This video is about "Call Their Bluff and See What Happens!" I will reveal why you need to call
your partner's bluff, and see what happens for the very future of your relationship. To find out more
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What is a bluff? A bluff is an attempt to deceive someone into believing that one
can or is going to do something...The most common bluff in relationships is the threat of leaving
separation, divorce aka breaking up. "I'm going to leave you...I think we should end things...
I'll go out there and find someone better...." There was once a couple that were with each other for years
unfortunately though they had a lot of problems, it was slightly toxic and negative... The girl was
unhappy, the guy was plodding along aimlessly, not taking responsibility... After yet another
huge argument and fight, the guy decided to make a threat... he was going to end things
"I'm going to go out there and have fun!" he said "but not with you! I'll sleep around with other women!
I'm mean it, I'll go out and do it!" Broken by his immaturity and fed up, the girlfriend agreed to
a temporary break and decided to take the time to grieve the situation... Meanwhile the guy left
for a week, never communicated what he did or what he got up to... in that time as the girlfriend was
left behind alone in that period she started to evaluate the entire relationship she had...
She was unhappy, she was unsatisfied, he was very immature, extremely selfish, they had not
been compatible for years and this was not the relationship she had wanted at all...When
he eventually returned he apologized and asked for things to go back the way they were before...
However much to his surprise the girlfriend declined and actually wanted to break up for real!
She packed her bags, blocked his number, left him behind and walked away for good...Calling
his bluff and saving her life in the process. Now there's obviously many extreme circumstances when
it comes to bluffs... but let's dive into this fascinating subject a little bit deeper...
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In hindsight, a bluff can and is often seen as an empty threat... especially when in a relationship too
Take the example of the couple from the previous point, assuming he'd get the upper hand, assuming
he'd regain some form of power and control he threatened to leave... which he did but he assumed
his partner who was already unhappy and miserable would somehow take him back with open arms, when in
fact the time apart actually made her recognize how deeply wrong the relationship was, and that
was his bluff that made her want to walk away for good. Examples of empty threats can include =
threatening to leave the house, threatening to divorce, to cut off finances, threatening to move on,
threatening to cheat, threatening to spread lies, threatening to hurt you, to abuse you, to upset you
threatening to cause an embarrassing scene out in public, threatening to not come to an event,
especially family events like engagements and weddings and so on and so forth, and threatening
to cancel something from any sort of plan to any credit cards etc. People who have strong boundaries,
have good communication and have some healthy respect don't make empty threats... they also
typically don't bluff either... they just walk away and refuse to participate anymore...I myself have
walked away from relationships because I realized it was not right or healthy for me any longer
I don't need to make a big song and dance about it, I don't need to shout it from the rooftops
if they're threatening to go etc and repeatedly if they're saying "I'm gonna leave you!" call them
out on it, see if they actually have the guts to do so.... they are most likely bluffing so they can
try and manipulate you and nine times out of ten, it's an empty threat and even if it isn't
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People in dysfunctional relationships or who are dating a person who is fundamentally not right for
them will sometimes make bluffs and empty threats for one reason alone = to demand change. A very rude
and disrespectful woman once made threats to her weak and spineless husband in forcing him to
change... she wore the trousers in the marriage but she hated doing so... she wanted him to be stronger
to stand up for himself, to be a real man not a wimp but he couldn't do so... he was too weak
pathetic, desperate for validation and attention..."I'll leave you, I swear!" she'd shout and cry as
he would beg her to stay she did this all the time, and over 25 years later they stood together
She still threatens to walk, nothing's changed or improved. I used to be in a very toxic relationship
with a narcissist a few years back... narcissists are fundamentally difficult and stubborn people
to deal with, let alone have a serious romantic relationship with. Foolishly I thought I could
change her...I thought I'd inspire her to be better... I thought I could iron out her toxic behaviors but
I failed miserably... so miserably that I spent years of my life with the wrong person wasted, because
i'll never be good enough for the wrong person. I warned her to stop lying, to stop being so aggressive
to stop causing drama and problems because if she carried on doing so my threat was I was going to
walk, and several years later I finally did so and never returned... but in that period she had
no reason to change... no motivation to change..."I got him" she thought, "I can behave as badly as
I want because he's not going anywhere, he's mine" and so on and so forth. Sometimes a bluff is said
because change is wanted in the other person or in the dynamic and circumstances of the relationship
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so you never miss any of my videos! So when the bluff or empty threat has come your way
call them out on it! See what happens! If they threaten to leave say "go on then" if
they threaten to cheat say "you do that it's over" if they threaten to divorce "okay i'll contact my
lawyer then" if they threaten to spread lies about you "well i'll contact the police and
get a restraining order" if they threaten to abuse you "but i'll be moving out asap" you say
A bluff, or an empty threat can be because the other person wants to control and manipulate you
They may want to frighten you, they may want to make you submit to them, they may want to make
you feel utterly powerless to them... remember that first couple I used at the beginning of the video?
Here is what the girl said when he walked out after threatening to do so "originally I felt
crushed, my heart broke into a million pieces... he had walked out the door and was ready to go and
meet other women... I felt so abandoned, then slowly as time went on" she said "I realized I actually
didn't miss him as much... I felt worse for myself than him and started seeing the relationship as
very unhealthy, and by the time he returned" she said "I was done! Officially done! No attraction,
no love nothing, I wanted nothing to do with him anymore and I wanted to get out and walk away"
By seeing what happens... you see the truth... maybe they are toxic... maybe they are really immature
maybe they are more abusive than you actually thought... maybe they're just not good enough for you
maybe there's just no future between each other...
Be strong enough to face it head-on! Call the bluff... if the bluff has come many times
and see what happens... You deserve to finally know the reality of your situation and the truth!
Good healthy couples and people do not make empty threats and bluffs...I know I did but I
was in a toxic relationship...I was embarrassed I did so many times but eventually I walked away
she got the final message. The healthy couple talk things through and even if one of them
sensitive or doesn't want to hear criticism they should be able to iron out their problems...
A young couple I know started with empty threats as they were both scared to be vulnerable
and commit but after talking things through, explaining everything, opening up to one another,
something shifted... they almost grew up overnight... effortlessly the guy stopped talking in a
disrespectful way to his woman which hurt her, in turn she made more of a conscious effort to make
more of an affectionate effort towards him, something he was craving for a long time....
It was not forced, it was not difficult.... it was smooth and easy... there was no willpower
as their strong feelings for one another overcame their logical minds and egos to give in
and as a result they became closer and healthier... As a couple empty threats and bluffs there's
a time and a place for it... warn somebody and tell them how you feel, instill boundaries when it comes
your way, look at the person saying it, are they coming from a scared, insecure, vulnerable place or
are they coming from a toxic manipulative negative one? Call the bluff regardless and see what happens...