I like sir over the question who here
has ever felt they didn't belong
somewhere raise your hands this room is
quite common and most of us have felt
that way sometime before and as
everything in our modern day lives
examples of this have leaked into the
internet in pictures like this one are
very easy to find but something that may
slide off the radar while looking at
this picture is the concept of normal
girls this person used and why would
appear interesting for them to distance
themselves from it so to look into what
does it mean to be a normal girl we
first have to look into what does it
mean to be a girl well assume back in
the 1950s this question have a very
direct answer complete with a list of
things every girl should attend to and
thus women kid added this guy's
completely impressed at how perfect this
woman is just before he sees that her
skirt is ensuing which throws him a
fancy her who lists all the reasons why
she's perfect - sigh some besides she
can cook she can dance she can sing and
above it all she's smart
who could top that but then came second
wave feminism different from the first
one Democrat says civil rights and legal
equality this way focused more on the
change to the cultural approach to
manhood they wanted to question what a
man should be or to become a woman and
to do that they neglected her wants all
traditional femininity with this radical
way this classic feminists created our
conservative patriarchal society a new
type of women closely associated with
traditionally masculine traits they
reflect the changes feminists wanted for
the whole society so instead of changing
the way society saw women the movement
ended up creating this different section
of women that was radically different to
what the ideal girls will be and with
the rise of counterculture all through
the 60s 70s 80s and 90s this category
not only applied to women that became
importing their fields and starts to win
awards and became important for the
whole world but also with women that
ignites a femininity in the punk and
rock movements yes and over time as most
things you examples of this migrating to
children's culture and if you grew up in
the two thousands you probably familiar
with characters like Jade from
Victorious sam from icarly
and Janice from ingress and if you're a
bit younger or very into children shows
you know characters like go-go from
Vicki
six they came out who's 2014 and
jailbreaker from the emoji movie they
came out as soon as 2017 all these
characters fit the stereotype that we're
going to describe later and are often
encounter positions to characters like
this desire now try to do this quickly
Carly from icarly Tori from victoria's
sugar lemon from big hero six Gretchen
from in girls and Zoe from Zoey 101 but
what's the problem with that the problem
is that all these characters here
they're cute awkward don't dump ish and
shy while appropriating or traditionally
feminine things such as dresses pink
delicacy etc and on the other hand we
have these characters they're all fears
powerful intelligent brave well
appropriating this neglection femininity
that began in the 1960s they don't wear
dresses are always in trousers they
don't wear pink they're always in black
and have a more careless attitude than
they actively distance themselves from
women and say that they're not like
other girls what was the problem with
that so girl girls grow up to be like
this imagine a little girl and all your
role models and your TV shows present
you to pathways you follow you can
either choose this side and be girly and
dainty and play around with other girls
and put your hair up and go to parties
and dance etc but you can be very smart
because that's not girly you can't play
around with boys because that's also not
girl you can do sports because guess
what and God forbid you're having kind
of nervous surfing as it should be so
then I say actually no I'm not
interested in that
I want you play around I want you to be
smart to be fierce to not have as many
manners but also should be taken
seriously I want to be like Jane is like
Jade I go go like Sam they're smarter
fierce or powerful if they can do it why
can't I well then you need to neglect
all girly things as they do you need to
not show any emotions ever you can wear
dresses because that's girl you can put
on makeup because that's also girly and
this girls grow up to be like this girls
grow up with this examples and they grow
up to say things like this and girls
think that by doing this totally mundane
thinks they're failing on their role as
a girl therefore the first phrase and I
think it's clear to you the problem this
creates if it is not I'll explain this
dance perpetuates a misogynistic view of
women of you that says femininity and
intelligence don't fit together a view
that girls
in order to fight for intention a view
that we force is a system that oppresses
men and women everyday
and most importantly of you the fires
hatred Pro feminine things none of these
girls are truly free
both girls either side for the need to
fit into a pattern to censor themselves
in order to be part of something and
these alternative girls are supporting
and reinforcing a system that oppresses
women every day because that has been
presented to them as the only way of not
suffering the suppression but I'm not
here to poke my finger and laugh at this
young women as many people in the
internet have already done even because
I myself was like this for a very long
time as a kid those characters were my
role models so I became a preteen that
was recite chug has speech from river
leo by heart and think that that was
that show me that I was weird that I was
a weirdo that I cannot fit in and I
didn't want to fit in because that may
be better than all the rest because I
saw all those influences around me
saying girls are shallow girls are weak
your skin Jim Mathers don't think about
boys etc and instead of saying that
those were wrong
I enjoyed these people and said true but
I am the only exception I was so
desperate for my voice should be heard
that I did not see an issue in pushing
other of my gender down I suppress my
feelings for so long because I thought
being emotional was girly and therefore
bad and I thought being thoughtful and
delicate didn't fit me at all because
you know I'm not really girly you're
talking up with girls I'm just like more
boyish and I'd like to do math and to
read which are totally thinks girls
don't do their worst part of it all is
that it worked I have made so much
effort to isolate myself from everyone
then in the end I made it I was isolated
girls don't want to hang out with me
because I was annoying and mean to them
for no reason
boys didn't want to hang out with me
because even though they saw me as a
cool girl I was still a girl so I
surround myself with people that
reinforce his idea that I was better
than everyone by saying things as no
girlfriend is good enough for you or
that the people in my surroundings
hadn't reached my level yet and I could
now go on a whole Rambo of a story about
how I was wrong but I was obviously
wrong there are so many incredible
people out there and once I can break
through your bubble of prejudices you
find out that the world has so much more
to offer that society knows little
divisions and all these little sections
are completely artificial the world
isn't black and white but how could that
be I had always believed that it
did one thing or the other you could be
smart without it could be confident
without putting other people down that
had impressed me so instead of looking
up to these guys I search to find
examples of kind intelligent and
passionate women cartoons actually this
is Mahfoud and juliet in books
this is Hermione and Anne of Green
Gables and films this matsuda and
special in real life these are Angela
Davis Michelle Obama and Malala
yousufzai but the list is so much longer
I search to understand that things in
life for an excluding they're wearing
dresses that'll make someone's voice
that's worth being heard and that liking
makeup didn't make anyone shallow and
most importantly that no one's simple
well not the most intelligent center
people I know is also the one that likes
to wear pink and the dreams of having a
husband the girl that I should think was
completely childish has an emotion
intelligence I dream of having so why
can't girls get examples that bridge
these things instead well they can and
the better part they already exist these
are the role models that young women
should be trying to replicate these are
the people that they should be aspiring
to be but if you're like me and you grew
up in the 2000s or even worse you grew
up in the 90s or 80s when these sir
types were even stronger you why don't
we make ourselves the examples that
these women need to be a better future
to make a better future thank you
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