- In this video, I'm gonna show you step by step
exactly what to do if somebody went no contact on you.
This is important time right now,
what you do next will powerfully
affect the outcome that you get,
and that's why I'm making this video.
Now when it comes to no contact,
the first thing to understand is what has happened.
Let's look at the energy dynamics
of what has actually happened here.
Somebody, maybe you were in either a relationship with them
or you were growing closer to them
or maybe you hoped that eventually there'd be a relationship
or at least some form of intimacy,
and what happened is somebody withdrew their energy
and is asking for space
and they are not reaching out to you,
they are not contacting you.
You maybe have texted them,
maybe you've called them, they're not answering,
maybe you've reached out to their family or their friends
or you've tried going to some place that they hang out a lot
hoping to accidentally run into them.
The thing that has happened energetically
when somebody goes no contact is they are asking for space.
They're actually maybe even demanding space.
So it's important to first off, look at this
because what most people do is they do the opposite of this.
Somebody is asking for space,
somebody is asking to separate their energy
so that they can,
a lot of times it's to separate their energy
so that they can breathe too.
Because what happens is
when we are in relationship with somebody else
or we are around somebody a lot,
our energy is intermingling with this other person.
And especially this can happen
in like a, in avoidant attachment styles
where things become too intimate
and then there's a desire for space.
And what happens is energies are intermingled
and then they say, "Well, I want my own energy."
And sometimes what happens
is when they then start to try to individuate,
the other person may lean in even more,
may ask even more questions
or want and maybe cling even more tightly.
And when they cling even more tightly,
it creates an energy of neediness, of neediness.
And neediness
is one of the most repelling energies that exist.
Neediness is when somebody needs something from you
in order to get their own needs met.
So the important part of understanding this no contact
whole energy dynamic
is understanding that if they are asking for space,
the best thing you could do is to try to change their mind.
No, I'm just joking, (chuckles)
don't change their mind, give them space.
Actually give them what they are asking for,
which sounds counterintuitive because the thing is
when there's a needy energy,
there's a belief there that says,
"Well, maybe if I cling closer, maybe if I try harder,
maybe this person just doesn't see my value,
I can actually prove it to them."
And then there's like a fighting to get their validation,
their approval or something from them.
Now the thing to understand about this
more than anything else
is that the best thing that you could actually do
is to really give them space.
Now when you give them space, you are not giving them space
because then they're gonna be attracted to you again,
which ironically enough, a lot of times does happen.
But I don't want to,
I'm afraid to say that because then people are like,
okay, I'm gonna give this whole space thing
because then it's gonna manipulate the situation
to get my needs met.
So people are like,
"Well, how long do I give them space for?
so that they come back?"
And it's like, no, that's not the focus.
The focus is on actually pulling your energy back.
When you pull your energy back, what ends up happening
is you create the magnetic energy within your own body.
You energetically pull your energy back
and you stop focusing on them.
'Cause here's the thing, energetically what happens
is when you're around somebody else,
you begin to intermingle energy fields together.
Here's an example right here.
I made this video not that long ago, and I'll just use this.
You have an energy field that goes around you, around them,
and then an energy field that goes around each other.
That's like the container of the relationship.
Once the relationship may end or this person may say,
"I want space", then what happens is this person
sometimes will continue to project energy at this person.
And even though you're not physically around this person,
even though you're maybe not even talking to this person,
not texting them, what ends up happening,
you're just still projecting energy at them.
And energetically, they can feel that,
it feels like intrusive.
And it's something that's kind of metaphysical,
does sound more esoteric, but it is rooted
in understanding that we are all connected.
And how you feel about you is projected out
and other people pick up on this.
And I had this happen recently actually
with somebody that I know
and they were going through something in their life
and it seemed like as they were going through something,
they were feeling a lot of resistance within their field.
Things were popping off
with many other people in this person's life.
And it was, I think energetically
just because there was a lot of stuff happening,
people were picking up on this person's energy
and then also having things
to be brought up with this person.
It was very interesting.
And the opposite works too.
There's people that everything is going well,
I used to see this when I sold women's shoes.
If somebody was having an amazing day,
they were in a very positive state, having fun,
making money, like selling shoes and stuff,
they would just get lucky after lucky after lucky
in the right place at the right time,
the right place at the right time,
the right place at the right time.
And there's no logical understanding of why that is,
but it's just a reflection of energy.
So when we talk about the no contact rule
and this is a video that I made recently,
when we talk about it,
one of the things you wanna do though
I'll kind of just use some of of this,
is you want to actually go no contact
where you're not actually, so they went no contact,
you're not going no contact on them to get them back
and for them to come around,
you're going no contact on them
because it's actually the best thing
for you is to bring your energy back to you,
to bring the energy back inside of your own body.
And to understand that as you do,
you create a gravity within yourself.
I've seen this happen in my life so many times
and so many times I get DMs from people
that have watched my videos
on topics like this on no contact,
and it works like clockwork.
Bring your energy back into your body
which is a very powerful technique that we use for this
called the frame technique,
where you put the awareness in your hands and your feet
and you actually bring this person to mind
and you feel the separation between you and this person.
Even right now, as you listen to me do this,
like imagine that person and imagine
and feel the space in between you and this person.
They may not be around you right now of course,
but feel this space between you and them.
Feel the energy inside of your feet, in your hands.
And as you imagine that space between you and them
and you can even call back your energy,
literally, I call back my power
and my energy back to me now, say it three times.
"I call all my power and energy back to me now.
I call all my power and energy back to me now."
There's free will here,
we unconsciously project our energy at people
when we're thinking of them and we want things from them.
Bring it back to you.
And understand
that the more you bring the energy back into your body
and honestly creating your own vision for your life,
sometimes what we do
is we become the cameo in other people's movie
instead of being the star of our own movie.
There's this whole like trend on TikTok and everything,
it's called like main character energy.
And there's like this little kid that's walking around
like celebrating her birthday inside
like some classroom and everyone's like chanting her name,
main character energy.
What happens a lot of times with this no contact dynamic
is people become the cameo in someone else's movie,
they want them to come around, they're not coming around,
there's resistance there.
So instead what you wanna do
is you want to bring your energy back.
You wanna focus on your own life, focus on your own friends,
focus on your own family,
are you doing what you love for a living?
Are you enjoying your life?
The energy, if you wanna attract somebody
that's a one-on-one reflection to like the true you,
you must be the true you.
If you wanna attract somebody that has a clear
and like a clear energy field,
you must have a clear energy field.
If you wanna attract someone
that has a regulated nervous system,
you must have a regulated nervous system.
And I know right now
you're like thinking about the other person maybe,
the no contact person that with no contact,
but understand that when you change your energy,
you create gravity within yourself.
If they're meant to come back, maybe they do,
and maybe then you have a choice,
do I wanna keep re entertaining these old patterns?
Because a lot of times, the thing that we're fighting for,
this no contact dynamic
is we're fighting for some form of trauma bond.
We're fighting for some form of abandonment
that we felt as a kid
and we're trying to get them to come around
because if they would just come around,
then we'd feel whole and complete.
We're trying to prove ourselves to somebody else,
it's like we're fighting for our own self worthiness.
And one of the most powerful things
that you can actually do is to bring your energy back.
Now, one other thing
I wanna really emphasize here is social media.
I would recommend, highly recommend that what you do
is that you mute them or block them on social media,
depending on the dynamic that you wanna do.
Muting means you're not gonna see their profile,
their photos or anything, and stop checking
because every time you check,
you are energetically literally sending them
a form of energy that they can feel.
And what happens is as you're sending them energy,
they feel it,
but you're doing it also because it's for your own healing.
It's for yourself.
Realize you may have had
an amazing connection with this person,
realize that there are also
7 billion people out there in the world.
Realize also that you are an awesome person.
You're amazing, you really are.
And all you have to do
is start bringing the awareness back to you
instead of focusing on other.
As you bring it back to you,
you will create more magnetic energy within yourself.
Now another thing that you wanna focus on too
is not trying to fix or explain yourself to this person.
Sometimes what we do is we get value out of trying to fix,
we assume something else is wrong, we assume,
I've seen people comment on my videos on things like this,
but like I'm without mine and they're not,
and by the way,
this voice that I use is not making fun of people,
I use this voice for myself sometimes
when I'm talking about myself, just so you know.
But like Aaron, "I don't get it,
like this person was in a relationship with me
and then they left and they don't know that,
but they're my twin (indistinct) half of my soul,
we've met in the (indistinct)
and we've been around for lots of years
and they just don't know this.
So I'm gonna explain it to them."
And I'm like, "No, that's so heavy.
You're gonna explain to them this huge crazy story
that they may or may not be tuned into
or may or may not be true."
You wanna pull your energy back and ground it
and not give so much pressure,
so much importance to the dynamic
and understand that when you're trying to fix someone else,
a lot of times it's trying to fix mom or dad
because if you could just fix them,
then they would see your value.
They would see that you're worthy,
they would appreciate you in a new way.
And one of the things that really helped me,
the thing that helped me attract love, get back to, like,
pretty much everything was I realized that in the past
when I would have trouble getting over somebody,
I would think it was this person.
And in actuality there was a deeper core there
that went back to mom and dad.
A deeper core there,
the wound wasn't as surfaced as it looked, it was deeper,
there was a feeling of rejection
of not being chosen as a kid.
So then when somebody would go no contact on me
or somebody would
not wanna be in a relationship with me anymore,
I feel like there's something wrong with me
and I would fight to prove it to them,
maybe I could fix them, maybe I could help them,
maybe I could show them that I am worthy,
no one else would go at the lengths that I would go to,
to like be in this relationship.
And guess what?
I'd end up like digging myself a deeper hole
and reaffirming this belief that says
there's something wrong with me, a level of shame.
When things really changed in my life
and I started to emanate main character energy,
I started to be safe in my own frame,
I started to have an open heart,
it had to do with letting go of shame,
letting go of the belief
that I'm broken or something wrong with me.
When I let that belief go, by realizing that it wasn't,
the way that I let that go,
I realized that it wasn't my fault
that mom and dad divorced,
it wasn't my fault that I was treated
a certain way as a kid,
it wasn't my fault, meaning it's not cause I wasn't worthy.
It was just people were playing out different patterns,
that really helped me heal.
And also forgiving.
I was able to forgive my ex stepmom, my past self, my dad,
other people in my life.
They're doing the best they can
with the level of consciousness they were at.
And that helped me heal too,
that helped release the energy outta my field
because energy is in our field,
if we're holding onto it, we hold onto resentment,
we'll then probably resent the person that we're dating.
You know, if we don't forgive
and we have this belief that people try to control me,
this person will probably play out that pattern.
So what you really wanna focus on
is bringing the energy back to yourself.
And as you bring it back to yourself,
you'll notice that
your life begins to change in very powerful ways.
You wanna notice that you can really go no contact
with them as well, not because it's gonna get them back,
but because it's actually what's best for your energy,
and then you're gonna become
like the more main character of your own life,
not the cameo in this person's movie anymore.
It will completely transform the energy dynamic
and allow you to become more magnetic than ever before.
Now, if you haven't seen it yet,
I have something called the Magnetic Activation Process.
It's called the MAP.
It is the step-by-step process of transforming your life
and unleashing magnetic energy from the inside out
for helping you become the star of your own movie
and really create your dream life.
If you haven't checked that out yet, it's completely free,
there's a 45 minute training video and a PDF
that shows you exactly what you do.
Go to aarondowdy.com/map, m-a-p.
And if you wanna know the No Contact Manifesto step by step
exactly what to do to really do this in a most powerful way,
then watch this video right here.
In this video, I'm gonna show you step by step
how to apply the No Contact Manifesto.
I'm gonna show you what to do, what not to do,
how to actually use this in a proper way
and how this will completely transform your.