- Hello!
So I want to talk to you guys today about a topic that
I've wanted to talk to you about for a while,
and that's getting out of the comfort zone.
So you might be asking "but Matt, what's the comfort zone?"
Well I will tell you, sucka.
The comfort zone is anything in life that is safe
and familiar to you.
So if you go to the same job every single day, day in,
day out, that's part of being in the comfort zone.
If you don't often go out and talk to new people
and you always stick with the same group of people,
that's in your comfort zone, and it's anything that
you're used to that you're afraid to change.
But that's why it's called the comfort zone,
because there's no risk involved.
You're comfortable staying there.
There's nothing that scares you about it
and it's natural for people to feel that way,
to avoid fear.
But the comfort zone is not a healthy thing
and the reason for that is because all the things
that make you grow as a person is outside of
that comfort zone.
And without leaving that zone, life gets really boring.
So that's the purpose of this video.
I want to tell you guys why it's so important to branch out
and try new things and grow as a person and the ways
that I learned to do that and leave the comfort zone
in my own life.
One of the biggest obstacles in my life that I had
to get over was a lack of confidence, and that goes
for talking to girls and making new friends, and just
talking to new people in general.
And the way that I got over that was not being afraid
to make a fool out of myself.
(growls)
Like that!
Most of the things that we do in our lives are dictated by
what we think other people are going to think of us,
so it prevents us from branching out
and trying new things.
Gentlemen, how many times have you saw a really hot girl
and been like, "I wanna go talk to her, she got
"some nice boobies."
But you don't do it, why?
Because you're afraid you're going to get rejected,
which is based off of what you think she's going
to think of you.
She gonna think I'm ugly.
She's going to think I'm weird, heh heh.
What I want to tell you is don't worry about any of that
and just dive in and do it.
And you know what, maybe you will make a fool
out of yourself, but think about this--
how many times have you been in a room full of people
and you met that one person that was just so interesting
and magnetic that you just couldn't stop talking to them
and you just wanted to learn everything about them?
Well guess what, that's that person that doesn't care
if other people think they're a fool, because they're just
living their life and being who they are.
And let's be honest, the most boring people are
the safe people, the people that are always worried
about what you're going to think about what I'm doing
and oh, should I say that, I don't know, I don't know!
It's really hard to hold a conversation with somebody
that's always worried about what you think of them
and the things that they're saying, because oftentimes,
they never say anything interesting because all
the interesting stuff is the stuff that's gonna make
them look like a fool.
You see where I'm going with this?
The people that aren't afraid to make fools out
of themselves are always the most memorable people
that you come across in life.
So I'm gonna challenge you to be one of those people
like I'm about to do--hahahaaa!
See, you're going to remember that.
Why the hell did he do that?
He's weird, I dunno.
The second thing is something that my mom taught me,
which is do something that scares you every single day.
Now fear is an important biological function.
It's what's allowed us to survive as a species,
because you know, okay, that guy has a knife,
don't walk towards that guy, or the stove is hot,
don't put your hand on the stove.
Those are the fears that are useful in life,
but the problem is that we often allow ourselves to get
controlled by all kinds of fear, even the fear of
the smaller things in life.
The advice that I have is to do the what I've done in
my life, which is to stand back and actually look at
your fears, actually write them down and physically
look at the words of the things you're afraid of and think,
really, how scary is that?
How much can that really hurt me?
And if the answer is "not much" then chances are that's
a small fear that you've given way too much power to
in your life.
One of my biggest fears is heights, and the way that I
got over that was one, I went on a roller coaster,
and two, I went on a thing called "Drop Zone", which is
something that raises you hundred and hundreds of feet
in the air and then just free-falls you to the ground.
And it was definitely one of the most terrifying experiences
of my life, but after that I felt like I conquered my fear,
and even though, to this day, that fear's still kind of
always present, I'm not as fearful of it as I once was,
and I will never again allow it to stop me from pursuing
an activity that involves heights.
And after doing those things, I remember thinking,
"man, that really wasn't as scary as I thought it was
"going to be."
And that's kind of what I'm trying to get at here,
is that, I promise you if you try to conquer your fears
and do the things that scare you, you will find that they
are not nearly as scary as you made them out to be
in your own head.
The next thing is make risk your best friend.
If you never take risks in life, and just always stay at
the same stuff, and never branch out and try new things,
then you're never gonna grow as a person.
And believe me when I say that all the interesting stuff
starts with some risk, and that risk is outside of your
comfort zone, so identify your comfort zone,
and step out that bitch, because I promise you
it will pay off.
The way to know if you're taking enough risks in life is
to stand back and look at your life, and say,
"is my life boring?"
This is an exercise that I do in my own life
on a regular basis as sort of a check to see if I'm
taking enough risk in life.
And if my answer to that first question was,
"yeah, my life is boring as hell", I specifically go out
and take a risk at something, whether it's trying
something new or investing in something, or putting up
a goofy video on YouTube and seeing if people will
laugh at me or not, hee hee!
And the final thing that I've learned in my own life
to break out of the comfort zone is to embrace the unknown.
Think about the things that excite you the most in life.
Why do kids get so excited at Christmas time?
Because they don't know what Santa brought them.
It could be a lump of coal, or it could be a pony!
Another great example is starting a brand new relationship
for the first time with someone.
There's that sense of excitement that is just so unique
to that because you don't know much at all about
the person and there's so much that lays ahead.
Are you gonna learn that they're the coolest person
in the world, or are you gonna learn that they're
an axe murderer and they have three heads in their freezer?
It's all so exciting!
All of us, at some point or another, get to this point
in our lives where we're just sort of like,
I'm not really looking forward to the day anymore.
There's nothing exciting about it.
I know that I've been there, and if you've been there,
then the problem is that you're way too familiar with
all of the stuff in your life, and you need to purposely
go out and seek things that are unknown to you
so you can learn about them.
And sometimes people, like friends, are going to come to you
and say, "hey, let's try this crazy new thing next weekend
"that we've never done before."
And the old you might've been like, "oh I don't know, that's
"not in my comfort zone, I don't know."
But the new you should embrace the unknown
and try it, because I can't tell you how many times
in my life, I've tried something that I thought,
"oh god, I'm not familiar with that, I might make a fool
"of myself, I'm afraid of it, I don't wanna do it."
And I did it and it ended up being so incredibly fun
and in some instances became a thing that I ended
up absolutely loving.
So those are the tips that I have for you to break
out of your comfort zone, based on the experiences
of my own life.
I hope that you guys enjoyed this video
and I hope that you got something out of it,
and more than anything I wish you exciting lives
and I hope that you guys get out there and try
something new and just really, truly, learn to get
out of your comfort zone, because I promise you,
once you do, it pays dividends,
and you're gonna love it.
And that's all for this video, guys, and I will
see you next time.
Peace!
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