Tess Brigham: Hey everybody, welcome back to this week's
video today we're talking about why are millennials so stressed
out, and I'm going to share with you the two words that you have
to remember at all times if you're going through a quarter
life crisis. So for the best advice, guidance and support,
please subscribe to my YouTube channel. I am here every single
Thursday with a new video. And if you don't know me, I'm Tess
Brigham. I'm a licensed psychotherapist and board
certified coach. And for the last 15 years, I've been helping
individuals just like you find their path, their purpose and
their passion so that they can live their best life. Let's get
started. Okay, so let's talk about why Millennials are so
stressed out Well, right now we're, as I record this video,
we're in the midst of a global pandemic. So absolutely, this is
a big reason why not only Millennials are stressed out,
but we're all stressed out. But Millennials are especially
stressed out. And they were stressed long before the
pandemic came about. And they are because they have in a very
public platform, right, in a world of the internet and social
media, where everybody in their mother has a huge role. And as a
place where they can talk about, you know, people, Millennials
have been, you know, being criticized for being young and
just trying to figure out who they are during this very
difficult time. Right, because you're 20 something years, after
high school, after college, all of that. They're really about
accomplishing two things at once. When you're young, you're
trying to figure out who you are, what you want, what your
identity is, what's important to you, and how you want to live
your life. And at the same time, you're trying to also make
choices and decisions about your life, like, what do I want to do
for a living? What kind of partner do I want to have? If I
even want to have a partner? Where do I want to live? You
know, do I want to make money or not make money? How do I want to
spend my money, right? All of those big things, and you are
trying to figure them out at the same time. And they're both
influence each other. So it's this constant back and forth of,
Oh, this is who I am and what I want. So this is the kind of job
but it's not quite like this, because I figured this out about
myself. So I need to change this right. And you can see how these
two things. They're constantly in tandem with each other. And
this is a lot to think about and do when you're young. And
Millennials are incredibly stressed out because they're
doing it. In a world where there's you're constantly on all
the time you have to be where there is so much criticism and
self in judgment in general with social media, and where the
hours are long that you're working or the pressures are
bigger. This is why Millennials are so stressed out. And I would
love to hear from you. So shout out, let me know, comment below.
Tell me why do you think Millennials are so stressed out
right now? So one of the biggest stressors for many millennials
and for now Generation Z or is younger people is the quarter
life crisis. And I always tell people don't get too wrapped up
in Is it a crisis? Am I 25? What does that mean? If you think
you're going through a crisis than you are and just accept
that this is your opportunity to start making different choices
in your life. So those two words I mentioned earlier, they are,
explore and reflect. If you're going through a quarterlife
crisis, what you need to do is not quit everything and sell all
your belongings and run off somewhere. And that's not going
to solve the problem. Right? You might have a fabulous vacation,
but it's you're going to have to return to your life. It's not
about doing tons of stuff. And it's not about sitting still.
It's really about taking intentional action, and then
reflecting on it. So when I say explore that means instead of
just simply quitting your job, why don't you think about what
are some other jobs and careers that you've thought about? My
guess is you have a couple in the back of your head, right? We
always do that you've thought about in the past, or things
that maybe you did once, but you stopped for whatever reason. And
now you're interested again, instead of, you know, going down
the rabbit hole of going on the internet and figuring out Oh my
God, I don't have the qualifications that I have to go
back to school and all that. start exploring by simply
finding friends that do that kind of work and find out from
them. Do you like the job? Do you not? What's your advice on?
If I wanted to go down this path? What would that look like?
Right? Take a class, you know, take a couple courses and see
and a particular topic or subject and see what that is.
Spend some time even with the people in your own office,
finding out what other people do and learning about them, seeing
what else is out there. That's exploring, right? It's small,
concerted effort and it's really coming into it as if you're
exploring a new land or a new place, you come with a lot of
curiosity, and a lot of, you know, interest in asking
questions, but you're not making any choices and decisions just
yet. Because that's where the reflection comes in. Right? Just
gathering information and not doing anything with it isn't
going to help you. You want to reflect on it, grab a journal,
grab, you know, whatever you can and start really writing down
and thinking about, okay, I had this phone call with an old
friend, she does he or she does this kind of work. I had, you
know, this is how it made me feel when I heard about what
they did. These are the things that interests me, these are the
things that don't interest me, right. Use reflection and
journaling and just thinking as a way for you to start to
whittle through all of the information that you're getting,
so that you can start to say, oh, okay, I learned about this
job. No. Okay. I'm interested in this. Yes, explore, reflect,
explore, reflect, you want. It's all about taking small
intentional actions, and then being aware of them and in
thinking about them and how they make you feel, and then making
the next small intentional action. All right. If you are
going through a quarterlife crisis, I have something for
you. I have dropped a link below. I have a free workbook.
It's the quarter life crisis handbook. This handbook is
awesome. It's tons of questions and ways for you to reflect. And
it's a great supplement for you to go out. This is the
reflection part of the Explorer and reflect. So download it
today. It's absolutely free. And if you liked this video, please
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