Intricate, convoluted, and at times, tortuous to some INFJs..
The life of being one of the rarest and most misunderstood personality types is not an
easy one.
While every type has their strengths and challenges, the life of an INFJ comes with unique trials
and tribulations that most people wouldn’t ever be able to handle..
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Number 1: Their contradicting nature
INFJs are confusing, and it doesn’t take long for the average onlooker to figure that
out.
In fact, rooted in their combination of intense ideas and open-mindedness, some of the INFJ’s
viewpoints and belief systems can come across as relatively contradicting in nature.
Some examples of this seemingly hypocritical nature is there all-or-nothing attitude towards
life, their craving for human connection being vs. their need for introversion, their longing
for vast life experiences vs. their habit of staying stuck inside their own heads, their
ability to come off as cold-hearted despite their extreme empathy, and the way they care
about their looks but despise superficiality.
However, regardless of the INFJs perplexed and contradictory nature, they do have a method
to their madness.
So, while some people find this complex personality type as an ‘odd-ball’ in their own way,
maybe experiencing a day in their reality would actually give some clarity to their
contradicting ideas.
Number 2: Being the outcast of society Through the primal and inherent need to fit
within our surroundings as humans, it’s fair to say that being born into the outcast
personality type is rather difficult to navigate.
The INFJ for example, knows firsthand the challenges and emotional battles that come
with living on the fringes of society.
In fact, this ‘lone wolf’ type usually doesn’t have a choice when it comes to taking
the road less traveled because they don’t feel comfortable conforming to the norms in
the first place.
However, despite it being a personal choice in some regards, most people would much rather
choose to remain on the beaten path of socializing, hierarchy, and obedience for the ease and
direction that it entails.
With that being said, the average person would certainly find difficulty when stepping into
the INFJ’s shoes, especially when experiencing the unspoken rejection and discomfort that
follows.
Number 3: The intensity behind their empathetic gifts
Most INFJs know what it’s like to give second chances..
Not to mention third, fourth, and fifth chances.
In fact, if there’s one weakness of this empathetic type it would be not knowing when
to set the necessary boundaries around their caring and hopeful nature towards other people’s
behavior.
However, for the INFJ themselves, as time goes on, it’s not so difficult to know when
they at least should be setting the boundary and decide not to.
If another person were to take on this INFJ reality, however, the need to provide their
support and the overwhelming desire to give others the benefit of the doubt could certainly
become overwhelming for the average person.
Mostly because the majority of empathy-requiring situations make the INFJ feel as if they have
no choice.
Besides their naturally big hearts, their secondary function, extroverted feeling, makes
it so that they can’t not take on the emotions of the opposing party, making parting ways
and putting up the walls around their empathetic gifts nearly impossible.
Which brings us to our next point.. Number 4: Feeling so deeply
Speaking of the INFJ’s extroverted feeling function, this particular function causes
the INFJ to not only wear their hearts on their sleeves, but also makes it difficult
to connect to their own emotions sometimes.
They can’t stand any sort of disharmony within their immediate connections and when
they can sense a slight disruption, they can become seriously overwhelmed.
This can be in regards to the connection itself or how their close friend, family member or
partner is feeling in the moment.
While most people don’t take on these minor inconveniences and changes in energy so passionately,
the INFJ takes it upon themselves to fix the situation.
Through their emotional counseling and reluctant need to get to the bottom of their sensed
disturbance, INFJs can end up feeling rather exhausted.
And while this is something that the INFJ has gotten used to over the course of their
childhood and adolescence, people with other personality types could easily spiral into
feelings of anxiousness or depression.
To feel so deeply is one of the INFJ’s greatest gifts and would serve to be quite the eye-opening
experience for others to experience, however, it can also become a significant obstacle,
even for the INFJ themselves.
Number 5: Thinking so deeply
If there’s one thing that dives deeper than the feelings and emotions INFJs absorb through
other people, it would be their profound, philosophical views on the world.
Giving this introspective type the aura of intensity and mystery, INFJs are continuously
asking themselves the self-reflective questions that others are too afraid to ask.
They’re constantly wondering who they really are and what their position in this world
is.
They question what worries them about the future, what their fear is holding them back
from, what matters most in their life, what can I do to better take care of my physical
body..
And the list goes on.
Aside from these types of questions that would certainly make the average person feel rather
uncomfortable to face, INFJs also ask the life questions that exist on a grander and
less personal scale.
Things like why we’re all here on this floating rock in the first place, whether or not emotions
are simply chemicals passing through the brain or something more, whether or not technology
is more harmful than helpful, and even the less-important ponderings such as whether
or not plants feel pain.
With this deep critical thinking habit, most people would go through an existential crisis
of sorts, unable to decipher where their beliefs lie.
Number 6: Their struggle to stay present
They say the ability to remain present is the key to happiness.
With past-focused thoughts being the root of depressive patterns and future-focused
thoughts being the trigger for anxiousness, it’s believed that intentional presence
in everyday life is where we feel the most fulfilled.
And while some personality types have an easier time remaining in the present moment, for
the thought-focused INFJ, this concept can feel almost impossible at times.
While they usually have a steady control over where their introverted intuitive imagination
takes them, it’s almost always thinking about either the past, or more often, the
future.
They can’t help but to use their present-moment time to either ponder on recent experiences
or to think of their upcoming goals, ideas and possibilities.
In fact, even when they are seemingly present within a situation, especially when meeting
new people in a social setting, the INFJ can easily be distracted by their deep observation
tendencies.
Instead of focusing on the topic of conversation within a social gathering, they can’t help
but to tune into every minuscule detail, including tone of the conversation, the way people talk,
their body language, and even the energy in the room, which would certainly be difficult
to keep up with for the average person.
And lastly..
Number 7: They’re never sure of themselves
Speaking of the INFJ’s difficulty with staying in the present moment, they also have a hard
time making clear and assured decisions.
Since this personality type can predict multiple future outcomes through their psychic-like
cognitive patterns, even the simplest of decisions can seem like a break-or-break scenario.
Every decision comes with multiple spin-off questions that can make the decision-making
process extremely overwhelming, even for the INFJ themselves.
For example, instead of the INFJ simply choosing an item off the menu that they’d enjoy,
they may instead stare at the menu while they question every associated repercussion and
benefit of what they’ll eat.
They may question whether or not they should get something that’s better for their health,
whether they should get something that is slightly larger, in case they won’t get
the time to eat in a while, or whether they should get something more snack-size so that
they have an appetite for later.
They may even question if they could make the same thing at home for less money, or
whether they should just get the same thing they always get, as a safe option.
The worst part of it all, is that when they finally decide and are enjoying their meal,
they’ll more than likely question whether or not they should’ve gotten something else.
Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today..
So, do you think other people could handle spending a day in your mind as an INFJ?
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