Well, not really, but they kind of try to deflect it, or
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So, let's talk about how narcissists act when they feel guilty.
Well, they don't really feel guilty,
they try not to feel guilty,
they don't want to have to feel guilty.
So, if they do get caught, What do they do?
Well, if something happens, like,
they get caught red-handed in their lies or their bad behavior.
They get angry, and defensive,
they try to make you wrong,
whatever they can do to successfully divert
the attention away from whatever they have done.
They just don't want to take accountability for themselves.
So, this is where it becomes,
“I don't like the way you said that”
“I don't like the way you brought it up”
“I don't like when you brought it up”,
You know, it becomes about you,
it becomes about somebody else,
it becomes about this other person and
it becomes about how this other person did that,
when they brought it up,
this other person was always late, sick,
did this other thing,
the louder they get, the crazier they got,
it just is always somebody else's fault,
whatever they can do to make noise
around someone else, something else,
they just don't want to have to take responsibility
for whatever it is they've done,
they're certainly not going to take accountability for themselves,
so, I call that projection and deflection,
they're certainly not going to feel guilty,
that's for sure.
Under this one,
this is where the gaslighting falls in and
manipulation and triangulation falls into this one as well.
But this one is “I don't remember that”,
“I don't know how that happened”, “You're seeing this wrong”,
they literally will just flat out lie,
“I didn't say it like that” “That's not what you're seeing”.
In my law practice,
I've literally had people who were
seeing text messages that will say something and
they'll literally say that is not what that says, like,
even though that's what it says,
they'll say that's not that says.
I mean, it's so blatant sometimes,
or they'll say “I don't remember that”,
or “That's not the conversation”,
or they’ll weave parts of conversations into something else,
they'll spin it,
which is a very sinister form of gas lighting as well,
they will triangulate, they'll get other people to help them,
well, isn't that what that says? Isn't that how that went?
They’ll get somebody else to remember
along with them the wrong thing,
to get you, even make you think you're crazier,
just all designed to make you think you're crazy,
to destabilize you,
they're supposed to feel guilty, but they don't.
I have more on this by the way, on my whole video on
how narcissists react to being caught in a lie,
which you can definitely check out.
Just like as if we didn't have that conversation,
“No, we'll just move on, that didn't happen like that,
now, what's for dinner?”
or they'll just move forward on to the next thing,
“Why do you want to dwell on that,
that was yesterday's news, let's talk about something positive”,
they just don't even want to talk about
anything that happened in the past at all.
If you try to bring it up,
then that goes into the anger and defensiveness again and
why do you have to bring up things from the past, blah blah blah.
They just want to dismiss it completely,
as if it just didn't happen,
which is very convenient as well.
So, complete dismissal, like, swept under the rug,
that's always kind of an interesting perspective to me as well,
like, not even the future fake.
“You'll see, I'll be better”
“This will never happen again” and
then things never change.
So, that would be a number four.
That's different than the dismissal,
the dismissal is just were not even talking about it ever again.
So, number four would be the future fake.
“Oh, you'll see, things will be different” and
then, things aren't different.
You hang your hat on that,
“Oh my goodness, it's going to be different” and
then things aren't different.
So, that's another one.
Anyway, that's how narcissists act when they feel guilty,
they don't actually feel guilty.
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