Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we will learn about ten psychological things
that attract women. Now, let’s begin.
After decades of research on human attraction, no one fully understands why one person is attracted
to another. We have many ideas about what makes people attractive physically, emotionally,
and socially. We can identify trends in partner preferences and experiment with different
strategies that may boost attractiveness. We can even guess, just by looking at or talking
to certain people, who will have more success with potential partners. But just when we think
we understand the laws of human attraction, it defies all reason, breaks all the rules,
and takes shape in ways we don’t expect. In this video, we’re not going to solve
the mystery of human attraction. We’re not going to design a foolproof recipe for attracting every
woman in the world because that recipe doesn’t exist. Attraction isn’t nearly as predictable
as we would like it to be, but that’s what makes real, passionate desire so rare, interesting, and
exciting. If human attraction were predictable, you wouldn’t be listening to this video, and we
wouldn’t be exploring the many factors that people - in this case, women - find so irresistible.
Female attraction adds another layer of complexity to the already confusing world of
romantic interest and desire. Male preferences are well-studied and relatively formulaic, but female
preferences tend to be more subtle and diverse. If you are one of many men who feel confused
about what qualities women find attractive, don’t worry. You are definitely not alone.
Hundreds of people, including many reputable scientists, have been asking this very question
for years. Along the way, some people, calling themselves dating experts or pickup artists, have
claimed to master female attraction, using tricks, games, and stereotypes to earn female attention.
However, real studies have found that these tricks and stereotypes rarely correlate with
what women really want. In other words, the laws of attraction aren’t as simple as many pickup
artists claim them to be. That’s why, in this video, we’re going to discuss real traits and
behaviors that are scientifically correlated with female attraction. Whether you’re searching for a
girlfriend or just want to boost your physical appeal, these ten psychological things can make
you more attractive to women. 1. Seduction Resistance
Are you easily seduced by the women you meet? Many women are attracted to men who
don’t fall for the usual tricks. For example, if she twirls her hair and bats her eyelashes,
many guys will do almost anything she asks. This makes you seem easy, immature, or perhaps naïve.
For these reasons, many women prefer guys who are mature, experienced, and difficult to seduce.
This discovery comes from a 2020 study in the journal Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences.
Researchers tested over 150 women to find out if women prefer men who are flirty and easy or
mature and challenging. We already know that most men prefer the former. Guys tend to choose easy,
flirty partners, but this study shows that women display very different preferences. It turns out
that flirtier men are perceived as less attractive than men who are more challenging to impress.
What does that mean for you? It means you shouldn’t crumble when a woman starts flirting
with you. In other words, if you want to be more attractive, try not to seem desperate
and hopelessly available. The more eager you appear, the less attractive you become. However,
if you’re patient, modest, and slightly reserved, women are more likely to chase after you.
2. Confident Simplicity Many men think they need clever pickup lines
and elaborate games to attract potential partners. But the truth is that women are more attracted to
men who keep it simple. Studies show that a simple but confident introduction is the best way to
approach a woman. Say hello, introduce yourself, and start a conversation as if you belong there.
Most women will latch onto this simple approach better than a mind game or a pickup line.
Why? Because women don’t typically like men who try too hard.
She doesn’t want or need you to spend hours thinking of the perfect one-liner,
nor is she interested in deciphering whatever game you’re trying to play. Nine times out of time,
confident simplicity leaves the most attractive first impression, so don’t overthink it.
3. Special Attention To attract anyone, you need to make them
feel special. When you’re around, she shouldn’t wonder whether you’re actually interested in her.
That lingering sense of doubt will make you seem unreliable and wishy-washy. On the other hand,
if you make her feel unique or important, she’s more likely to see you in a positive light.
There are many small ways to make someone feel special. You might ask her thoughtful questions,
make consistent eye contact, or stay engaged with the conversation. All of these things make
her feel like the center of your attention, and that makes you more attractive across the board.
4. The Closing Time Effect Between 1979 and 2010, several
studies identified an interesting psychological phenomenon. At parties and other social events,
people seem to become more attractive, and available, as the night goes on.
This is sometimes known as the Closing Time Effect. At a party, for example, you
may begin the night with high standards and great expectations, but as the hours pass, your chances
to make a connection dwindle. So, you become more open to a broader range of partners, therefore
lowering your expectations and perceiving previously unattractive people as more desirable.
If you want to be more attractive to women in general, wait a few hours before making your move.
Don’t leap into the action right at the beginning of the night when people’s
standards are unrealistically high. Instead, give her some time to come around and appreciate
what you have to offer. 5. Reciprocal Curiosity
Curiosity is a driving force behind human attraction. Even if you find someone physically
beautiful, you’re more likely to pursue them if you also find them curious or interesting.
Therefore, if you want to be more attractive to women,
always give them a reason to be interested in you. You can spark most people’s curiosity with a
little-known psychological trick. According to a 2005 study in the Journal of Social and Clinical
Psychology, we are naturally more curious about people who display interest in us.
For example, if someone asks you a question about your life, you are more likely to
ask them a question in return. Even though they weren’t curious about you before, your
interest and enthusiasm spark their curiosity, making you more attractive than you realize.
6. Mundane Sincerity If you want to be more attractive to women, here’s
a rule to live by: don’t try to be anyone but yourself. Time and time again, surveys show that
women are drawn to sincere and honest men who seem trustworthy and dependable from the very start.
The average woman doesn’t want a partner who tries to trick or deceive her. She
isn’t interested in people who lie about or exaggerate their lives. Even if your real life
isn’t grand or exciting, mundane sincerity is more attractive than any lie you can imagine.
In other words, the next time you meet a beautiful woman, be honest and be yourself because the truth
will take you further than your lies ever will. 7. The Popularity Phenomenon
Attraction is competitive by nature. We’re biologically programmed to compete with
one another for potential partners. For this reason, the most attractive people
are often those who receive the most attention. Don’t worry if you’re not the most famous person
in the world. You don’t have to be a celebrity to take advantage of the popularity phenomenon.
All you need to do… is bring along a female friend. The presence of another woman, even a
platonic friend, makes you seem more popular and, therefore, more attractive to the women you meet.
8. Implied Capability
What is the most important quality a man can have? For many women, a man is
most attractive when he is strong, intelligent, and, most importantly… capable. In other words,
she is probably looking for a partner who can meet her physical, social, and emotional needs.
Of course, those needs vary from person to person. It’s impossible to predict what every individual
woman needs from their partner. But that doesn’t mean you can’t show her just how capable you are.
How? By finding some small way to satisfy her needs. For example, if she’s hungry,
buy her something to eat. If she seems cold, give her your jacket. This simple exchange shows women
you can meet their needs when it counts. That alone makes you a much more attractive option.
9. The Power of Naming Sometimes, a single word can change the tone of
a conversation, and no word is more powerful than someone’s name. If you want to be more attractive
to a woman, always remember her name, and don’t be afraid to use it throughout the conversation.
Studies show that people become more attentive and open-minded when you call
them by name. Of course, you must remember a person’s name to use it in conversation.
Whenever you meet someone new, pay special attention to their name.
Repeat it back to them if you have to. When you’re sure you’ve got it right, use their name
in conversation because this little trick can make you more attractive to everyone you meet.
10. Subtle Mimicry Mimicry plays an essential role in
human attraction. Decades of research studies show that we are drawn to individuals who seem to copy
or “mirror” our behavior. Why? Because mirroring, when it’s subtle and discrete, demonstrates
commonality, familiarity, and likeness, all of which increase your general attractiveness.
The same thing is true of verbal mimicry. For example, if she uses a specific slang word or
phrase, add the same word to your vocabulary. This subtle change creates a sense of familiarity that
many unconsciously find attractive. Thank you for watching TopThink and
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