- When you were younger there's no way I would've thought
that you'd be doing ballet dancing one day.
- Why's that?
- Don't know, it's just boys don't do that.
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- [Interviewer] Do you get along with your father?
- Yep.
- [Interviewer] Is that true?
- Yeah, (laughs) we've had our moments,
but you know, that's pretty well true, yeah.
- We have a pretty good relationship I'd say.
Who would you talk to more, your mom or me?
- I don't think I'm allowed to answer that.
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- [Interviewer] So, in front of you
we have a set of questions.
- Okay.
- Alrighty, first question.
- Well actually, to be fair,
your mother did most of the raising.
The time that I had with you,
we usually only kicked the football around.
- [Interviewer] Did you talk to him about sex?
- Uh, no, no, not in those days.
- What would you prefer, to be the head
of the household or heart of the household?
- Well, that's interesting.
I'd rather be the heart.
- I'd rather heart of the household.
- I'd like to be the heart of the household.
- Do you?
- Yeah.
- Why's that?
- Because the head of the household's like,
stereotypical and it's like, the man
should be in charge all that.
- First reaction, I would've said
mum was the heart of the household.
[Interviewer] Did she seem more nurturing?
- Yeah.
- They would probably say that I'm
the heart and Carol's the head.
Do you think that's a fair response?
- Oh, I'd say the other way around.
- Oh, really?
- For sure, 100%!
- Should fathers and mothers share
parenting responsibilities evenly?
- Yeah.
- That's equal, the same.
- Yeah, very equal.
We would take both equally.
- I think they should, but I think at
different stages of children's lives,
those responsibilities might change.
- A father cannot breastfeed so.
- [Narrator] If you could breastfeed would you do it?
- If you could breastfeed would you do it?
- No
- Who changed my nappy more?
You or mum?
- Oh certainly your mother did that.
- Not a fan of doing nappies?
- Uh, no not a great fan.
- Do you feel like that's more of a role for mum?
- Well I guess there's a tendency for fellas to think that.
- How many times do you do the dishes in the last week?
- Not even once.
- Why?
- I just come from work, she already
makes sure the dishes are already clean.
- They don't let me do that thing actually.
- I think it's more because of the culture.
Growing up in India it always has been just go do them.
You go tell her don't worry about dishes,
I will take care of it.
You go rest.
- She will not agree.
Yeah, that I know, she will not agree.
- I think it's pretty fairly even.
- I would've said mom.
She did all the cooking.
- Yeah, well that's because she's
a great cook and she loves to cook.
- Did she?
- [Narrator] You can ask your dad the next question.
- Is it important for a man to be the breadwinner.
- Who makes more money, you or Jade?
- To answer you question, I do,
but it wouldn't take much for Jade
to be able to earn the same amount.
- I personally couldn't do that,
I wouldn't feel comfortable with that.
- She gets more money than I do.
How do you feel about that?
- You are okay with that?
- Yes, I'm totally okay with it.
I have no grudge about it.
- Would you be comfortable being
in a situation like that do you reckon?
- I don't think so.
- Ohh.
- It's a pride thing and it's stupid.
- And where does that come from?
That come from us?
- Yeah, I think so.
Both of you though.
- We're hearing a lot in the news about women
getting the same pay as men for doing the same job.
- Absolutely.
- Is that important?
- I think that's so important.
It's just people doing the same.
Just people working you know?
- [Narrator] Yeah, but if you wanna make
more money than your wife,
wouldn't you want her to get paid less for the same job?
- No, she can...
- At the moment she is making more.
- [Narrator] How is this experience for you guys?
- It was something we never talk about in general.
- Um, good.
- A good dialogue between you and I,
with even know we've learned something from each other.
- I know you a little bit better.
- As a result of this conversation?
- As a result of this conversation.
Like I knew it all, it's just nice to hear it.
And like see it.
- I feel in my head that there is no
equality differences or equity differences.
But do I openly show it?
- Okay.
- The next step is to how to openly show it.
Yeah.
- Thanks guys.
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