- Cheating is terrible.
- Probably the meanest and evilest thing
you could do to someone.
- In a lot of cases it means
you are unhappy with the way things are
and rather than dealing with the way things are
in your current relationship like you
kind of seek an escape with someone else.
- I have been cheated on.
And it really really sucks.
- I had a boyfriend in college
who would cheat on me all the time
and I had told him at one point like
"Look if you're going to do it
"just like, tell me and like we'll talk about it
"but don't keep it from me."
like that was the bare minimum that I asked for
and then he still would keep it from me.
- He was away for the summer and he would
come back to Boston to visit me
and our visits were always very sweet
we'd sort of hang out all day and like have ice cream
and walk through the Boston Common
and then, you know, at night he would go see
a couple more friends and then leave.
After that summer I found out that like
he'd have ice cream with me during the day
and then like, screw his ex-girlfriend at night.
Yeah.
- It was the first time I understood
the kind of fear
and anger people feel
to the point where they only know
how to react physically.
By just combusting into tears
and throwing a hair dryer.
- Yeah I have cheated on someone
but it was never like, it's never been like an affair.
- So I was on a break which is really weird
but I feel like a lot of people have been through it
and then I decided on my own accord that
it would be okay to pursue another person
or allow someone to pursue me so,
but I think in certain situations
people think that's cheating.
Which I actually think is too.
- I have never cheated on someone.
I have been the one that the cheater
has cheated on someone with.
One time I had no idea until after the fact
and one time I kind of knew and yeah...
- I kind of rationalized it like,
there's been so many times where I've
done the right thing, where I've told someone
"No, you break up with your girlfriend
"and then you can talk to me."
and then they eventually break up,
something always happened but they never
ended up with me so this time I was like
"Maybe I'm supposed to do the wrong thing
"and maybe that works out sometimes."
and, it really doesn't.
It's just really painful and messy and awful.
- In some capacity cheating is like
for me in my situation it was like
getting back at the person versus like me
taking the high road and being a better person.
So, it's like a...
It's terrible, it's terrible.
It's a horrible feeling.
It makes you feel sick.