How do you get yourself to become more disciplined?
Now I think that's a great question because, most people fail
or when we fail to cross the finish line with our desired outcomes,
the reason why is because we lack discipline.
So how do you cure yourself from a lack of discipline?
Well, the answer is simple and it's straightforward.
Listen to me, care, more than normal
and more than necessary about your results,
that's it.
Learn to care, start developing inside of you,
this adamant feeling, this desire to care more than normal
and more than necessary about the results that you want.
You see, most people don't cross the finish line with
their goals and their dreams, not because they don't have the ability,
or the resources or the relationships, more often than not it's because at some point
they allow themselves not to care more than normal and more than necessary.
Just think about an example in your own life when you decided to
take action on some desired outcome, but ultimately you gave up on it,
you'll notice, if you're honest that at some point along the way
you allowed yourself off the hook because you gave yourself permission
to no longer care.
You see, having the conviction about your outcome,
about your result is so powerful and it is in acted when you allow yourself
to care about that result
more than normal and more than necessary.
You see, when we allow ourselves to care more than normal and more than necessary,
that something becomes a priority in our life.
In his book, “The Power of Habit”, Charles Duhigg talks about
the science of small wins, and in a nutshell, he just says,
“in order to be successful at creating a new habit,
you must allow yourself to experience small consecutive wins that
support the behaviors you want”.
I call this, “winner's momentum”.
When you decide to care more than normal and more than necessary about your desired
outcome, even if you don't even believe in that moment
that you're able to accomplish it, just by caring, having the conviction
about the small little steps along the way creates a winners momentum that
ultimately catapults you across the finish line,
and before you know it, your winners momentum
is looked upon by other people as discipline.
Guys, here, let me give you a definition, your new working definition for discipline
is this, discipline is nothing more
than demonstrating your decision on a daily basis.
There are two things that I want to break down very quickly in this definition.
Number one, it's decision, and number two,
demonstrative action.
When you decide to care more than normal and more than necessary
about a desired outcome, you have made a clear and simple decision,
you've drawn a line in the sand and said, “this is the benchmark
by which my attitude and my actions will be measured”.
You've made it clear decision, and not only that,
you've also quickly followed up and supported that decision
on a daily basis with demonstrative action.
And see, when you combine these two things together,
making a clear decision about your desired outcome,
getting very clear and simple in your mind, the result that you want,
and then supporting that desire or that decision with demonstrative action,
meaning you line up your attitude, and your actions and your beliefs and your
behaviors to support that decision,
all of a sudden you create a momentum that gives you small consecutive wins
that ultimately will have you cross the finish line with your
desired outcomes, and other people as they look at your life,
guess what they'll say?
They'll say that you are a very disciplined person.
And remember, discipline is nothing more than demonstrating
a decision on a daily basis, and if you want the cure for a lack of discipline,
allow yourself to care more than normal and more than necessary
about the results in your life.