Hey guys, so I don't know if you guys can tell or not but
my voice is gonna be a little bit more annoying than usual
because I'm sick. In fact I've been sick for a while now...
with BIEBER FEVER!(BABY BABY BABY oh!)
Naw okay, yeah, that, that illness has been gone for awhile now.
But really though, I have been sick for like two or three weeks
so I apologize for my voice and also my...
my hair, which I did not cut.
I don't know why I never remember to cut my hair before I vlog.
I know so many of you wonderful people love to point out how ugly my hair
gets when it's long.
But being the extremely self confident person that I am,
it's a good thing I don't care what you guys think about my..
...about my...(Magical sneeze)
Oh! Well that works.
Don't you love those days when you have magical sneezes?
Anyway, I'm pretty sure you guys know what memes are
and one of my favorites memes is the "unpopular opinion" meme
You know the one where people write their opinion on something
that most people don't agree with.
Either that, or they agree with it and are too scared to say it out loud
Well, as you guys know that I'm always going to give you guys my honest opinion,
as unpopular as it may be.
I mean it does get me into trouble sometimes but
this isn't TV, you can't tell me what to say. You can't tell me what to think!
This is YouTube, I can say whatever I want.
This is the land of the free and the home of the bees.
What? Yep, definitely off the pill today.
Anyway, today's topic can be another touchy one
If you watched my Draw My Life video, you know that I was bullied a lot when I was younger
so of course I think bullying is a problem
but recently is seems that cyber bullying is like the main topic
that people report on these days.
You know from articles to news stations to groups being starting on Facebook just to target cyber bullying
Well, I'm just going to come out and say it, this is my unpopular opinion for the day
Cyber bullying is a first world problem
There, I said it, now bring on the hate comments
Nah, just kidding, don't. Cause that would be cyberbullying
Look, don't get me wrong. I do believe that cyber bullying is a problem
but don't you think you think we should be more focused on regular bullying that's done in person?
Coming from somebody who was bullied in real life...
I don't think it's really bullying if you can escape it
When I was being bullied in school and there was no escape I felt like I was being backed into a corner...
...to the point where I wanted to kill myself cause I thought I had no other options.
I was forced to be there with them.
I was forced to go to school.
I was forced to go to classes with them.
If I had the choice I would have avoided them at all costs.
If you're being cyber bullied, whether it's on Facebook or Twitter.. whatever social media
You're not being backed into a corner.
You have the option to unfriend your bullies.
You have the option to block your bullies.
You have the option to escape your bullies by deleting your entire account!
You're not being forced to be there.
Having social media is not something you need to live.
And there's no law saying that you have to be on it.
That's your own choice!
I believe that if you're gonna choose to be on social media, you're gonna have to learn how to deal with it.
If you can't handle it, then just don't be on it!
There's no shame in that!
Because no matter how much people try to stop bullying through empathetic news stories or campaigns
I honestly believe that bullying, especially cyber bullying, is never gonna stop.
That's just how some people are!
And also, on a side note,
all those 'stop bullying campaigns' where all people do is '#StopBullying' does almost nothing in my opinion.
I'm pretty sure there aren't any bullies that looks at a tweet with '#StopBullying' and thinks
'Ohhhhh. Okay. Yeah. I'll stop'
And for all the kids that are being bullied that do see that hashtag,
I'm pretty sure they're not gonna be thinking
*gasps* 'That'll stop 'em!'
Instead of campaigning to try and stop bullying, I think there should be more campaigns
trying to teach kids how to deal with bullying.
I'm sure at the time I would have appreciated that a lot more.
Yeah, that's pretty catchy. That'll catch on!
I can honestly say to all you kids out there that are being bullied right now,
If you can survive being bullied, it's gonna make you a stronger person when you get older.
Not odor, Older! Well, I guess, odor too.
I think the real way people are gonna grow is either inspiration or desperation
And if you're being bullied to the point of desperation.
or if you feel like you have no options
you're gonna figure out something.
A little off topic, but
other than mentioning it in my draw my life video, I never really told my story in detail, publicly before.
Being bullied is not something you're typically proud of. Kinda wanna just erase those ears
I don't know the next time I'm going to be talking about bullying, so
here is my story.
Cue emtional music!
When I was a little boy I never thought I'd make it out.
Ok that's a little too dramatic.
Just tone it down.
So when I was going to sixth grade
I moved to a charter school where I basically didn't know anyone.
And I already stood out because I was really, really short and skinny at the time.
And there was also not many Asians there.
And plus because it was a charter school we all took a placement test to see which group we would be
and to this day I still don't know how I scored really well on that test
and they put me with the older kids,
who I was even smaller in comparison to.
And from there it was pretty much like I was in a movie,
in terms of getting bullied.
Things that I saw in movies that I thought never happened in real life, happened to me.
I mean, it wasn't anything crazy but I'd get shoved,
pushed to the ground
pranked, to be made fun of for being small and Asian
and this went on pretty much every single day.
I used to make all these random excuses to my mom why I couldn't go to school.
until I finally told her why.
And I remember she called the principal one night
and the next day we all had this big assembly to talk about how we shouldn't be bullying each other.
And that pretty much did nothing.
And at the time I just hated life.
I used to stay up every single night
feeling angry and sorry for myself.
Some nights I'd be so frustrated that I'd have thoughts of just bringing my metal bat to school
and just start swingin' away at these bullies.
But then I'd come to my senses and realize that I don't wanna go jail.
I'd rather be dead than go to jail,
which actually lead to even darker thoughts.
But luckily I'd fall asleep and in the morning be somewhat grateful that I didn't do it.
But then I remember one specific night
I was just sick of feeling angry and sorry for myself,
and I started to think in a different way.
Sorry, I chose to think in a different way.
I remember thinking to myself that everything happens for a reason
and I'm being bullied for a reason, my bullies are bullying me for a reason
and I just asked myself 'Why?'
And I came to realize that everything they did was just to make each other laugh.
And I was just the easiest target.
So then I thought 'how can I take that away from them?'
And once I started thinking like that, I changed my entire outlook on the situation.
I made everything a challenge, no matter how much someone was gonna prank me or
do stuff to me to make each other laugh, I was gonna make them laugh.
If one of the bullies made fun of me, I'd go with it
I'd make their joke my joke.
Like if one of them said,
'Why don't you open your eyes, you little chink!' [Bully voice]
I would say 'What do you mean chink? I no understand.'
And then everyone laughed because they weren't expecting me to say anything.
And just like that, it was my joke.
And if I got tripped or shoved to the ground, I'd make a joke out of it.
I remember this one time one of the guys were behind me and they did that thing where
you take a step and they kick your back leg, you trip and fall down and
I did. And basically, he said 'Move it Jap.' [Bully voice]
And i would just be like, 'Man Richard! That was a good one! You're so strong!
'Shut up 'Fa- (Bleep)' [Bully Voice]
'Okay!'
And I know it didn't seem like I won that time
but then I just kept doing it over and over and eventually, it stopped.
I took the fun out of it.
I didn't get mad. I didn't retaliate.
I just made it a joke like I wanted to fall down.
And instead of being knowns as the small, nerdy Asian kid
I was known as the small, nerdy Asian kid that was sometimes funny.
Nobody wants to bully the small, nerdy Asian kid that's sometimes funny 'cause that's just mean!
But that's basically my story!
Cool story bro! [Bully Voice]
Ahhh! Thankyou!
That's what it would sound like if he were here!
I started using comedy as a defence, and then I just fell in love with making people laugh
which led to me making videos and now I'm here, talking to you guys.
And for all of you out there, that are going through the same thing, it doesn't mean that if you do what I did, It's gonna work for you.
You have to figure out your own situation.
The point is, for all of you out there , who feel like you're being backed into a corner
and you have no other options
just remember and know that you're not gonna be there forever
and if you manage to survive it, it's gonna make you a stronger and smarter person when you get older/odor.
And I know it may sound a little messed up
and another unpopular opinion
but being bullied is kind of a blessing in a really, really good disguise.
'Cause if you get to that point of desperation where you're backed into a corner and you feel like you have
no options, and you still survive it,
at least for me, you live with this thought that there's nothing that you can't do,
because you've been in a situation with no options and you still made it.
I can honestly say that looking back I'm almost thankful to my bullies because
without them I'd probably wouldn't be talking to you guys right now.
In fact, if you happen to be watching this video for some reason,
you know exactly who you are,
I forgive you for everything.
I wouldn't be who I am or where I am today without you.
So in a way,
Thank you!
Woah, and super off topic on this one.
Sorry I get really passionate when I talk about bullying.
But anyway, thank you guys so much for watching.
I know this wasn't the funniest video, but it's something I've always wanted to talk about.
Remember to post the hashtag
I don't think that was it.
And also remember, if you're being bull- if you're being bullie- if you're
*sneeze*
Son of a-
So thank you guys so much for watching, if you wanna see the previous video, click the one on the left.
If you wanna see that last rant video that I did, click the one on the right
and uh, uh, eh just, come over here and say hi.
This is Dom. D-trix. D-trix say hi!
Heyyyyyyy!