hello my dears! today i will be getting into the nitty-gritty about how to find your personal style
and confidence, and also just how i found my personal style
as well as some ~tips and tricks~ :D
this video is very much inspired by a video bestdressed made a while ago, and i definitely do
recommend checking out ashley's video because her videos are always *mwah* top tier ~chef's kiss~
but that is also why some of the things that i say may be similar to Ashley says, BUUUT i will
also try to say some different things and hopefully this will be helpful ;0
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my first advice... tip... *brain fart ar eye pee*
my first piece of advice is to make a mood board whether it's digital or actually hands-on,
you definitely definitely definitely definitely D E F I N I T E L Y need to make a mood board!!!!
and why is that? well, a mood board is very helpful for just dumping out
all of your ideas because that way you can kind of just assess
what you want your style to actually be, and it's a great way to ~brainstorm~ a little bit!
i personally really love pinterest, it single-handedly has done so much for my style
and i just really love looking at pretty pictures of pretty clothes <3
but if you're a crafty person you can also
physically make your mood board and you know cut things out
my favorite sources of inspiration are definitely, like I said, pinterest, instagram,
magazines from the 90s or 2000s, and also art!
i really love looking at art as a source of inspiration as well because it's kind of a fun
way to look at what color schemes i'm personally interested in and also i just really love art <3
my favorite artist when it comes to fashion stuff is definitely
the ICONIC the LEGENDARYYY ai yazawa, her works are absolutely amazing
i read paradise kiss this summer and it was it was honestly very life-changing and you know something
in my brain just clicked when i read it and it opened up my eyes (I'm being very dramatic LMAO)
paradise kiss, definitely recommend when it comes
to fashion, and also just the plot and storyline was very interesting ,,,,,,
B U T this is not a manga recommendations videooooo
instagram and social media in general is also a great way to find inspiration HOWEVER,
this is a point that was also made in ashley's video but, separate the persona of the person
you're looking at from their fashion sense because i feel like with social media it's very easy
to go down the rabbit hole of "oh man if i look like this person i would be able to do this",
and believe me i've been there and you know sometimes i still do it
but, what i'm trying to say is if you're using social media or fashion inspo
ONLY focus on fashion stuff, just kind of ignore everything else... block them out
and look at the clothes and look at the articles of clothes that you like!
on instagram and pinterest you can save posts and also just sort them into folders
so i would definitely recommend making a folder dedicated to fashion on instagram
and for pinterest i suggest making just a ginormous
massive board of all the fashion things you like of all the outfits that you'll like
and i do not recommend like being super detailed and categorizing everything (if that makes sense),
so you don't need a separate board for each individual season or you know separate colors
just dump everything into one board because then it's less of a hassle and also
you can just look at everything that you like and narrow it down from there
and i feel like with so many different boards it's kind of harder to do that
and that also just helps with shopping because you'll know what pieces you really like and you
really want to incorporate into your wardrobe and it kind of just defines
your options a little bit more
if you're not a huge fan of using social media for fashion in school i also would
recommend looking at art or looking at magazines from like the 90s or 2000s
well you can look at different eras (obviously lol) but personally for
me i really like the 90s and 2000s when it comes to fashion and my personal favorite
magazine for fashion inspiration would definitely have to be fruits magazine!
i really love just looking at how people layered
clothes and how they played around with different accessories and different patterns <3
i forgot to mention tiktok but tiktok can also be a great source of inspiration!
However the issue that i've noticed with tiktok is that there are a bunch of different micro
trends that are constantly popping up, and it's kind of hard to like keep up with them and I
definitely DO NOT recommend trying to buy a bunch of different things just to follow micro trends
definitely assess which parts of the trend you like and try to incorporate just a specific piece
of it rather than trying to follow the entire trend (does that make sense ??)
and speaking of micro trends that brings us to the topic of trends trends are actually a very fun way
to experiment with your style and i do definitely think trying out different trends is a good way
to kind of test the waters to see what you're comfortable with and also just what you like!
kind of just don't get sucked completely into the trend consciously follow the trend
i don't know if this is making sense but what i'm trying to say is just
if you like a trend you can try it out but also put your own little ~twist~ onto it!
for example for me i really liked the grunge fairy core trend that popped up on tiktok
and my favorite part was definitely the jewelry aspect of it and i really love
the long necklaces so i began to incorporate
long necklaces into clothes that i wore or my outfits in general and i really liked it!
i also did like other parts of the trend but i wasn't gonna just like
follow everything exactly, because i knew which part i liked specifically and i chose
to follow that part of the trend rather than the entire thing
moving on to my third piece of advice, it would be to evaluate your entire wardrobe
and what i mean by this is: declutter your closet, try on everything-- and when i say everything...
i do mean EVERY. SINGLE. ARTICLE OF CLOTHING YOU OWN!!!
assess the wearability and **versatility of every piece
ask yourself, "will i ever wear this again if i were to keep it?
does this fit into the style that i'm going for? is this piece comfortable???"
when you clean out your closet you can find
out what pieces you really like or just you wear a lot,
and this also lets you pick out what essential pieces of your wardrobe are
referencing your mood boards when you're decluttering your closet is also a really
great thing to do because it let's you know which pieces will fit into the style you're going for,
and just you can know what to keep and maybe what to *not* keep ...
after you've decided which items you don't really like anymore,
look at the items that you did decide to keep and notice what patterns and silhouettes
and shapes and colors pop up frequently, because this will help create a nice
foundation for building up your wardrobe again! :)
for me i really like (LOVEEE) plaid and pinstripe
and I will always gravitate towards plaid and pinstripe,
but you may be someone who doesn't even like patterns at all and that is perfectly okay
because y'know what, this is your wardrobe and you need to figure out
what you are a fan of and what makes you feel happy when you wear it! ^_^
and now once you have decluttered your closet, it is time to go shopping!!!!
after you've decluttered your closet, you DO NOT need to buy an entirely new wardrobe!
i think it's better to just slowly build up your style over time and maybe
buy one or two things that you think will fit into your style that you are going for,
rather than getting an entirely new wardrobe after you just cleaned out your closet,
because your taste will evolve and change over time-- and that's perfectly okay!! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
i think investing in building block pieces is really great for building any type of style
cuz those pieces create a base to build up outfits with and what i mean by that is just like plainer
shirts plainer bottoms plainer shoes you can never go wrong with a pair of just plain black pants
and even if you are someone who's going for like a more fun and exciting style it's still
good to have basics for those days that you don't know what to wear or what to do with your outfit
when you are looking for new clothes you should also keep in mind
of the clothes that you already own and if that item will go with the clothes that you
already have, because you do not want to get like a super *jazz hands LMAO* wild
statement piece, but that piece doesn't even go with anything in your closet
and then you'll feel the need to buy more things just to match that one piece with the new things
you bought only match with that one piece-- and that is very expensive and also very wasteful
keeping in mind just what you already own when you're shopping is good to limit your purchases
and just understand what you will actually use and if you will actually wear certain items after
you've bought them but this doesn't necessarily mean that you should limit yourself and like
confine yourself to a set of rules... THAT IS SO VAGUE but what i'm trying to say is you can
obviously still get some statement pieces that are kind of ~fun~ to change things up and you
know what maybe you'll really like those statement pieces and you get a lot of use out of them! :D
now let's talk about building up confidence to be able to wear the clothes that you want to wear!!
confidence is a different thing for everyone I feel, so
maybe like some of the things that i say may not apply to you and that is okay!! take your time!!
i don't think it's really realistic to just be like,
"hey if you're nervous just stop being nervous!"
because first of all like what how do you just how do you stop??? as someone who is nervous 95%
of the time, that statement is not very helpful!!!! >:(
but i do recommend taking it slowly and also you do need to kind of give yourself a push
at first but once you like gotten that momentum (WHY AM I ACTUALLY PUSHING) going
you can go at your own pace!
i would definitely recommend starting off kind of small and then going bigger
as your fashion journey goes along (this is so vague I am sorry)
so i would definitely suggest starting off with accessories because accessories are
always just a fun way to switch things up and also add a bit more ~bedazzle~
personally for me, i would always be very nervous about how the kids at my school would perceive me
and i would like plan out these very cool outfits or outfits i thought looked good and then the next
day i would chicken out because i was nervous and scared for me i was pretty cautious about my style
from around middle school up until freshman year and i would just always be very nervous about how
others would perceive me because i'm like oh god i'm gonna get bullied but you know what
people are gonna be rude to you no matter what i know this sounds mean and like kind of harsh but
there are just people out there who are going to be little POOP heads no matter what you do
and you know especially i think i realize that i'm not going to be able to satisfy
everyone i know some of y'all watching this might also have really harsh parents
and i would just say that you should start off kind of small and then slowly build up
to it because that will help you get used to the style and also your parents will be less i guess
shocked about it if you're slowly easing them in rather than if you just did a drastic change the
next day if your friends are not supportive of it well first of all you deserve better friends
you deserve friends who care for you who accept you for who you are but again just starting off
slow can be a great way to ease others and also yourself into it but also understand
that it is not your job to satisfy everyone and also not everyone is gonna be happy
about everything you do and like that's that's on them and if they have something rude to
say weeeelll ignore them, because they don't deserve your precious attention and energy <3
sorry for changing the camera angle the sun is being very annoying
but i also do think that having a safe place to talk about fashion is very important!
actually i started my tiktok account during freshman year because i wanted to
try out some fashion stuff, and i didn't really have any friends that was into fashion at the
time and the beginning of my tiktok account was very like not the way that i dress now,
AND THAT'S OKAY because style is something that will evolve over time
and i just think that having that safe place
to talk about fashion and to also put myself out there has helped with my confidence a lot
and dressing the way that i do now i know this is something that definitely helped me
because by making friends who liked the same fashion things that I did,
i was able to talk about it with them and we also just ~bonded~ and it was a nice time!
highly recommend-- B U T also, you do need to stay safe
because there are weird (and creepy) people on the internet!!!
i'm gonna end this video here because the sun keeps on catching up to me......
even though i keep on moving...
and also my camera is on the **verge of death**,
but if you enjoyed this video please thumbs up and also comment so i know that you enjoyed it ^_^
and that is the end of the video, goodbye thank you for watching!
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