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And this is Q&A Tuesday.
And today’s question comes from Andrea and Miss Andrea writes:
“Hi Marie, I’ve been watching your videos because I was recently inspired to start a
business doing graphic design for life coaches.
But lately I’ve been feeling discouraged and unworthy.
Though I have some schooling in graphic design, whenever I see another person doing the same
thing, it takes me down.
I know you say we all have something unique to offer, but how do you get around the fear
that what you offer isn’t unique, especially when you’re a complete newbie at it?
Thanks for putting out such great and inspiring material.
Thank you, Andrea.”
Andrea, I have heard this question from photographers and singers and writers and t-shirt makers
and yoga teachers.
Everybody across the whole creative spectrum.
And I’ve heard it from people at every stage of the journey.
From beginners to total pros.
We have all had the thought, “It’s all been done before, so why should I even bother?”
But here is the thing, Andrea, each and every one of us is born with a unique set of gifts
that we are here to express in this world while we are alive on the planet.
God does not make any extra peeps and when we hold back our gifts, we are truly stealing
from those who need us most.
So here are five tips that will hopefully keep you from being a gift thief.
And number one, there is more than enough to go around.
You’ve got to get that there’s over 7 billion people on the planet.
Now, I know they’re not all life coaches, but, to be honest, these days it kind of feels
like they are.
In fact, I think I just read a stat there’s like 4 life coaches born every minute.
My point is, we live in a big, beautiful world and there’s more than enough to go around
as long as you offer something that people actually want.
Or in the words of Louise Hay, and, yes, it’s a tweetable.
“Somewhere someone is looking for exactly what you have to offer.”
Number two, you need to embrace the abbondanza.
Think about Italian restaurants.
Can you imagine if any of them said, “You know what?
The world’s got enough Italian food.
Everybody’s done eggplant parm.”
I have several favorite Italian restaurants and I would be totally heartbroken if even
just one of them didn't exist.
Same thing goes for singers.
I mean, can you imagine if Bruno Mars said to himself, “You know what?
There’s enough sexy guys that can sing and dance.
Why even try?”
Are you kidding me?
Then myself and the whole world would’ve been robbed of this.
No one has or ever will have your perspective.
You’re a crucial part of the universe’s abbondanza.
If you were missing from it, just wouldn’t be the same, girl.
Number three is stop doing shots of compare-schlager.
You know, in college I had some nasty nights from this stuff called Goldschlager.
You ever heard of it?
It is disgusting and you are drinking compare-schlager, which is even worse.
And it leaves you with the nastiest comparison hangovers.
Look, you are watching MarieTV right now, but if I started doing shots of this stuff,
you wouldn’t be.
Why?
Because I would’ve never gotten to episode 2.
Do you know how many other online shows there are that give business and life advice?
If I went down that comparison rabbit hole, I would’ve never got out.
So my point is, you need to put down the bottle, girl.
Number four is be the acorn.
So big, beautiful oak trees start off from a tiny acorn.
And everything beautiful and magnificent in this world usually starts tiny, tiny, tiny.
Just because you’re not the most experienced or the best pro right now doesn't mean you
won’t be.
And all the people that you’re looking at that have more experience than you did not
start off that way.
You’ve gotta know this, every single pro starts off as an amateur, so right now you’ve
just gotta focus on being the acorn.
And if you really wanna make this happen, this next step is the most important.
Number five, you’ve got to train yourself to choose love over fear.
So here’s the deal, in any given moment all of us have a choice of our thoughts and
our words and our actions.
We can either align ourselves with fear or align ourselves with love.
Now, when we’re aligned with fear we all feel like ass.
Right?
We feel alone, we feel separate, and we feel completely unworthy.
We waste a lot of time, we don't get things done, and, most of all, we waste this precious
gift we have called life.
Now, on the other hand, when we align ourselves with love, everything changes instantly.
We feel awesome, we feel connected to ourselves and to others, and we recognize, you know
what, we have some genius inside and we’re here to contribute that genius to make the
world an amazing place alongside a whole bunch of other people that are here to do the same.
So, Andrea, those are 5 things that I really want you to remember the next time you start
feeling like it’s all been done before.
And I wanna wrap up with one of my favorite quotes of all time from the incredible Martha
Graham.
“There’s a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through
you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is
unique.
And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost.
The world will not have it.
It’s not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares
with other expressions.
It’s your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.
You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work.
You have to keep yourself open and aware to the urges that motivate you.
Keep the channel open.”
That was my A to your Q, Andrea, I really hope it helps.
Now I would love to hear from you.
You know, all of us can get caught up in this idea that everything’s been done before.
So if you’ve felt that way, which one of these 5 tips most resonates with you?
Or if you have another way to get yourself out of the, “It’s all been done before,”
funk, I would love to hear about it.
As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go
over there and leave a comment now.
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