Hey there, welcome back to the channel.
Today we're talking about wings.
No, not those wings.
Come on, man.
It's like I'm getting mad at people
who are putting images on the screen.
It's just me.
There's no one else here.
If that didn't turn you away,
what are wings in the Enneagram of Personality?
If you've ever seen someone who's like,
I'm a seven w eight, or a nine w one.
What the heck does that mean?
Well actually, that w stands for wing,
nine wing one, four wing three.
What?
Alright, so we're gonna get into
the question of what exactly a wing is,
how does it affect your personality type
and why does it matter?
Why do we even need to know?
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Alright, so there are a lot
of different theories of the Enneagram.
The more people that you start to listen to,
the more you realize that everyone
has something slightly different going on,
but everyone talks about wings in one way or another.
And if you look at the Enneagram shape, it's on a circle.
The types aren't like distinct from each other.
They're part of a singular continuum.
So the types on either side of your type
are the ones that you're most connected to.
And those are your wings.
Of course, there are more than nine different types
of people in the world.
So many Enneagram teachers use the wing distinction,
as a way of showing that your type is on a spectrum.
So if you are, for instance,
a six you could have a stronger wing seven,
which might make you a bit more extroverted and easygoing,
or you might have a bit more of a wing five,
which means that you'd be a lot more introverted,
a lot more analytical, you're still a six,
but there are different shades of six.
And that goes for every type,
with whatever wing is more developed.
So that's why you see a lot of people who say,
"I'm a four wing three."
"I'm a one wing nine."
See, the one, the one in the nine,
they're next to each other.
That's where it gets a little tricky.
For those of you who say,
"I'm a four wing eight," or whatever.
I'm sorry to tell you, that is technically not correct.
There are things with tritypes,
which I'll get into in another video,
but wings is different.
Wings are only the types right next to your type.
You can't forget, though, that you have two wings.
You don't just stop at the one,
the one that's more prominent.
You have two and that's very important.
The other thing is the wing that is more prominent
doesn't necessarily mean it's very well developed either.
Part of self-development, using the Enneagram,
is to look at your wings and to see
what are the positive aspects
of both of those types around you?
And how can you incorporate that into your own life?
In a way it's like, how can I spread my wings
and soar above the clouds?
Careful, Icarus.
So this shows you that the types
aren't just arbitrarily numbered,
but they're there intentionally.
There is a reason why the nine
is next to the eight and the one.
Let's look at that as an example, in particular.
The peacemaker, they can have trouble in life
because they want to avoid conflict.
They don't wanna assert themselves.
They don't wanna assert their opinions.
And they can also kind of float through life a bit.
They have trouble going forward with a goal,
really getting started, getting stuff done.
And the reason is because they're just
trying to keep the peace, they're trying to do
what will make everyone else happy,
which, in the end, can make them appear
as though they're a bit aimless,
but it's because they're trying
to bend around everyone else.
A nine's wings are eight and one.
So the eight is the challenger.
And when a nine develops their eight wing,
they can learn to assert themselves.
The eight is not afraid to get into arguments.
They don't care about conflict, they rush right into it.
So, a nine can learn a lot by developing their eight wing
and can get a lot further along in life.
The other wing for the nine is the one. the reformer,
a very structured, very by the book,
very much let's get stuff done, please.
And so, the nine will benefit a lot
by developing those traits in their one wing.
A lot of us, when to get into typology,
we just go crazy, over the top,
wanting to learn about just our type.
We want to figure out what's our type,
let me learn about that,
I don't care about the others, whatever.
But, the thing is in the Enneagram,
you have to learn about the types around you
because your wings, especially, are going to help you grow.
Some great books to read or listen to on Audible
about the Enneagram are "The Road Back to You"
and "Personality Types", two great books that I've read.
"Personality Types" is a bit more advanced,
"Road Back to You" is easy to get through,
those are ones you gotta read.
Of course, as I said, those books are both on Audible.
You can get one for free,
if you haven't gotten your trial yet, audibletrial.com/FJ.
I have live streams on Sunday evenings,
usually around five o'clock U.S. East Coast time,
you can pop in there, ask me a question
about the Enneagram, if you have one.
If you want to make sure that your question
gets in before the others,
I now have a link, where you can submit questions
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That link is right here, on the on the screen,
that you're looking at, but there are a limited number
of slots, so don't sleep on it.
Once again, if you want to learn all the basics
of the nine Enneagram types, check out my video up here.
And if you want to see a funny Enneagram
comedy sketch video, check it out right here, man.
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