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good morning so what if you could change
anything you wanted to achieve in your
life it sounds a bit impossible today
I'm here to tell you that it's
absolutely possible we know people in
the world who are achieving this every
day in all the spheres of life so why
can't we achieve the same
so if I had a magic lamp and I passed it
around to everyone in the audience today
I can bet you there would be at least
one thing you would want to change in
your life and over a period of time as
I've asked different people this
question the thing that they want to
change in their life can vary there's a
huge variety of things that they would
want to change it can be personal so
anything from changing your appearance
to how old you are you know who you are
might whatever it can be financial a lot
of people actually say oh I want a
million dollars billion dollars trillion
dollars I want a certain type of car a
certain type of house it can be
professional I chose the wrong career I
want to be something else I want to do
better
I want that promotion I want to be the
boss it can be with about your love life
need to break up with the current
relationship need to be with somebody
else or what I call better world kind of
wishes so world peace save a species
save the environment there's always
something we want to change and since I
was very young in fact I was in school
I've been asking this question how some
people in this world can actually be
change makers to the extent that they
can change the geography of the world
they can leave an impact on people who
can live centuries after they even died
but they're also human and so are we so
what is it that they do that they can do
all this there's there's always
something that we want to change but how
so how do we do that
what can we learn and I'm the kind of
person that I always feel like there is
some kind of code I always in my life I
notice how people behave and how things
happen and it's because I always
believed that in everything you can see
a pattern and if you can notice a
pattern of what happens maybe in history
in politics in the rise and fall of
Nations in current source
children's political trends there is
always a pattern I believe and if you
can notice that pattern then you can use
it to your advantage right so when we
come to humans I started studying a lot
of things I thought I would find this
pattern in any kind of discipline so I
studied biology I studied art history I
studied English literature I studied
psychology and international relations
and privately this was all my school and
university and my degrees but I
privately also studied all the major
world religions because I thought
religion is supposed to make us a better
person so maybe if I could distill all
the teachings from all the religions I
could again have that code of success
so I kept studying and looking for this
code until one day I came across this
book it's called the treatment of
multiple personality disorder by dr.
Brown and is published by the American
psychiatry press and basically it if you
know what multiple personality disorder
is it's now called disassociative
identity disorder and it basically means
that there is a host personality within
the same body and that is the host
because that is normally the personality
that comes seeking for help because
they're losing memory they have they
turn up in places where they don't know
how they got there
they turn up with objects that they
possess which they don't know how they
got them and so on so forth and they
they come with all the symptoms of of
the disease but then they host other
personalities within the same body and
what I learned by reading that book was
if one personality in the same body is
allergic to something the other
personality may not be the same body if
one personality can be colorblind or be
short-sighted another personality can
have full 20/20 vision just think about
this is the same set of eyes what
changed
the mind and the personality to the
extent that there was a personality that
had diabetes even epilepsy and other
personalities did not have those
illnesses
certain personalities can have different
ages and different genders and that's
not the personality thinking that is
five years old or that personality is
thirty-five years old within the same
person physical changes happen in the
body according to what age that
personality believes they are so to give
you an example
if you were a doctor bran actually gives
this case study in the book if you give
5 mg diazepam a drug with you know
researched you know what what's gonna
happen in the body once you administer
this drug 5 mg of diazepam given to a
personality when the five-year-old child
is active in the same body the
five-year-old child is active that drug
will react on the body as if it were
given to a five-year-old
that body and that personality will get
extremely sedated very relaxed and
almost asleep
and these are scientific studies while
that same dose of that drug was in the
body in the same body and the
personality switched
the same drug on the same body would
react completely differently and the 35
year old exhibited symptoms of anxiety
confusion racing thoughts and
palpitations now the reason why I'm
telling you all of this is literally to
tell you literally how much control you
have whether you know it or not over
your own body over illnesses
Pathology's psychological or physical
even over your appearance when the
personalities change the same body can
appear taller hold themselves
differently when the facial structure
can change it sounds like a weird sci-fi
movie I'm talking about but you can
research about all of this for yourself
and verify it so
this relevant scientists are actually
studying that if the mind can do this
unconsciously to protect yourself from
some horrible trauma that's happened in
that person's past because that's where
normally disassociative identity
disorder has been found to stem from but
if the mind is capable of doing that how
can we harness that power to actually
improve lives for people like the people
sitting in this audience but before we
actually get there I was thinking about
this and I thought at least what we can
start doing is control our emotions
because basically according to different
theories from the first century Chinese
writings those are some of the oldest
records we have or what the human race
was doing all the way to modern theory
there is this theory that our emotions
and there are some basic emotions which
literally the reason why they've been
defined as the basic emotions is because
they have been found in babies in the
womb they haven't been learnt their
intrinsic to human nature and as we grow
yes we can these emotions evolve they
become more complicated we learn how to
react to different things around us but
all the way to modern day theory
currently the basic emotions are joy
fear trust surprise sadness disgust
anger and anticipation so they have been
arranged in like a color wheel and just
like I don't know if you know about the
theory of like how colors work so there
are some primary colors and they can be
mixed together in various shades to form
a huge spectrum of colors of the entire
world that we know similarly there's a
few basic emotions that we are born with
and then those emotions can mix with
each other to form a huge variety of
complicated emotions that we can feel
but the basic are those the ones that I
told you
so here I've put them a bit separately
in a left-hand column and a right-hand
column so if you look at these emotions
what has happened is we've been trained
to think that perhaps joy trust surprise
I mean given that it's not a bad
surprise or anticipation can actually be
positive things right we want there to
be joy and Trust in our lives however
we've been trained to think that anger
fear sadness we don't want them in our
life we want to stay away from them we
don't want to be angry when were angry
on when we're sad we try to suppress it
ignore it avoid it do anything to make
it go away what I want to tell you today
is that there are no good or bad
emotions because all of these emotions
equally make up who you are as a person
they make up your personality but they
also control even your unconscious and
subconscious mind they control the
decisions you make about your life every
single moment of every single day and if
you can just learn how to control these
basic emotions you will be able to
completely change your life and how do
you do that so I have a very simple
three-step system so next time you're
feeling one of the emotions that you've
been trained to kind of get rid of like
anger or fear instead just acknowledge
it
don't think to yourself I have to stop
feeling this because if there was no
fear in this world we'd all do pretty
stupid things
if there was no anger in this world
there are actually a lot of social
things and functions that would stop
happening all you have to do is
acknowledge their emotion and then
convert it converted into what a
positive energy if you think about it
think about somebody who you really
admire somebody you look up to whether
it's a famous entrepreneur whether it's
a famous politician somebody who changed
the map of the earth think about where
they started chances are they didn't
start from happiness chances are they
wanted to move towards happiness but
they actually started from a place of
fear or disgust the difference between
us and them was that they were able to
control that emotion acknowledge that
emotion convert that emotion into a
positive energy that all not only
changed their life but the lives of
everyone around them and possibly the
life for generations of people ahead it
is that simple and instead of giving you
a larger-than-life example today I'm
going to give you the example of my
mother so I was eight years old
and my father passed away I had two
younger sisters aged six and two and my
fourth sister was born 20 days after my
father passed away so her mother was
Fulton she had never worked a day in her
life she didn't even know how to write a
check and the entire family thought this
family nothing's gonna happen of them
what are they gonna do they're gonna
live on family support for the rest of
their lives they're not gonna have a
very good life and people said these
things to my mother and to even me as
the eldest as an 8 year old and it
wasn't that my mother wasn't sad she
loved and still does my father a lot to
this day she misses him still every
single day but within three years of his
death she had moved us to Ireland so
that her children could have a better
opportunity in life and that's where all
my education is from so that she didn't
have to put up with a patriarchal
culture that wouldn't let her live in
peace with four girls as a single woman
and within five years of my father's
death she was buying and selling houses
she was dealing in property and that's
how she managed to raise four girls very
successfully without wanting anything
without working a day in her life
actually I never saw my mom get up in
the morning and go to the office she was
just always there whenever we needed her
and when I grew up and realized this
miracle that she had pulled off I asked
her how did you do it you had no skills
you didn't even know what to do and she
literally just said I knew what I wanted
to achieve but I didn't let my
heartbreak get in the way she used she
still uses that daily sadness every
morning she says she wakes up and she
realizes my father isn't there she uses
that sadness to make sure she wakes up
that day and does something good for
somebody in the world and this is not
only something you can implement in your
life I realized that I can make my
five-year-old daughter implement this in
her life as well because to be honest I
didn't know how to react when the parent
mother of the child who was bullying her
she was five years old
and the principal called both parents
and when I asked her what she was going
to do about it she that I am NOT going
to do anything about it because you need
to tell your daughter to grow up this is
life you either bully or you get bullied
and I was in shock I was just staring at
her and I had no there was a huge mix of
emotions inside me instead of screaming
at her I left that meeting I came home
and I asked my five-year-old daughter
how it made her feel when that bully did
something bad to her and she said it
makes me cry
and I said but you do have realized that
that's more about the bully and how they
feel about themselves but not you it's
nothing to do with you
and what do you think about the other
children who that bully targets as well
and her eyes can open and she said I
don't know and I said now that you know
what it feels like why don't you just
keep an eye out for other kids who are
being targeted and make them your friend
and she at five years of age managed to
change the situation around just by
acknowledging her emotion and converting
it into a positive energy she not only
made more friends she is now friends
with that girl who was bullying it took
a year and a lot of heartbreak and a lot
of breakdowns but ultimately it happened
so what I'm trying to tell you today is
that my mother was able to turn around
her financial her personal her physical
reality just by making sure she
controlled her emotions not her emotions
controlling her and if she can do it if
my five-year-old can do it I'm sure
everyone in this audience can just stop
next time you're in the middle of it
what you call negative emotion just
acknowledge that you're feeling it and
think about how you can convert it to a
positive energy that's all I'm asking
you to do and trust me soon you'll be
able to find that you are able to
literally achieve whatever you wanted in
life thank you
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