- What's up? It's your girl, FrumpyFit.
If you don't know who I am, I'm an online weight loss coach
who's dedicated to calling out all the BS
in the fitness industry and providing you
with accurate fitness, nutrition, and weight loss information.
Today we are reacting to a video
that got almost three million views from Liezl,
I hate pronouncing peoples names wrong so I'm so sorry
if I'm pronouncing it incorrectly, Liezl Jayne Strydom.
She herself has one million subscribers,
but even then, this video popped off
to get almost three million, and there's no claim
of weight loss in the title, or I guess exactly in the thumbnail,
but you can see in the thumbnail that this person
has undergone some amount of weight loss
and the title just says, "I Only Changed One Thing.
This is What Happened."
So very mysterious sounding, I'm excited to watch it
and figure out why it got three million views.
As usual, I am not reacting to the person,
I'm just reacting to the information in this video.
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Okay, so I'm gonna put the video up right here
on screen so we can watch it together and let's jump into it.
- If you've been watching my videos here on YouTube
for a while, you probably already know
that I got really sick last year and was on bed rest
for almost a full year.
In this time I gained 10 pounds,
not that big of a deal, but I didn't fit into
any of my clothes anymore,
and more than that, I just felt really unhealthy.
I was depressed because I was so sick
and my anxiety was competely out of control.
I just felt like I was in a really bad shape, mind and body.
It's been about 18 months now since I got so sick
and I've been trying a lot of different things
to get healthy again, and to lose weight,
and I'd already lost about five pounds, which was great.
But my anxiety was still completely out of control,
I was still struggling with depression,
I still didn't fit into most of my clothes,
and I still just wasn't feeling ike myself yet.
I realized that I'd actually lost my confidence.
Then I heard about this one thing
which literally changed everything for me,
actually straight away I started to try to use it
and things actually started to change for the better really quickly.
So I heard about this guy named Ed Mylett.
I randomly listened to a podcast interview that he did.
In a nutshell, Ed Mylett has been ranked
the top 50 wealthiest under 50.
He's a really successful entrepreneur,
he's a Keynote speaker, and he's an author as well.
He's got a net worth of about $400 million.
Anyway, in that interview, he said something
that totally shifted my mindset.
It's gonna sound really simple,
but let me just explain how it relates to this video.
He says that you can't achieve a goal,
even something simple like trying to lose weight
or get into better shape, or get healthier,
when you don't trust yourself or you have self-doubt.
Basically you can't achieve a goal
if you don't believe you can do it.
- Yeah, and I'm actually really happy that this is the thing
because, I've said this before, but I think the thing
that is missing from the weight loss space
is acknowledging your mindset.
Weight loss is a challenge, just like so many other things in life,
so all of the, I know some people think it's cheesy,
but all the personal development, like self help kind of stuff,
can be really helpful for weight loss.
Because at the end of the day,
even if you know exactly what you need to do,
you have to still do it, and that's a huge hurdle
that some people aren't prepared to overcome
when it comes to changing your body.
Like you're probably here on this video
or on YouTube watching videos related to weight loss
because you want to learn about it,
but that can only take you so far.
And this actually reminds me of something
that came up recently for me.
I just finished developing a weight loss course,
which is why I was absent from YouTube for a while.
I was working literally 10 hour days
every single day tryin' to get this course done.
There's a lesson in the course on motivation,
and that's because behavior change is the hard part
and so I don't wanna just teach all the knowledge
that you need in order to get weight loss results,
I actually wanna help you figure out how to do it.
And so as I was researching for that motivation lesson
because I'm not a motivation coach,
I'm a weight loss coach, but I came across this Ted Talk
by someone named Scott Geller
talking about self-motivation and he starts off
with this concept that she's talkin' about,
or this Ed guy is talkin' about,
but takes it a couple steps further.
So he says that the key to being motivated
is to feel empowered, and you can't feel empowered
unless you can answer three questions.
The first question is, "Can you do it?"
Which is what relates to this whole idea of self doubt.
Do you actually believe that you can accomplish this?
Because if you don't actually believe
that you can accomplish this, you're not gonna feel empowered,
you're not gonna feel motivated,
and you're likely not going to be able to do it.
Then the second question is, "Will it work?"
Do you actually believe that your plan or strategy
to achieve that is going to bring about
the results you're looking for?
So if you are learning all about weight loss,
but in the back of your head you don't actually believe
that doing those things is gonna get you results,
maybe you've tried them before and they haven't worked.
If you have that self doubt, not about yourself,
but about the information about the steps
that you're gonna take, then you're not gonna feel empowered,
you're not gonna feel motivated,
you're not gonna be able to do it.
And then the third question is, "Is it worth it?"
Do you actually believe that the effort
that you will have to take to achieve this
is going to be worth that outcome?
And so this is why in my weight loss course
which, once it's fully out, I'll give you guys
some more information on it in case you're interested,
but that's the reason why in that course, and even in my content,
I firmly believe that your mindset and having a strong why,
like what is the reason why you wanna lose weight?
You have to have a deep connection to that,
there has to be something more
than just seeing a number on the scale,
otherwise, no, the effort to get there
is probably not gonna feel worth it to you
once you get into it and you realize
that it's not just gonna be a walk in the park.
Anyway, it was a super interesting Ted Talk,
I will link it below in case you wanna watch the whole thing.
- So he basically says that to build trust with yourself,
you need to keep the promises that you make to yourself.
So let's say I have a goal to get healthier
and to get into better shape,
and I am like, "Okay, I'm gonna go to the gym
five days this week and follow my healthy eating plan."
And then I don't stick to it, I'm breaking that promise to myself.
So when I wanna try again the next week,
I really don't trust myself because I haven't followed through
with the promise that I made to myself.
- Yes, absolutely yes to all of this,
this is something that I really struggle with
when it comes to my own fitness journey,
like myself, or my own weight loss,
or things like being the sole owner
of FrumpyFit and not having a boss
and having to convince myself to get all my work done.
I'm good at the now, but I really, really struggled
at the beginning because it was like,
"Layna, you have this to-do list
that you need to get done today,"
and then, who's holding me accountable?
Nobody except for myself
and I just didn't take myself seriously.
If I say, "Oh, if I don't get this done,
then this is gonna happen,"
who's gonna be there to enforce that?
Nobody but me, and I can just change my mind.
And then when it comes to my own life
like when I prepare for body building competitions
when I have a serious goal, I hire a coach
so that I don't have to worry about that.
So I am keeping promises to somebody else,
not to myself because I do really struggle with this.
And a strategy that I've heard to try to help with this
is to re-wire your brain in a way,
again, not like a brain expert, to believe in yourself
when you make a promise.
And so the was that you can do that
is by repeating the promise as you're doing the thing already.
So it's not like, let's take taking a shower for example.
If you struggle with getting yourself to take a shower,
I don't know, instead of saying, "I'm going to take a shower,"
and then waiting to do it later,
you would say, "I'm going to take a shower,"
literally as you're getting ready to get in the shower,
as you're stepping in the shower,
as you're taking a shower,
"I'm going to take a shower,"
so that way it's like you're just reinforcing
over and over again that I do the things
that I say that I'm gonna do.
I don't know how legit it is, but I kinda like it.
It's a little bit cheesy. I don't know.
What do you guys think?
- So when you keep doing this over and over
and over again, you actually just don't trust yourself
more and more and more.
So many of us just give up when it gets hard
or when we're lazy.
It's happened to all of us.
But what he actually says is that the best way
to build self confidence is to start with your body, your physical body.
He says once you've built that trust with yourself
to acheive your goal with your body
of getting healthier, getting into better shape,
you can then go on to achieve other goals.
- Something that I love about undergoing a weight loss transformaton
or any kind of physical fitness health related transformation,
is it's very empowering.
That's why I love transformation photos so much.
Even though I agree that transformations
don't show everything, that transformations can be problematic,
you can see my transformation photo video up here somewhere.
But what I think transformations show,
as long as it was done in a healthy way,
is somebody had a goal and they accomplished that goal.
And there's literally visual, physical evidence of that
which is really cool and really powerful.
So I see where he's coming from when he says this.
About it being like the catalyst, or the starting point,
to changing everything else about your life.
I totally agree that having fitness in my life
changed every other aspect of my life in a better way.
- So this is what I did, this is all that I changed.
I made a set workout plan to workout five days a week, and I stuck to it.
I also made a set eating plan for myself and stuck to it.
I had a set wake up time, which is five a.m.,
and a set bed time which is nine p.m.,
and I stuck to them.
I mean, sometimes I get into bed
five or ten minutes late, but it's close enough.
And I had set work times.
I would start work at six a.m., and end work at five p.m.,
and make sure that I had an hour for lunch
in the middle of my work day.
Basically, I just decided that if I set a goal for myself,
if there was something in my schedule,
it was not an option, it was a promise to myself, I had to do it.
Even something as simple as making my bed in the morning.
I had to do it if I said I was gonna do it.
- So after hearing her full plan
of everything that she wanted to do,
I do wanna flag that a mistake that I see,
and this isn't true for everybody,
but I just wanna kinda put this caveat in there
in case you're feeling like that sounds overwhelming.
You don't have to start with all of these big things, right?
You can start small.
Discipline, which is what's happening here,
which is why the 75 Hard Challenge is so popular
or why it was created.
I talk about that in my Hopescope reaction which I'll put up here.
Building discipline is something that you can do over time,
it's kinda like a muscle in the way
that it gets stronger the more you do it.
And so if you think that doing all of these things,
getting up at five a.m., I could never.
Going to the gym so many times per week,
following an eating plan, all the things that she said she's doing.
If that's overwhelming to you, you don't have to do that all at once.
You can implement them slowly
which is the strategy that I tend to do.
I can get into overanalysis paralysis
where I'm like, there's so many things to do,
what do I even do first?
I'm overwhelmed, and so I am a huge fan
of adding things in slowly.
Which I also talk about in my I Gained Weight
And How I Plan to Lose It video, which is will be up here somewhere.
In that video I talk about my own strategy
for how I plan to lose weight.
I don't wanna talk about it too much, you can go see it there.
So if you need to start with,
"I'm going to take a shower,"
or just going to bed at a certain time,
picking a small behavior like that
and then proving to yourself
that you can do, can build your self confidence
and build your discipline muscle,
and it'll make adding on other things easier.
- The sad and scary thing is that most of us
will follow through with the promises that we make
to other people all the time, or most of the time.
But when it comes to ourselves, we'll often break the promises.
- That's why I hire a body building coach
when I do competitions because it is,
no question, I'm gonna dedicate everything
in my soul to sticking to a plan
that somebody else creates for me,
but when I create it for myself it's like, "Meh."
- So what's changed? What's happened?
I'm fitting into my clothes again, which is really nice,
I've lost a bit of weight without even focusing on that,
I was actually only focused on following through
with my promises to myself, so I made sure
that I got my workouts done every day.
If I said I was gonna do my butt
and leg strength training workout that day, I did it.
I also made sure that I followed through
with my healthy eating plan, which means I ate vegetables
at least once a day, but I am for twice a day.
My goal is also to eat enough protein,
enough healthy fats, enough fiber, whole carbs.
If I said I was gonna spend the entire day
doing the boring, admin side of my business
that I don't really enjoy doing, I did it
because that was my promise to myself.
And if I said I was gonna spend the entire week
working on my ebook, I made sure that I was at my desk
and ready to work at six a.m. every day.
And writing a book is really difficult,
it's actually not easy at all, but I didn't let myself give up
when the writing got hard, or the admin got hard,
or the workouts got hard, I just did it
because I promised myself that I would.
- What I also really love about this
is that you're switching the focus from the outcome
which is weight loss, to the behaviors,
and this is really powerful, I also talked about this
in the Hopescope reaction video
and it's something that I teach in my course
where it's not that you don't need to have the outcome goals,
it's that you just also have the behavior goals.
So what are the behaviors that are gonna get you
to the outcome, and even if you're not seeing
the outcome show up, like if you're not seeing
the number on the scale go down,
as long as you're being consistent
with the behaviors that you know will get there eventually
and you're celebrating the fact that you're being consistent
and you're keeping the promises you've made to yourself
about what you're gonna do according to your plan,
that can be super motivating to say like, "Wow, I hit my workouts
every single day this week, I'm crushing it,"
versus like, "I did my whole plan but I didn't see the result
that I wanted so now I'm gonna quit."
That was a really great video,
I could see why it got almost three million views.
I'm so happy that it got that many views.
I hope that this, and I do believe that this video
was able to shift peoples mindsets
about how to approach their weight loss journey
which I think we need a little bit more of on the internet.
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