For me, it - it has been the - to be that guy that does what people say can't be done.
You know and I think it started with trying to please my mother and trying to
please my grandmother and they always wanted higher for me. They always wanted
more for me and it got to the point that I wanted to be something. I wanted to be
somebody and it made me choose certain roles, it made me turn down certain roles
there is more than an image that I want to project. I want to be the person that
is the first person there and the last person to leave. That's what I want to be
because I think that the the road to success is through commitment and
through the strength to drive through that commitment when it gets hard and it
is going to get hard and you're going to want to quit sometimes but it'll be
colored by who you are and more who you want to be. I definitely found that
wanting to be an actor stems from wanting to be somebody.
My mom wanted me be a truck driver because that would mean I would make
$24,000 a year if I went to Truck Masters and I'll be twice what my father
made and she thought that would happen but something inside of me said I don't want
to drive a truck. There's something else that matters more to me and I decided I was
not going to go for money instead of passion and the rewards been pretty
amazingly better than being a truck drive. It's not bad being a truck driver it's just
not what I was after and I I look back and one of the things that helped me was
my original teacher Jim Rohn, who was a personal development speaker I went to hear when
I was 17 he said so the first time I heard him he said 'you know it's really
simple if you want life to change, you got to change. If you want life to be
better you've got to get better. It's the only way it happens and luck will show up for
people and it will leave them but if you're constantly improving who you are and
what you give, game over. See if you can find some ways to
multiply your value to the market and he said your income will immediately
start to change. See if you go through life holding back and most of us do, most
of us if we ask ourselves have we done all we can do? Most of us will have to
answer, no we haven't. We've been holding back. We have ideas that we don't act on
things we want to do, we're afraid to take chances, we go through life trying to
seek security and not coming outside of our comfort zone and we take most of our
stuff with us to the grave. Up until then I was hoping that the economy would
change, I was hoping that my company would change, I was hoping that my paycheck
would change, I was hoping that circumstances outside would change and here's what I
found out. It isn't going to change. So then my question was if it isn't going
to change, how will my life ever change and here's what my teacher taught me.
When you change, when you change, everything will change for you and I'm saying
that the fact that you're still here that you're still breathing
you've got some more work and you owe it to yourself. You owe it to yourself so
when you get up in the morning that you can look yourself in the face and say
hey I'm living my life on my terms.
Change your question, change your life. When it comes to planning your life I want to
get you to learn to ask three questions now. The question you want to ask yourself is
what do I want? What's my outcome? What's my result? The
word R.P.M. The first one is to get you focused on the target. The target is
not the activity, the activity can change. Its what the - what's the result I'm after.
If you know exactly what it is you really want, what you desire, what you're
really after, clarity is power. The more clear you are in specifically what you want
the faster your brain can get you there but if you're generally saying things
like what do I want, 'well you know I want more money', 'fine, here's a dollar get out
of here.' Whether you get the outcome or not
whether you get that result will be based firstly of clarity and the second
thing is whether you get enough emotional juice to keep going after it
when things don't work out. Did you achieve the outcome? Yeah, when you're
that general, you might be - you think you're not getting your goal, you are. The way
you language your goal, the way you think about it, you're receiving it. You know
you know, I, you know I want to feel a bit better. I want to lose some weight
fine, you lost the pound you're done. When you get better, everything will get
better for you and that's where I picked up that phrase: for
things to change, you've got to change. You don't have to change the marketplace
you don't have to change the marketing plan, you don't have to change the
economy, you don't have to change countries, you don't have to change
circumstances out there, all you've got to do is look within and see if you can
change yourself for the better and as you change, things will start to change
for you. What's the result I'm after, what's the ultimate result, what do I want out of
this week, out of this thing, out of my business, out of my life, for my body.
Don't concern yourself too much with how you're going to achieve your goal
leave that completely to a Power greater than yourself. All you have to do is know
where you're going the answers will come to you of their own accord. Here's my
best advice: welcome all experiences, you never know which one is going to turn
everything on. Are there going to be some moments when you want to give up? Yes.
Will there be some moments when it's going to seem like it's impossible, the
pain that you're experiencing, the disappointment that you're experiencing
that you're going to say it's not worth it? Yes, that's - that's going to be right
there for you. It's going to be in your face telling you to go back. When we
think about changing our lives usually that means changing your behaviors or
retraining yourself, getting new habits, going out and trying them out and
changing your life. This is about changing your thoughts and then your
life will change. Change your thoughts change your life. Benjamin Disraeli said
nothing can resist a human will that will stake its existence on its purpose.
Shortly put, I'll do it or die. Know that all you have to do is hold your goal
before you. Everything else will take care of itself and I can tell you that
it doesn't make any difference what age you are, whether you're a teenager
watching this or whether you're someone in your 60s, 70s, 80s or anywhere along
the way, you can make that change. Every thought, every feeling, every emotion you
experience in this lifetime is shaped by beliefs and values. All of your life is
controlled by decisions you make. Decisions about what to believe, decisions
about what to feel, decisions about what to do and most of us are on automatic pilot
letting the world trigger us instead of taking back control of our life and when
you do that, just think of it this way. Anything you want to change, you want to
change your body, you want to change your career, your business, your relationship
what to do requires the right strategy. If you want to lose weight and keep it off
you can't obviously just throw your pendulum and go on some silly diet. You
have to know the things that're going to give you lasting results, so we teach those
strategies but some people even know what to do but they don't do it and why
are we able to get people to do it, to follow through because 80% of success in
anything my friends, is psychology and 20% is mechanics. What that means is
there's how to do stuff and there's why to do stuff. How to do it, is not that
complex and if you really learn from somebody who knows those refined
distinctions they can - they can show you those tipping points. Those things you
can do where in the least amount of time, you get the biggest result. As you look
at yourself as a business operator, as you look at yourself as an entrepreneur
as you look at yourself as a person that want to make a mark with your life, that
want to leave a legacy, you've got to be hungry. It's better to be prepared for an
opportunity and not have one, than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.
You want to find people who master that because success leaves clues and that's
the same thing I'm suggesting to you. Whatever area that you want to go in, if
it's finances and business, insurance industry, whatever area that you're
interested in, find the people who are mastering that and follow their example.
Watch your relationships. They are nourishing relationships and there are toxic
relationships. Nourishing relationships, they bring the best out of you, they inspire
you. Toxic relationships, they drain you. People that are hungry, are willing to do
the things that the others won't do, in order to have the things tomorrow others
won't have. People that are hungry believe always strive to get on top in
life because it's the bottom that's overcrowded. People that are hungry know
if you want to be successful, you must be willing to do the things today others
won't do, in order to have the things tomorrow others won't
have. If you do what is easy, your life will be hard. Complain, point at your
circumstances, give up your power, blame the government, blame the economy. f you
do what is easy, your life will be hard but if you do what is hard, your life
will be easy. It's hard to make a radical change in your
behavior. It's hard to take ownership, it's hard to
swallow the bitter pill that wherever you find yourself, at some point in time
you made an appointment to be there.
It's hard. It's hard. If you
do what is easy, your life will be hard. If you do what is hard, your life will be easy.