WHAT KIND OF BOUNDARIES COULD WE SET?
WELL, LET'S JUST DO SOME PRACTICAL THINGS.
IF YOU'RE STRESSED, THEN LEARN WHAT THE CAUSE IS AND MAKE
SOME CHANGES.
IF YOU'RE DOING TOO MUCH OF SOMETHING, THEN CUT
SOMETHING OUT.
I'VE GOT A GOOD IDEA, IF YOU'RE NOT GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP--HOW
MANY YOU DON'T GET ENOUGH SLEEP?
I DON'T KNOW HOW MANY MILES YOU CAME TO HEAR ME SAY THIS
BUT HERE IT COMES.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: GO TO BED EARLIER.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: DON'T STAY UP AT NIGHT DOING STUPID STUFF.
DAVE AND I STILL LAUGH, AND THIS HAS BEEN PROBABLY 35 YEARS AGO,
MAYBE 40 YEARS AGO.
WE STILL LAUGH, IT WAS DUMB THEN, BUT IT'S FUNNY WHEN
WE LOOK BACK.
WE STAYED UP ONE NIGHT TILL LIKE 1 O'CLOCK IN THE MORNING
WATCHING THIS MOVIE ABOUT A BABY DINOSAUR NAMED BABY
AND HONESTLY, IT LOOKED LIKE A CARDBOARD-CUTOUT DINOSAUR AND WE
LOST A NIGHT'S SLEEP OVER THAT THING.
AND YOU CAN LAUGH AT ME ALL YOU WANT TO, BUT HOW MANY OF YOU DO
EQUALLY DUMB THINGS?
GO TO BED.
"DON'T YOU HAVE ANYTHING TO TELL ME OTHER THAN THAT?"
HAVE BEDTIME BOUNDARIES.
I HAVE BOUNDARIES ON MY BEDTIME AND YOU DON'T ALL CERTAINLY HAVE
TO DO, OR NEED TO DO, OR YOU'RE NOT EVEN GONNA WANT TO DO WHAT I
DO, BUT IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW I'M STILL DOING WHAT I'M DOING
AT THE SPEED IN WHICH I'M DOING IT WITH THE ENERGY THAT WHICH
I'M DOING IT WITH AT 72 YEARS OF AGE,
LET ME TELL YOU--
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: THAT I HAVE A BEDTIME.
WHEN I'M HOME, I HEAD BACK TO MY BEDROOM AT 7 P.M.
NOW, I DON'T GO TO SLEEP THEN, BUT SOMETHING THAT I NEED FOR ME
IS I NEED 2, PREFERABLY 3 HOURS, 3 HOURS IS BETTER, IN
THE EVENING WHERE I AM JUST LEFT ALONE BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE MUCH
TIME IN MY LIFE WHEN I'M LEFT ALONE SO THAT IS LIKE MY SPACE.
AND MY HUSBAND CAN TELL YOU, I HAVE GOT BOUNDARIES AROUND
MY EVENING TIMES.
IT'S LIKE, YOU BETTER HAVE SOMETHING REALLY IMPORTANT
IF YOU WANT ME TO GO OUT IN THE EVENING.
I DON'T GO TO PARTIES IN THE EVENING.
I DON'T CARE TO EAT OUT IN THE EVENING.
I DO WHAT I DO FROM 4:30 IN THE MORNING
UNTIL ABOUT 6 O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING.
AFTER THAT, I'M DONE.
MY SON TEASES ME.
HE SAYS, "YOU BETTER GET HOME, MOM, THE STREET LIGHTS ARE
COMING ON."
I'M LIKE, THAT'S RIGHT.
[AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
JOYCE: I DON'T LIKE TO EAT AT 7, 8, 9 O'CLOCK AT NIGHT AND I'M
NOT GOING TO DO IT.
THAT'S NOT WHAT I LIKE.
IT DOESN'T WORK WELL FOR ME.
I DON'T SLEEP GOOD AND I'M NOT GONNA DO IT.
THAT'S CALLED A BOUNDARY.
AMEN?
NOW, YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO WHAT I DO.
MATTER OF FACT, YOU SHOULDN'T DO WHAT I DO, BUT YOU NEED TO KNOW
WHAT YOU SHOULD DO.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD DO AND YOU NEED TO
SET A BOUNDARY AND DO THAT.
AND LET ME TELL YA SOMETHING, WHEN YOU SET A BOUNDARY,
EVERYBODY ELSE IS NOT ALWAYS GONNA LIKE IT AND THEY MAY EVEN
GET JUDGMENTAL, AND CRITICAL, AND THINK YOU'RE SILLY.
BUT LET ME TELL YA SOMETHING, IF YOU DON'T TAKE CARE OF YOU,
NOBODY ELSE IS PROBABLY GOING TO DO IT.
[AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
JOYCE: SO, I HAVE A JOB TO FINISH FOR GOD AND BELIEVE IT OR
NOT, HAVING A REGULAR BEDTIME FOR ME IS PART OF ME BEING ABLE
TO FINISH THAT JOB.
NOW, SOME OF YOU MAY--I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU THOUGHT YOU WERE
COMING TO HEAR.
YOU WANTED SOME DEEP, THEOLOGICAL THING, BUT LET ME
TELL YA SOMETHING, WHEN ELIJAH WAS FALLING APART, HE GOT A NAP
AND A GOOD MEAL SO DON'T TELL ME THIS IS NOT BIBLE.
IT IS BIBLE.