So here's why I'm so happy for Paris, Britney and Lindsay Lohan.
I saw a meme the other day.
It had a picture of Lindsay
Lohan, Britney Spears and Paris Hilton in a car.
I feel like they were on their way from like Hyde nightclub,
which is a place that I used to go to quite a lot.
It was a moment in time when they took that picture
that was really specific for me
struggling with being in Hollywood
and being in the limelight and sort of understanding
what my worth was and what that meant to live in California
and like to be fair, even though I wasn't in that picture.
I feel like those girls
were just as lost as me.
The internet was kind of really just starting having that whole TMZ
and like all of those online publications,
that really fueled all of that gossip fast.
Really fast. Oh my gosh, they went out this Friday.
Look at these pictures on Saturday like, Oh my gosh, let's
follow them, follow them, follow them.
And then like, obviously, Britney was struggling.
It was really an interesting time because I believe
she was really partying before things got even more complicated.
And then she had the conservatorship, right?
And now she's free.
But Paris, she is married.
She's actually married to a guy I went to college with.
How crazy is that?
His name is Carter Reum. Decent guy.
You know, they seem super in love.
From what I know about Carter, he was a very charismatic person.
When I say
he is charismatic, what I mean to say is that he was meant to be famous.
Carter was meant to be famous.
And Paris is just naturally
this light and this public person that just shines.
And she pretty much invented reality TV, right?
Because of her. We had the Simple Life.
And because of her, we had Kim Kardashian, and that all happened.
I've been to Paris’ parties.
I remember going to a Halloween party.
It was the best party I've ever been to and she is gracious
and she is kind, and she is not who you would have thought she was.
And she's certainly not the person that you think in that picture,
the way that they were displaying the picture
and the way that they were sort of selling this image of the (bleep) show.
And the three of them were basically a cautionary tale for all young women.
Basically, nobody's
parents wanted you to be a Britney, a Lindsay or a Paris.
However, there was quite a lot of pressure
for you to be a Britney, a Paris or a Lindsay at that time.
You had to kind of walk the line
of being super edgy and you were really skinny.
Those girls were skinny and Britney's itty bitty,
but she was considered like not as skinny as them.
And so when we see the picture, when I say
that it is about a time, a very specific time.
It was before phones were really like
attached to our faces and we could like get off of them.
Right. So nightlife used to be really fun.
You used to be able to go get a bottle or go to someone's table
and you would be there all night long and you would dance
and you would hear certain kinds of music.
And the deejays were great.
And it was just like L.A.
was on fire.
So there was two really amazing ladies that were pretty much the
the elite club promoters.
It was Pantera Sarah and Grace. Grace
was really sweet to me
because I have always felt like a huge nerd, OK?
I've always felt like the theater kid and my husband even like teases me
about it, that I'm still a nerd. Anyway.
So like, I remember, like going with a friend or something,
it might have even been my brother, to be honest,
because when I was in New York,
I was like kind of plugged in to the nightlife there.
Once I got to Hollywood and wanting to go to the the
the literally like the nightclubs
of the girls were at, they’re like in the same room as me.
And Grace and Pantera Sarah
They like,
I don't know if they recognize me or not, but like they were super, super
nice to me and they took me in and they let me come into all the clubs
and it was a blast.
It was a moment in time, kind of like
when you watch Great Gatsby and it was like opulent
and people were dancing, and I'm sure they still have stuff like this.
But the phones weren't a thing.
So when you entered into one of these clubs, it's as if,
like it was like lotus eaters, like the time would go by so fast.
And then there was after parties and then you'd go to the Chateau
Marmont and then, you know, nights could get crazy or you would get,
you know , people be like, Oh, you got to go to that party.
In the hills and then you're like, what's the address?
And then there's no (bleep) parking on the hill.
Ridiculous. Anyway, I know nightlife in L.A.
and I know what was going on in that vehicle with those three girls
and they were having a blast.
three totally different women with three totally different upbringings.
You know, Paris
is obviously an heiress, Britney's you know, going through stuff.
She had kids
at the time of that picture being taken grew up in the deep south,
and Lilo was from Strung Island with two very specific parents.
It was that moment in time
where unfortunately people were really rooting
for them to go down the drain, and I'm not OK with that.
I mean, I was just like, Oh, wow,
definitely drugs done by these women that evening.
But like, I wasn't rooting for them to do drugs.
I wasn't rooting for them to be bad.
I was sort of stunned.
I think, like a lot of people kind of were stunned at certain celebrities
going down rabbit holes of negativity and spiraling.
And so I was kind of concurrently spiraling in my own way
because I kind of thought I needed to go that route.
I kind of felt like I needed to break out
and I need to go to the clubs
and I needed to go to the parties and I needed to be seen.
I remember feeling (bleep) because after I would leave
bars, there would be paparazzi and sometimes
they would like take pictures of me, which was totally cool.
I would be worried.
Oh, like, are those pictures going to show up?
Like, It's just so dumb.
You know, it's like it's tricky enough to be in your twenties and trying
to keep your name out there and be an actress and all that stuff.
It's a whole nother thing when you're like, I want that
attention, because remember, Instagram and stuff like that didn't exist.
So like, you didn't really have a way of putting your name out there
unless it was for bad reasons.
And what I find interesting is that bad was good back then.
So like when we see those pictures of them,
they were flirting with disaster, but they were looking hot doing it.
So people were like, Oh yeah, let's keep pushing them into the trades
and keeping their names out there.
And it did keep their names out there.
I mean, they did stay famous,
but what it did to their mental health was horrible, horrible things.
Flash forward to now.
Where are these three ladies that the aughts
were rallying and sort of jabbing and jarring
and wanting them to be bad and wanting them to be so naughty.
I would say,
and it was putting so many schillings in so many people's pockets
just to see these girls do horrible things to themselves
and not know their self-worth and stuff like that.
Well, they're amazing, aren't they?
Britney is free.
She does have love in her life, and she seems right now like,
really happy.
Paris is living, as she says online.
It's pretty awesome to see she's doing things in DC for youth
so that they can be protected against these horrible
rehab facilities that are abusing kids.
I think that's pretty cool.
And she had a documentary
that really showed us a whole different side of her
who we thought she was the girl in the car, the (bleep) show.
She's not.
And it's amazing that she can have that renaissance for herself.
I am all for it.
And lastly, we got Lilo. I'd say, of all my time.
I have never seen somebody other than like Bella Thorne right now
that people have been rooting for her to be naughty her whole life.
Oh, she's the vixen, the redhead.
She's so naughty.
And you know,
I used to hang out with people that hung out with her
from Long Island, actually, and she’s tough.
She's a tough, tough cookie.
I met her at a nightclub and she was tough to me.
I saw her at the Chateau Marmont one time and she said something crazy.
And you know what? It's all good.
We've all had our struggles and we've all said rude (bleep).
She obviously, like, left the states and she's
always had her struggles, right?
And like seeing that go down right,
like her in and out of rehabs and in and out of jail.
And like all that crazy stuff, do we remember that like that was real.
That like really happened to this woman,
this grown woman who like runs a nightclub,
which obviously makes sense for her because that's her happy place
and she can thrive in that environment in like Greece.
And like, she had a show about it. She marketed it.
She knew what her brand was.
And now she's back in the salon, getting her hair dyed
a perfect shade of red, peachy faced and doing a Christmas movie.
She's acting as a star
in a glossy, beautiful picture where she can really be talented.
She is talented.
Paris is smart and classy.
Britney is an icon
just because they were wild in their youth and they were kind of trying
to figure their stuff out
and they weren't really getting much support.
They found support within each other.
The best thing that we can do is root for people to progress
and to grow and to live their best lives.
And I'm happy to say that
we take three of the most hopeless cases of people.
In the arts, people that were written off joked about
so many stones were thrown at them and they were actually the strongest
of all of us.
And here they are, still fighting, coming out on top.
No matter who abuse them and judge them
and made money off of them and exploited them,
and now they have found their voices, I'm so happy that we're here.
I'm happy that there are a lot of women
that are coming out and rebranding themselves from the 2000s.
I consider myself one of those people,
and I'm really happy to go on this journey with you.
Thanks for listening.
It was a really pivotal moment in my life
because I was going out a lot and I was drinking and I was partying.
So it's really interesting to see that journey that sort of took place.
And somehow they found each other.
I can't imagine that it was just overnight
because it had been years that Carter had lived in Hollywood, L.A.
and I don't know if they crossed paths or what.