whether you're a coach you want to be a coach or you want to hire a coach you're
in for a real treat today I'm going to show you a very simple but much
overlooked understanding that when you get this it will move you so much closer
to what it is you want keep watching
this is life mastery gym I'm Damon Cart and I teach people just like you cutting
edge NLP processes and techniques to help you take charge of your life and
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coaches miss this simple step and it should be the first step in any coaching
process especially if you're an NLP coach because when you get this you are
already halfway to creating the life that you want and getting whatever it is
that you're trying to achieve when I finally got this and I started using it
in my life and in my coaching it changed everything and as a little bonus this
can actually be used in sales and persuasion actually it should be used in
sales and persuasion make sure you stay tuned to the end of this video because
I'm going to show you a unique opportunity to get in on a live free
training that I'll be doing online next week now before I get into this I'm
curious about you or you a coach do you want to become a coach or are you
looking to hire a NLP coach let me know in the comments below no one's going to
spend money on coaching unless there's something that they want so we can all
assume that if someone is going to a coach it's because they want something
but the problem is is that rarely do rarely do coaches really spend enough
time understanding what it is their client once they spend a lot more time
focusing on the problem probably because the client is more focused on the
problem and trying to solve it so what coaches often do
as they they to focus most of their time on the problem and they also eagerly
throw NLP processes and techniques at the situation thinking that it can just
magically solve it this approach can actually work in fact it's probably how
most NLP coaches spend the first few years of their coaching they just take
processes and techniques and basically throw it at their client until something
appears to work and like most NLP coaches that's what I did for the first
few years but it was very sloppy and very haphazard and it took a lot longer
to get effective results what I recommend is being a lot more precise
and spending a lot more time gathering information and when you do this as the
client is giving you more and more information about what it is they want
they start to connect with it even more and they have an even more a better
understanding and a clearer understanding about what it is that they
want so they naturally start to gravitate toward it and at that point
all you basically have to do is give them a nudge on top of that NOP
processes and techniques are so much easier to use and so much more effective
when you have your client focused on what it is that they want and connecting
with what it is that they want I've found this way of doing things to be the
fastest and most effective way to get results for my clients but not only do I
use it on my clients I also use it on myself whenever there's something I want
or something that I want to achieve I use this same process of getting very
very clear about what it is that I want and not so much focused on what the
problem is what the client wants or if you're using this on yourself what you
want is far more important than the problem itself the reason for this is we
are naturally hardwired to move away from pain move away from suffering
rather than move toward what it is that we want we feel more incentive to move
away from pain and suffering than it is to move toward gaining something or
getting something getting more of something positive that we want I only
recommend focusing on the problem when it gets in the way of focusing on what
it is that you want so you might be thinking what do you mean by that
so the first session with any new client that I go through is I start off my ass
what it is that they want and whatever answer they give me I drilled down on
that much much more with whatever answer they give me I will ask well what is
important about that or what is it that what would that do for you once you have
it and I will keep going on this line of questioning until my client is literally
out of answers and yes we will go in loops and they will they sometimes will
get irritated and they sometimes will get a little bit bored by it a lot of
coaches won't take their clients that far in that direction or go that deep
with them because they're afraid of irritating and boring their clients
which like I said can happen but you're doing this for the for what it is the
client wants you're doing this as for the best interest of your client and so
I would sometimes even tell them this is going to get redundant this might seem a
little bit boring feel free to stop me and ask me what it is that I'm doing I
will explain it to you and most of time when I pre frame it like that I don't
get any pushback on it and so the person will go with me and we'll take that
deeper journey into what it is that they want most of the time though it doesn't
go so smoothly where they're so clear about what it is they want they're not
usually clear about the questions that I'm asking them what normally happens is
when I first ask them what it is they want they tell me exactly what they
don't want and so I'll have to tell them okay I understand that's what you don't
want and this is what exactly what you want to do with your clients you want to
say I understand that's what you don't want what do you want instead and you
might spend an entire session just helping your client get clear about what
it is that they want because this is something they've never really put much
thought to and this is why they're having a problem and this is why they're
limited this is why they're not getting what they want it's because they have no
sense of it they're only focused on what it is that they don't want they're only
focused on what it is that they're trying to move away from so when I say I
only focus on the problem when it gets in the way is when this sort of
resistance comes up or if any resistance at all comes up or they start getting
more focused on what are just they don't want to me that is the problem so I keep
refocusing them in the direction of what it is that they do want throughout this
process your what you're doing is you're helping your client finally connect
with the values that he or she is trying to get or if it's a set goal it's a
maybe a material object or you know some achieving some sort of goal you always
want to go deeper than just what they tell you and so you're going deeper into
it asking them more and more about what it is that they want and in that process
for them to have to go inside and search for these answers it connects them with
this it connects them with their what motivates them and connects them with
with those what those values are and pushes them in a positive direction so
your job is to really help your client cultivate a vision sort of a target for
what it is that they want for the direction that they want to move in and
this alone can sometimes solve the entire problem if it doesn't you're at
least halfway there before I wrap this up and bring everything together and
show you exactly why this is so powerful would you like to learn the most
powerful NLP model I thought you would in the description below and also you'll
find in the pinned comment the comment at the top there is a link and that link
will bring you to an enrollment page where you can join me next week where
I'll be doing a free live online training introducing you to the most
powerful NLP model where I will show you how it works and how you can apply it in
your everyday life if you're watching this video much later and that live
training has already passed you still want to find the link in the description
and the link in the comments I will leave something of great value for you
there the more clear you are about what it is you want the more naturally you
will gravitate toward it we are hardwired to move away from confusion
and chaos but what most people are doing is they're they're more focused on what
it is they don't want because probably many hundreds if not thousands of years
ago this is what caused us to survive if we were focused on the things that could
eat us or kill us we probably survived so we're the
descendants of those early human beings but we don't need that anymore what
works better for us now is to focus on what it is we do want and move in that
direction so if we're focused on what it is we don't want and we're very clear
about what it is we 1 your unconscious takes this end and
sees it as clarity and moves in that direction so what you will find is you
will end up going back to or you'll keep repeating repeatedly going to the thing
that you don't want or at least you'll feel very stuck because you don't have a
direction to go in the direction of what it is you don't want so what is it that
you're feeding your unconscious if you're very clear about all the things
that you don't want and how terrible it would be well that's what you're feeding
your unconscious and that's what your unconscious doesn't know that you that
you want this or don't want this it just sees clarity there so like I said it
will move in that direction change this start focusing and getting very clear
about what it is you do want and you will naturally gravitate to it your your
feet it you'll be feeding your unconscious not just feeding it you'll
be nourishing your unconscious and showing in great detail and clarity what
it is that you want so it naturally brings you there now I mentioned that
this can be very powerful in sales and persuasion what you need to do as a
salesperson or someone who's persuading someone is build that vision for them
and one way that you can do that is to do the same line of questioning where
you're asking someone a question they tell you and it has something to do with
what it is they want and then you go a little bit deeper well what is important
to you about that and that's a wonderful question to ask someone it also builds
rapport so when you show that interest in someone now you're building rapport
but you're also getting them to think about their deeper values and they're
going to start giving you those answers so when you start learning the deeper
values of either your client if they're a sales client or someone you're wanting
to persuade then you can start directing what it is you want them to do using
their values now if you're if you're going to do this do it ethically and
make sure that you're not deceiving them or persuading them and exploiting their
values to get them to do things they don't really want to do or that's not in
their best interest but when you use this right and it aligns with what it is
you're selling or it aligns with a grander vision that serves your interest
and their interests this is extremely powerful powerfully persuasive and
influential so again once you're getting very clear about what it is that you
want and you know what your values are and you're creating a vision
out of that then you want to start projecting that vision on to the world
around you and when you do that you will start to see opportunities where you
once saw limitation and lack and scarcity because you're projecting your
values onto the world around you that's what you start to see all around you
rather than the opposite so when you're very focused on what it is you don't
want you will tend to project that onto the world around you so that you can
stay away from it but what you're avoiding is you're avoiding all of this
you're avoiding reality you're looking at everything as being potentially
hostile or potentially creating an experience for you that you don't want
and this will disconnect you and separate you from the world around you
is that this is exactly what you don't want you want to connect with the world
around you you want to see possibility and opportunity in every situation so if
all of this sounds good to you and you're understanding it and this is
something you want to do you may also be wondering if I still do one-on-one
coaching and yes I do if you're interested in one on one on one coaching
with me go to life mastery gym calm there you will find that place to submit
your inquiry for a free consultation I do a 20-minute free consultation just to
make sure that coaching is a good fit for you and for me and then we move
forward from there so check that out if you want to do one-on-one coaching with
me now that you have a process for getting much clearer about what it is
that you want you probably want to take this even deeper and going deeper with
this by learning the most powerful NLP model it's called the self-concept model
and I'll be doing a live training next week like I said where I'll be
introducing this model I'll show you how it works and show you how you can apply
it as well so if you're not watching this at around the time that I'm doing
this training if you're watching this video much later like I said go to the
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for you if you are watching this video before the training make sure you get in
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sure you show up early what are you going to do now that you know this
process are you actually going to use it are you going to elicit your values or
you to get much clearer about what it is
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process is by saying so in the comments below
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