Emily: Hi guys, welcome back to my channel. In today's video, we're going to be reacting
to your assumptions about our marriage. So I've got Matt, you haven't been on the channel
for a little while, have you? .
Matt: Well, I've been busy.
Emily: So, I thought you might like to see him. And to be honest with you, I'm actually
working on some really meaty videos at the moment, and they're taking forever to edit.
So I needed a quick video to put out tonight, because I didn't want to leave you with nothing
to watch. And I saw Lucy Jessica Carter do a video like this, and I loved it. So I put
out on Instagram, "What are your assumptions?" And there are quite a few here, so we're just
going to go through them and answer them. The first one that came up loads was, we never
argue. That is quite true.
Matt: No, it's not.
Emily: Do you think?
Matt: No, we don't at all.
Emily: Not really.
Matt: We don't have time.
Emily: We normally have a disagreement and then just sulk. Then apologize to each other.
Matt: Yeah, Emily realizes she's wrong, or it's a certain time of the cycle.
Emily: Oh my God, stop it!
Matt: Or I realize--
Emily: I don't know what you're talking about.
Matt: --and bite my lip.
Emily: Another assumption is that you're a team. There was a lot of that.
Matt: Definitely.
Emily: We are definitely a team. I'd say very equal.
Matt: Anyone that's got children. Well, or don't have children that probably just lives
with someone else. So that's probably even harder when you haven't got children cause
you haven't got someone to blame it on. Yeah, we're definitely a team.
Emily: Yeah, no. And a few other people were like, you do all the housework. The assumption
was that I do all the housework, but I would definitely disagree with that because we're
completely equal. It's just that you don't film when you clean. I don't get that.
Matt: Why don't you clean without filming?
Emily: Why do you clean without a camera?
Matt: Cause I've got three followers and I don't really care.
Emily: No, but you love a bit of laundry.
Matt: Yeah, I'm just quite OCD so.
Emily: He's got a thing about- he loves laundry.
Matt: I've got a thing about Emily ruining everyone's clothes.
Emily: You love cooking as well, don't you? You really like doing the meals, and making
beds.
Matt: No, I just do it in the morning. Yeah.
Emily: Yeah, so he's very good. He's not like a lazy guy. Another assumption was though,
that I do all the kids admin and I think that is probably true.
Matt: That is pretty true.
Emily: But you do other life admin like mortgages.
Matt: I don't know why I've just fallen into [inaudible 00:02:18].
Emily: Boring finance.
Matt: But you get more excited about school trips, clubs.
Emily: Yeah like doing all the kids clubs, school dinners.
Matt: I think it's almost important that one person does that job though, because you know
what clubs they've got. I often take them to a lot of the stuff but, yeah. You're on
it. You've got your planner.
Emily: Or today was hero day at school and stuff.
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: So that is true.
Matt: I didn't realize.
Emily: Didn't know what to say. What, Spider-man? So another assumption which came up a lot,
which cracked me up. I'm going to rephrase just in case there's any young viewers. Is
that we spend a lot of time in the bedroom.
Matt: Whoa, hey... Cleaning it.
Emily: We've got three kids and Jackson sleeps in between us, so.
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: That's all I'm going to say about that.
Matt: Even Jackson's laughing.
Emily: Just like, "I've ruined your love life". Someone else said you love him more now than
ever, it radiates out of you. And I think that's true.
Matt: Yeah, she goes all giddy when she's around me.
Emily: You guys always make fun of my voice whenever Matt's in a video, but I think I
do just get all girly and stuff. Cause I like him, but I definitely love you more now then-
Matt: Last week.
Emily: -when we first got together. And there's something about seeing you with the kids.
Matt: There's something about being with someone for like 15 years and getting married to then,
and having three kids with them.
Emily: No but, you think it might get really dull, but you're such a good dad.
The next assumption is that I sleep on the left, and you sleep on the right.
Matt: What, if you're looking at the bed?
Emily: If you're in the bed, I'm on the left. But we basically sleep on these sides, don't
we? Like the way they're looking at us.
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: Yeah, so.
Matt: It's weird though, cause you go away, and you always end up on the same side of
the bed. You don't think about it. That's why we got married. We asked on the first
date, "what side of the bed do you like to sleep on?" .
Emily: Someone said that you're best friends.
Matt: Yeah.. our only friends.
Emily: You're like the only adult I speak to --
Matt: [inaudible 00:04:25]
Emily: --most days. That is true.
Matt: No, a little bit.
Emily: Why would you say [inaudible 00:04:29] ?
Matt: Cause it makes you sound weird.
Emily: I have no friends. No I have friends, just that we meet up like once a month.
Matt: Yeah, whereas we have to see each other every day.
Emily: Yeah.
Matt: No, we are best mates.
Emily: Aw, thanks coach.
Matt: It's all we've got left.
Emily: "You're in charge of organizing day trips, like holidays". I think I do day trips,
but when it comes to actually pressing buy on a holiday, it's you.
Matt: I control that.
Emily: You control that. Yeah that's your thing.
Matt: It's weird though.
Emily: Cause I just don't really care, I'm like "just tell me where to turn up".
Matt: So I think, obviously, having a holiday is the best part, but part of it as well is
so nice to book it. I don't know why but it's really exciting.
Emily: Yeah, you love that. I do sometimes research or something and you're like "no
that's wrong".
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: "I'll have a look".
Matt: I'd rather pick up the blame for someone else if something goes wrong.
Emily: No but I booked the holiday to Cypress didn't I? As a surprise. And then the two
week envelope came through the post and it was like you were annoyed. He doesn't like
surprises, really do you?
Matt: No, I like organized fun.
Emily: Oh, someone said that our wedding was expensive, and I just find that so funny cause
we had the cheapest wedding.
Matt: Not THE cheapest but a cheap wedding going by todays--
Emily: Not the cheapest but, yeah compared to other amazing weddings.
Matt: We didn't break mortgage. We didn't get a loan.
Emily: We didn't have any money and we didn't want to have loads of debt or anything so
I worked two jobs.
Matt: Probably one of the best decisions we ever made.
Emily: Yeah.
Matt: Cause then we could buy a house, a couple of years or... four years later.
Emily: Yeah, and luckily all of our guests gave us money and funded our honeymoon.
Matt: And we were fairly young, so people didn't really know what a good wedding was.
We were one of the firsts so they were like "oh free booze!" .
Emily: But I feel like it kind of made it. It was very.. it was in a hall. Your uncle
did the food.
Matt: It was the best time of my life.
Emily: It was very humble. No, but like everyone let loose and loved it.
The next assumption is that Matt is the silly one, but also the tougher parent.
Matt: True.
Emily: That is true. How'd you know? I really try to discipline them, but I do find it hard.
Someone's at the door.
Matt: Who could it be?
Emily: It's an ASOS delivery.
Matt: Oh, shock.
Emily: ASOS haul coming soon! The next assumption is that you struggle to find alone time together.
And I think that is true.
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: Because, obviously, all my family are in Canada. Your mom is great, your dad lives
in Spain. So, it's really all on Matt's mom. You know, she still works, your sister has
kids. It is really hard.
Matt: Yeah, but it is ...
Emily: And we quite enjoy.. I think that's why we've been so on it with the routines.
Matt: Yeah, and then when we do get time together we just talk about the kids, and miss them,
and are desperate to get home. So, could have worse problems. We're lucky.
Emily: Someone said, "Matt is not a complainer about helping with the kids or the house."
Matt: True that! Respect!
Emily: You're not a complainer?
Matt: No!
Emily: Just kidding. The next assumption is that neither of you
could do each others job for the day.
Matt: Hm... I'm sat right here.
Emily: That both of you are very busy. I think you..
Matt: No no, I can't talk to the camera on my own. Obviously I'm sat here with you, but
I think I underestimate-- well I don't now. I know exactly what you're doing, I know how
hard it is.
Emily: Aw.
Matt: And for anyone that thinks it's just a pretty girl talking to a camera--
Emily: Aw, thanks.
Matt: It's obviously way more than that, but that's how she makes it look. There's a lot
more going into it. This is the fun part, isn't it? This is the bit Emily loves the
most obviously. Making the content.
Emily: Yeah. I like coming up with the ideas and filming it, and editing it, but there
are always a lot of other stuff that actually comes with it.
Matt: Emily works hard.
Emily: Thanks coach. Yeah, actually you suggested I should do a behind the scenes video.
Matt: Yeah, so people can see what a day entails. Cause obviously now, I mean, your channels
grown. It's become a full time thing.
Emily: And now there's the planner and the jewelry, and admin and a manager. And Instagram.
Matt: There's a lot going on.
Emily: And IGTV.
Matt: And three kids.
Emily: And three kids.
Matt: [inaudible 00:08:50].
Emily: So let me know in the comments if you would be interested in seeing a behind the
scenes video, because I will happily film it for you, but I'm also aware that it might
be boring if you're not a YouTuber. I don't know, let me know what you think.
Matt: Anyway, you didn't answer the question.
Emily: And for me, I could definitely do. I actually used to help out on a Saturday
at Matt's shop when it first opened, and I loved it. I probably wasn't actually that
helpful but-- I used to like greet people in there and say hello.
Matt: Yeah, people like that.
Emily: Answer the phone, and obviously I couldn't do any of the treatments. Or.. anything else.
The next assumption is that Matt is the one who doesn't want a fourth child.
Matt: Why would you assume that? Why would you assume that Emily wants more children
and I don't? Why would you assume that she asks me every single day?
Emily: Anyway..
Matt: [inaudible 00:09:47] .
Emily: Moving on.
Matt: No, just to clarify. Emily would love another child, but I actually don't think
you do want another child.
Emily: We're going to get a dog.
Matt: I just don't think she'd have a child. I don't think she wants to let go of Jackson,
which I actually understand.
Emily: No, I love him.
Matt: If we have a fourth we're going to have the same. You're going to be like "oh I want
a fifth" and then before you know it we've got 20 kids and we're in the The Sun newspaper.
Emily: 20 kids and counting.
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: Well why can't we do that? The next assumption is, "you're a very nurturing
momma, you've had a hard time in the past, and you try your best for a healthy upbringing
of your family". Yes.
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: That's true.
Matt: Very true.
Emily: Sometimes I pat myself on the back that I married a nice person. Cause I think--
Matt: Oh, I wondered what she was doing. You all right there?
Emily: Obviously I don't actually pat myself on the back, but my sister as well. Obviously
we had terrible male role models and a lot of girls with daddy issues end up marrying
not great guys, and I definitely dated some bad ones in the past. But I ended up with
a good one! And so did my sister. My brother-in-law is the nicest guy. We've done well.
Matt: Yeah, and we probably... Well that's what they're getting at, people say I'm a
tougher parent. I think Emily is the softie.
Emily: Yeah.
Matt: Might not be anything to do with that, but I think it probably plays a part.
Emily: The next assumption is, "you both invest in your appearance".
Matt: Yeah.
Emily: And I think we do care about looking..
Matt: No, we respect-
Emily: Yeah, we respect ourselves in the way we look.
Matt: Respect ourselves in the way we look. I think there's a difference. We're not up
and out and at them.
Emily: We get up, we get ready every day even though I work from home I would always...
Matt: Make yourself presentable, but I think that is quite important in life, I would say.
Emily: I think it would be a bit of a turn off if you just didn't make any effort. Matt's
so routine as well. He's got- he does his beard trimming on a Monday.
Matt: No!
Emily: And on Tuesday-- Always every Monday night, right? So, on Tuesday we put the kids
to bed. I came downstairs, rented a movie. It was that Yesterday Beatles one. Didn't
love it to be honest. Anyway, I texted Matt "Where are you? We've got a movie starting
in a minute". And you were like "I'm doing my beard". And I was like "But it's Tuesday..."
What's going on?
Matt: I know, it freaked me out. My beard was so much longer.
Emily: Is that a rubbish story? But yeah, you've seen our house tours and stuff. We
have loads of products, lots of skin care.
Matt: It's 2019, and our kids are going to grow up not knowing any different. That you
do use products and look after yourself.
Emily: They're going to have amazing skin.
Matt: I think even our generation, the ones that do make an effort. When they're 80, no
offense to the older generations, we're not going to look... Do you know what I mean?
We're going to look better for our age.
Emily: Well if you think how much sun cream we put on the kids and stuff. That I just
protecting them.
Matt: SPF tops and suits as well.
Emily: All right, the next one is "I'm pretty sure that Matt loves that you're a modern
1950's wife. Hugs from France".
Matt: Modern in that...
Emily: I feel like more people are homemaking now. It was my grandma's generation were really
into homemaking and stuff. My mom's generation really into being that powerful woman with
a career. And now it's almost coming back a bit that.. I don't know. You can have it
all a bit more. I don't know. Obviously you see that I make videos on cleaning and meals
and things, because that is my life at the moment. But I do obviously have a career,
and I do work a lot. When the kids are in bed I'm working. I've always been quite "mumsy"
and I've always wanted to have kids.
Matt: Well, being a parent, you know what I mean. Naturally wanting to create a nice
home and be around your children.
Emily: Someone said, "Matt is more laid back and you are super hyper". I don't know.
Matt: Yeah. You are quite hyper, but you've laid back with it as well actually. She doesn't
worry about the things you shouldn't worry about, and that's what I like about Emily.
And I'll worry about the things you probably shouldn't worry about.
Emily: Yeah, we're a good balance for sure.
Matt: But it works.
Emily: Because, sometimes I'm a bit of a dreamer as well, and sometimes I'm like "let's do
this!". You're the one that has to rein it back in and go "Em.. come back".
The next assumption is that "Matt can literally do no wrong in your eyes, haha". And as much
as I do love him, it is conditional. That's the thing about kids is unconditional love.
They could do anything and it wouldn't change anything--
Matt: Am I your child?
Emily: --but you, obviously there are a few things you could do that would make me be
like "See ya".
Matt: Oh, right sorry.
Emily: But you would never do it.
Matt: I thought you were saying I'm doing stuff that was like-
Emily: No! I'm just saying like she's saying that "Matt could literally do no wrong", but
of course, you know.
Matt: I'm not doing wrong though.
Emily: No! I'm just saying.
Matt: Sucker...
Emily: I think that's probably quite a long video now, do you? And we've got the school
run. But, yeah! Thank you so much for all your lovely assumptions. I was really expecting
a few...
Matt: You assume nice things.
Emily: You assume very nice things and it is all true. We're very loved up I think,
aren't we?
Matt: Yes we are.
Emily: Oh yeah, no one said about "who wears the trousers" thing. That normally comes up.
Matt: Neither of us at the moment. I've just got a little skirt on. It's Friday.
Emily: But, anyway. Thank you so much for watching. Anything else you want to say?
Matt: She'll see you in her next one.
Emily: I'll see you in the next one.
Matt: Please like and subscribe.
Emily: Oh, yay! See you are good at this.
Matt: Yeah, I've watched a couple.
Emily: Bye!
Matt: See you guys.
Emily: So, where would we write it?
Matt: Come across?
Emily: Yeah. Okay ready?
Matt: Take a pic!