try to solve emotional eating by willpower alone. I just won't
do it. I'll put a NO on the refrigerator. I won't, oh yeah I don't chain, I won't have
chocolate in the house anymore. But willpower isn't enough because
there's there's always a reason why we're doing something and the reason why
we're doing emotional eating is because we're trying to heal an emotion deal
with an emotion through food. So for example, a lot of people that are really
really hard on themselves that have negative self-talk crave sweetness, crave
sugar. They crave that kind of sweetness and that upper. When you, a lot
of times when women are stressed or they're angry about something or they're
not speaking their truth, they crave crunchy, they crave salty, they
crave something that kind of like makes just chew a lot. And it can get some of
that stress out because they just want to say their piece, they want to speak.
Exactly, exactly, exactly. Oftentimes, if we're craving just fat,
just food that's just bad for us, something that's gonna make us feel full
is because we're not fulfilled in some aspect of our life. There's something
that we feel is missing. That's all entertaining to know, but what do we do about it?
Let's go in order. The sweetness. If you're craving a lot of
sweet and you can relate to having an inner critic and your self-talk is
negative. Where most people trip up in self-talk is they think they have to go
from being a fierce critic and negative self-talk to talking to themselves like
I'm the most amazing person in the world like I'm beautiful, I'm empowered, I'm
successful and that's a really hard leap
for our conscious mind to make, it's a big pendulum swing. Yeah. So you can go
from being awful to yourself to "I'm doing the best I can."
"I'm willing to grow." Do you know the Ho'oponopono? That's a great one! Do
they know that one? "Ho'oponopono" means "I
love you thank you I'm sorry". So say that over and over and you'll
feel this gentle coldness start to come over here. Yeah! It's just, it's just
shifting, it's not me. And and know that the thing about the inner critic is we
think it helps us, we think we're gonna motivate ourselves by being hard on
ourselves. We think that that voice inside our have been telling us, you know,
"you need to go to the gym and you're overweight", "you're not prettier" - whatever
that is - we think that's gonna motivate us to not eat or to exercise or whatever,
and it does to a certain extent, but it's depleting and it's not sustainable and
it doesn't last. So we have to find that inner coach, you know we have to find
that voice inside of ourselves that is kind to ourself. I dealt with depression.
I dealt with a lot of stuff that a lot of people's out body-image stuff, health
stuff, financial stuff, relationship stuff, I mean I checked all the boxes. And the
thing that has moved the needle most in my life is changing my relationship with
myself, and really being kinder to myself and gentler to myself and knowing that
that inner critic who thinks she's helping me actually isn't. And if we're
not giving to ourselves what we so freely give to other people, you know, so
many out of you out there might be people pleasers, you might be so generous
to other people. You deserve that same kind of treatment so you can do it
because you do it for other people. I feel like she's talking to me right now.
What about how do you say she hate yourself like if you're the type of
person that craves fatty stuff? Yes, so you need to look at the areas of your
life where you're not feeling fulfilled, and start to take actions in those light
in those areas of your life. Even starting any kind of creative project ,a
lot of times we eat and we don't feel full because we're just bored. Start some
kind of hobby find another way to fill your life other than food and social
media and yeah. I think a lot of people disconnect when it comes to eating. It's like they just
disconnect from their life like they want a different reality so they binge
eat in front of Netflix for hours upon hours. Yeah! You know one thing that we all
want and need is pleasure. another thing we all want and need is
feeling relaxed, feeling soothe, feeling comforted. So how do you soothe yourself? So
there's a couple ways. One is - there's simple ways you can just put yourself
back into your parasympathetic nervous system, right? So show me. So okay so
taking a really deep breath and most of us we breathe. We're good at breathing
into our throat or our chest ,not so great at breathing into our lower belly.
You mean, this right here? Yeah, that right there! I always do think about breathing all the
way into my toes, it's like any of my breath all over my toes. Oh, there you go! Yeah! What
about touch? We talk about soothing touch? So just doing this on your arm is
incredibly soothing, it calms down your nervous system. This is, this is backed by
science. I'm not just making this up. It does feel really good. Yeah! It's just
it's just a way to like be gentle with yourself and touch yourself and tell
yourself you know "I'm safe!" So thank you so much for the techniques. Oh my gosh, my pleasure!
So let us know what you crave in the comments below and yeah!
Christine's gonna look at the comments I'm gonna look at them as well. Thank you
so much for tuning in to another mindset Monday. You guys are awesome! Thank you
for coming on. You have my pleasure. My pleasure
Yeah. I'm Drew Canole. I'm Christine Hassler. Remember, we're in this together!