hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 signs of mental
strength now let's begin number one emotional responsibility are you afraid of disappointing
people you may compromise your commitments your time and values to spare another person's feelings
but are their feelings your responsibility people with mental strength ask this question early and
often all right let's say you're looking forward to a relaxing afternoon by yourself
right as you're settling in for the night your friend invites you to a concert
your friend seems really excited about going but you were excited for a quiet night alone
do you go to the concert or do you stay home by yourself well most of us would go to the
concert right why is that because we're afraid of disappointing people deep down we choose
other people over ourselves especially when we think they'll turn against us but if you have
mental strength you know that your friend's emotions are not always your responsibility
you feel confident and comfortable standing up for yourself and you don't feel guilty every
time you say no because mentally strong people protect their emotions before anyone else's
number two owing nothing nobody owes you anything mentally strong people know this
like the back of their hand you may think you deserve a promotion a raise or an opportunity
you may insist that you've worked harder than everyone else you may assume that you want this
dream more than anyone out there but the simple truth is no one is entitled to anything in life
no opportunity will fall into your lap because success is just not fair some people stumble onto
amazing opportunities without working for them others work their entire lives and get nothing
it's a hard pill to swallow but mentally strong people know this by heart that's why people with
mental strength take action they're the first to show initiative they're the first to chase their
dreams and the last to give up on them mentally strong people know that nothing in life is easy or
automatic jobs friendships relationships they all require you to do the heavy lifting if you aren't
willing to take initiative your dreams may never come true no matter how much you want them to
number three accepting chaos life is often out of your control yet many people try to
micromanage every little thing they helicopter over their friends and family members they
demand to know every detail they try to think through and prepare for every possible outcome
but you'll never be 100 in control of the world around you mentally strong people don't try to
control everything they know that life is filled with obstacles and unknowns they understand that
sometimes chaos is the only option so they build mental boundaries between things they can control
and things they can't your work ethic for example is something you can control you
can be more productive you can be more disciplined you can work longer and harder than you did before
but you can't control the way your boss perceives you or the opportunities that come your way
trying to control these things will only create anxiety and self-doubt so find strength in all
the things you can control embrace all the parts of your life that you can affect all
on your own and if you can separate these things in your mind you have mental strength
number four emotional intelligence how well do you understand your emotions emotional
intelligence is a very common sign of mental strength people who have spent time analyzing
their feelings often understand themselves better as individuals the average person hides behind
a thick layer of biases and misunderstandings we assume we know everything about ourselves
yet we can hardly make heads or tails of our own feelings people with mental strength on
the other hand get to know themselves on a more intimate level they use self-reflection
to discover bad habits patterns and biases in their lives not only can this significantly
improve your relationships with other people it also improves your relationship with yourself
it gives you a sense of perspective on the things you do and say if you're an emotionally
intelligent person there's a good chance you're mentally strong too number five changing opinions
inflexible opinions are dangerous no matter the context no argument is immune to change there will
always be perspectives you haven't heard there will always be discoveries that force you to
rethink your ideas yet many people turn a blind eye to all the knowledge they don't understand
people become glued to their opinions they find something they understand and believe their
opinion to be the truth so they block out other perspectives they ignore new evidence and refuse
to change their mind over time that stubbornness creates ignorance and a narrow mindedness
if you are mentally strong you know that opinions can and will change you consider new evidence you
value the perspectives of others and you have no problem asking for help feedback or another
point of view because you know that changing your mind doesn't mean you're wrong changing your mind
doesn't mean you're dumb or naive it means you're learning and growing as a person so be flexible
be open-minded and listen to what other people have to say whether you agree with them or not
knowledge will make you stronger number six reinforcing boundaries do you try to please
everyone in your life do you panic when someone's upset with you this is a common problem you may
feel anxious knowing that somebody out there is angry about something you did you may feel guilty
or embarrassed so you go out of your way to fix the damage you've done you stretch yourself too
thin trying and failing to make people happy but mentally strong people know it's impossible
to please everyone so instead of over exerting themselves people with mental strength create
boundaries and within those boundaries they freely dedicate their time and effort to other people but
there's only so far they're willing to go and that limit revolves around their own happiness
if helping someone else drives you into the ground then you're going too far if pleasing
others means sacrificing your goals you need to take a step back kindness and generosity
are wonderful traits but before you can make anyone else happy you have to make yourself happy
number seven credit their success do you apologize for your success you worked hard to get where you
are today you put in long hours you made hard decisions you made your fair share of sacrifices
and now you have something to be proud of but instead of embracing your accomplishments you're
embarrassed by them you undermine them you sell yourself short you feel guilty for something that
you spent years chasing with everything you had too many people make this mistake on a regular
basis they apologize for their own success as though success is something you should feel
ashamed of but mentally strong people learn to be proud of their achievements they take credit
for any success they found in life because it took hard work and dedication to get there
you don't have to brag you don't have to rub your success in people's faces but don't be ashamed of
hard work you chose to take a difficult road you chose to make a sacrifice so be proud of the path
you've chosen number eight self comparisons do you compare yourself to other people
many people do this on a daily basis we have a wide variety of media outlets at our fingertips
so it's easy to look at others and start criticizing yourself you see influencers traveling
the world you see entrepreneurs finding great success in their fields you see artists turning
their passions into careers and you begin to doubt your own accomplishments but it's not constructive
or fair to make comparisons no one has had the same experiences as you no one has the same
background as you and no one's dreams are exactly like yours so don't worry about how you stack up
to strangers on the internet if you see someone ahead of you don't worry about falling behind
instead look backwards at the person you were yesterday and make sure that you're
moving forward in your own life if you grow even a little bit every day hey you're mentally strong
number nine expressing emotions do you have an explosive temper do your emotions build up until
you can't contain them any longer many people cope with their emotions by burying them deep down
each time they make a mistake they try to ignore their feelings but over time
these emotions pile up and flood out of you when you least expect it that's why mentally
strong people deal with their emotions in the present they don't stuff their feelings down or
pretend they're fine when they're not they don't hide the way they're feeling because emotions
are nothing to be ashamed of so let yourself be vulnerable analyze how you're feeling and work
through those feelings as best you can if you can do that you may be a mentally strong person
number 10 walking away how do you handle conflict if a stranger starts yelling at
you do you fight back or do you walk away walking away is a sign of mental strength
because strong people know the difference between useless and useful conflict they can slow down
stay calm and gather perspective so they know when an argument is a waste of their time it
takes strength to stand up and fight but it takes even more strength to walk away hey thank you for
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