Planned, anticipated, and unexpected moments happen to all of us.
In this episode, I'm going to address the question.
What are moments that matter?
When do they occus?
Get ready, I want to give you insights into some things that may be you've never really
understood or thought about deeply before.
So, my name is Doug Andrew and frankly, most people have connected with me through more
than 48 years.
By coming to a lot of my educational events or reading my books.
Because they're curious about financial strategies that I teach.
How to optimize assets, minimize taxes, and so forth?
But this channel is called 3-dimensional wealth because I focus on all 3 dimensions of what
I call authentic wealth.
The financial dimensions is just one of them.
It's really like a three-legged tool, the other two legs are foundational assets and
intellectual assets.
Foundational would be your relationships, family, your beliefs, your values, your heritage,
your talents, unique abilities, and so forth.
Whereas the intellectual dimension is the education, the wisdom, and knowledge, and
your experiences, and your reputation, your methods, systems, traditions, alliance, ideas,
and skills.
Now, in this episode, I'm going to address something that I got a huge insight, epiphany,
aha from one of my dear friend, a coach, Dr.Robert Cooper.
He is a neuroscientist and has authored many books and one day, we have a discussion about
moments that matter, and I've got a ton of epiphanies.
So, what are moments that matter and when do they occur?
I'm gonna use this to help you understand this concept.
Every day there are moments that really matter.
Now, some days there might be 100-200 of these moments.
Sometimes they're just a few seconds long.
Maybe other days if you think about it.
You think, "Well, no, there might have been a dozen or maybe 25", it doesn't make any
difference.
These are moments that matter that occurs on a regular basis for all of us.
So, when we talk about this, Dr. Cooper taught me to move away toward embracing moments that
matter.
Because most moments that we experience on a daily basis go unsensed and I wanna move
from unsensed to the sensed, toward that.
They go unseen and you wanna go to seen.
They go unseized moments you want to be able to seized them.
So, we wanna move away from unsensed, unseen, unseized to the sensed, seen, and seized in
this mental process.
So, you don't miss these moments that matter.
So, the next concept is to understand what are the three basic types of moments that
matter.
What is a key moment and when do they occur?
Well, throughout a person's normal day, we have those that are sort of planned.
So, you have planned moments, appointments, you're gonna get a haircut, your hair done.
You're gonna go physical therapist.
You're going to go to the office, work, meet with clients, meet with patience if you're
a doctor or a dentist.
So, these are planned.
Then you have anticipated that these were maybe you have a people that you know are
gonna come in.
Because maybe you have the opportunity where people can pop in or ask you questions or
you're teaching an educational webinar or whatever.
And so, these anticipated moments where people are gonna ask this question or that question
or whatever.
So, you're mentally prepared, you anticipate certain moments or when you're going to leave,
and maybe you have a habit of kissing your spouse goodbye or when you come home greeting
them or having dinner at this time with your spouse or having family prayer, whatever.
These are sort of anticipated moments that matter.
But here is the third one and these are unexpected.
You didn't see them coming.
These are accidents.
This is when you get a phone call and your spouse says, "Donnie fell, he's gonna have
stitches.
Can you drop whatever you're doing and rush him down to the emergency room, the school
is waiting."
These are just unexpected moments.
Maybe you have a fender bender and so, while you're waiting for the police to arrive on
the freeway, you're late for your appointment or whatever.
So, there are planned, there's anticipated but then the unexpected moment you didn't
see them coming.
So, how do you deal with these moments?
It makes all the difference in the world.
So, what Dr. Cooper said is you know when you have your planned appointments, family,
prayer, scriptures study, whatever.
Those seemed to go along pretty good and they're smooth.
The anticipated is when like I said, you know you have certain routines or habits or what
have you.
Those are pretty easy to deal with, a little bit of easier than the unexpected but maybe
not as easy as the planned.
See, the unexpected that you did not see coming.
These are the crisis, these are where you can choose to be upset but you're obligated
to be, and so forth.
So, it's how you handle these moments that make all the difference in the world.
The brain Dr. Cooper taught me actually keeps score whether you think it is cognizant or
not on how you handle these key moments and so, he taught me that you can get negatively
entangled pressure-packed moments and you just automatically react and sometimes you
get angry or you snap back at your title that's interrupting you while you're on the computer
or on the phone call or whatever and so, that neural negativity becomes sort of the resistance,
the resentment, becomes general.
That's just the way I am.
You don't interrupt me.
Well, pretty soon kid's will stop even coming to you if that's the general weight that you
react or do you use moments as catalysts to become better than ever and even more engaged
and quickly and constructively engaged in moments that matter and that neural positivity
and learning and growth becomes general and this is where you want toward.
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So, let's talk about these moments that matter in a little bit different light.
I mentioned you can be pro-active or you can reactive.
So, I call the pro-active approach to moments that matter.
I sort to give it a name when wisdom calls don't I used to say, don't give it a busy
signal.
Well, people don't get busy signals anymore.
Dont let it go to a voicemail and so many times I have been guilty of doing that and
the other type of moment that matters which is more reactive would be is what I call split-second
turns.
There are two episodes on this channel, one that talks about this one pro-active, moments
that matter, and reactive the split-second turn.
So, be sure and search those and watch those episodes.
But let me simplify either one of these two moments that matter like Dr. Cooper did for
me.
He created this little card and you may have a hard time seeing this but I'm going to explain
it to you because it's basically, four steps and it's really so simple.
Dr. Cooper calls this the one habit that transforms all the rest.
If you develop this habit and I have an episode on how you can develop that habit in less
than 60 seconds.
But this is a habit that has been life-changing for me and here's why.
What I strive to do is be present in every moment during the day and that's sometimes
tough to do.
But recognize that I am here in a moment.
Being able to recognize this is the moment that matters.
I may be read in the newspaper or be in the computer a child or grandchild comes up and
instead of when they interrupt me, "Grandpa, I have a question".
If you go into this reaction that's automatic, that mindless reaction state where you resist
change and you say, "How many times have I told you not to bother me when I'm in the
computer or I'm in my phone", pretty soon they're gonna stop bother you and they're
gonna go to their friends for those really important questions that you really wish you
could have answered.
So, don't get into this mindless reaction state where you get entrenched in that's just
the way I am.
No, you recognize, you noticed that this is the moment that matters.
My grandchild coming up.
You pause, that's number two.
You take an instant to spark curiosity.
Hmm, I'm wondering what's on their mind?
Notice, pause, the third step is you lean into what's possible.
I love that.
You lean into what's possible, in this few seconds, minute, or two as you stop and you
listen to your grandchild or your spouse or your client or a student, whatever.
You lean into what's possible and then the fourth step is you become better, more attentive,
more empowered, you lift.
You help them gain clarity.
You make sure they feel safe and that you care and that you have something that you
want to do to be able to help them gain clarity.
You love them.
You care for them.
Simply notice, pause to arouse curiosity, lean into what's possible and then become
better.
A better listener, a better communicator, more interested in other people.
It's about them, it's not about you.
That's probably the greatest advice that I can give you.
So, recognize those moments that matter.
There are dozens that happen every day.
Use this process and you'll get into this superfluid state.
You will move toward where you can sense them.
You can see them.
You can seize the moments that matter and you will be an influence for the better.
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