- Spiritual people will find it hard to attract love
unless they shift the energy
that I'm gonna share with you in this video.
Now, there are reasons people feel stuck,
there are reasons people find
that maybe they haven't found their soul tribe,
they haven't found their soulmates,
they feel like they keep attracting old patterns
over and over again,
and that's because there's certain energies in play
that keep them in a metaphorical box.
Now, first off for this process,
a thing that happens that may not sound so cool to hear
but it's the fundamental, like, pattern
that I see happen in so many people,
and this also happened in me,
is when I went through my spiritual awakening in 2012,
what happened is I felt very alone,
I felt like people didn't get me,
people didn't understand me,
I started, like, reading books at first,
and then I started doing mantras,
and my energy very much changed.
I went from, like, one way of being
to, like, a completely new way of being
where friends and family were like,
what's going on with Aaron?
And then I was so excited about ascension and spirituality
and the law of attraction and, like,
very common spiritual concepts that people may learn,
so then I was sharing it with my friends, with my family,
with everyone, thinking they're just gonna love it,
they're gonna, lives are gonna change so much,
and they're gonna be so accepting and open to it
to find out that a lot of them thought it was weird,
thought it was, like, something out of a,
like they, they thought I was either on drugs
or, like, they just didn't understand it,
and that was a big letdown for me
because then I felt very alone.
And what would happen then is I went out into the world
and I developed this belief,
and this belief was that people just don't get me.
This belief was there's not people out there
that are similar to me.
And there is this belief out there that I just don't fit in,
I'm like a lone wolf.
And now, one of the first things that will block you
from attracting love as a high vibrational person
or, and here's another shadow aspect to this too,
I'm gonna share that, that maybe doesn't sound good to hear,
but what ends up happening is there's a belief there.
Our beliefs create our reality.
If we believe we are the lone wolf,
then attracting someone into our life would,
would go against and negate the lone wolf identity.
And remember, we will always do everything we can
to remain consistent to the way that we define ourselves.
So if we define ourselves as a lone wolf,
how are we gonna attract friends or even love
because it's like, well, I'm a lone wolf, that's who I am.
And the shadow side of this, too,
is the thing that happened to me
is I felt like people didn't get me
and there was a level of self-judgment
and spiritual significance, I call this.
That's when people don't get you,
in order to, in order to justify it, you say, well,
you know, these people, there's just asleep.
They're just unaware, they're asleep in the matrix,
and when we have that mentality
that people just sleep in the matrix and unaware,
it's a judgment.
And that will stop you and block you
from attracting people into your life.
So one thing that I had to do
is I had to let go of the spiritual significance.
And maybe even if you click on this video,
you're like, well, yes, I'm a high vibrational person,
but that also implies
that there's a lot of low vibrational people around
because it's like we're a hierarchy raising,
like, like seeing ourselves out on this, like, pedestal.
And one thing that I had to do
is I had to let go of that spiritual significance.
I had to let go of thinking I'm better than anybody
or, like, justifying, like, they're just asleep
and I'm awake and they don't get me.
I literally could not attract friends into my life
or love into my life until I shifted that.
And I had to start accepting other people
and I had to start also accepting myself.
So realize if you're having trouble attracting love,
it could be because there's a belief
that people don't get you,
there's a level of the lone wolf mentality
that's keeping that in place, and when you shift that,
that's one of, a huge thing that will shift your love life.
So the second thing for this,
okay, this is one I'm excited to talk about, actually,
I haven't really shared this on my channel before,
so one thing that happens
when people go through a spiritual awakening a lot of times
is something called the anima and the animus.
The anima and the animus is this, animus, is this idea
from Carl Jung, Carl Jung in psychology,
and basically what it states is that when we go
through a spiritual awakening and we evolve to,
in spiral dynamics, what is called the green level
of consciousness,
it's a whole, I have whole videos on spiral dynamics,
but what happens is, is if based on our energy,
we revert to the other polarity,
so for example, you'll see many men
that may have very feminine energy
that have been through a spiritual awakening,
and you might find some women with masculine energy,
and one of the reason that is
is because when we go through a spiritual awakening,
we flip our natural pole.
Now, poles of, of polarity.
And one of the reasons we're doing this
is so that we can go through a process
of healing that other side.
So this is why sometimes you might have women
that are in the empowerment age,
they've gone through their spiritual awakening,
they feel empowered, but maybe they feel
like they're activating too much masculine energy,
and then they end up attracting feminine men
because also the feminine men
are gone through their anima-animus
and they're feeling, and they're going into their,
their, maybe their mother wound,
I went through this, like, two or three years ago.
And I was going through it to heal my mother wound,
the, that energy.
And this is a common, like, thread people go down,
but their polarity gets flipped for a period of time,
when your polarity gets flipped,
you're going into it, heal it,
but then you end up attracting sometimes
kind of the opposite of what you want.
You may be like, well, I want a masculine man,
but what ends up happening
is you end up attracting someone that's feminine,
but it's because there's that masculine energy activated
to go through and heal.
Now, also, just a general basis for this,
when it comes to saying male and female,
understand that polarity and energy is not gender specific,
so you might have a different sexual orientation
and this will still apply,
like, whatever one your natural is,
there's feminine and masculine energy in everybody,
but whatever one it is, when you go through an awakening,
you may flip to the other side.
And it can still work
where maybe then you're attracting more feminine
or masculine females or guys, you know what I mean?
So just being more inclusive there.
So realize that this is maybe a, this is a natural part
of the process, but you're going into that energy
to heal it, to ground it within yourself,
so just trust the timing as well
and know that it's just a part of the process,
there's nothing wrong.
It's just something that you're going through
to really heal.
I had to go through and,
and in a way, heal the mother wound stuff
so that I could then actually come even more powerfully
into my masculine.
And if you've seen my videos
over the last two or three years,
you've probably seen big shifts in my energy.
If you have, let me know,
comment below if you've noticed that.
It was a big shift in energy,
and that was one of them, the anima, the animus,
and the polarity, and your polarity is healed
or in a way moreso balanced the more you heal
and accept different aspects of yourself
and you really settle into that energy.
So that's the second thing.
Now, the third thing with this
is many times, we have a belief
that attracting love is hard.
So it's similar to the first one
where it's like we just believe
there's not that many high vibrational people out there,
but realize that synchronicity is a natural reflection
of the way reality works.
And one thing that I would highly recommend you do
to attract love, to attract soul family
is to really be in alignment with your passion
and your purpose
because in my own life, I've noticed
that I always have gotten a reflection of my own energy.
And if your energy is of such
where you're not doing what you love,
but your spirit, you have these spiritual ideas
and you're, like, doing your best to elevate yourself,
what ends up happening is you end up attracting people
that are equal reflections of that energy.
When I worked a nine-to-five job,
I always attracted girlfriends
that also worked nine-to-five jobs that they didn't like
'cause I didn't like mine.
And once I started doing the inner work
and started following my passion,
I then would only attract women into my life
that were passionate about what they do.
And now I, my girlfriend is, loves what she does,
super passionate about music and, like, making videos,
actually just something very similar to what I do,
and it's a natural reflection,
it happens very easily when you're in alignment.
So one thing I would highly recommend
is to instead of focusing on attracting the love,
put the awareness on the inside
and begin making this more about you being
in your own frame and you also following your passion,
knowing that as a natural reflection,
you are then going to vibrationally resonate
with people that can actually, like, resonate with you
at that deeper level.
Now, the fourth one that I wanna share
actually has to do with a very common thing
that I noticed in the spiritual community,
and that is of someone that is an empath.
An empath is somebody that is able
to feel other people's energies,
is able to, is very sensitive
and picks up on things in their environment very easily,
and empaths will sometimes find it hard
to be in their own energy field,
and they will tune themselves to others.
And my theory about this, or what I've noticed
is that a lot of times, this is a coping, a coping mechanism
that was birthed out of a need in childhood
to glue the family together to get,
you know, the tension to go away,
and the challenge with this then
is that going into adulthood, what happens
is tuning to the environment becomes a key factor
in survival and even survival in being accepted.
And one of the things I notice
with a lot of spiritual people
is they, they may have this empath ability,
this empath, like, characteristic, but then what happens
is they end up attracting people into their life
that has a strong frame,
maybe even the extreme side of this of being, like,
and sometimes empaths will attract narcissists,
people that have a very perceived strong sense of frame
that are very controlling and emotionally manipulative.
So one of the reasons it might be hard
for some spiritual people to attract love
is if you identify as an empath is that you're tuning
to other people's energy in a way
that puts you as the cameo in your own movie.
Now, for this, and this also leaks into purpose,
to become the hero of your own movie,
the key is taking that lead role not in a narcissistic way,
but moreso realize the word hero comes from the suffix
or the meaning to serve, servant.
And what happens is when you're a part of your purpose
and you doing what you love,
you are a servant to a greater ideal than yourself,
a greater degree of energy.
But in order to do that,
you have to be able to serve your own purpose,
and then realize that the more value you add into the world,
the more that, like, you're, you're growing this mission
or whatever it is, you're more living your,
you're living up to the basis of your purpose,
however, what happens for a lot of empaths
is they are the cameo in other people's movie
and they are tuning to other people,
which isn't normally attractive,
and normally people, as empaths, are normally looking
for the validation, the love, or the support
from the outside.
And when you're looking for the love, the validation,
and the support from the outside,
you end up needing someone else's energy
in order to feel whole and complete.
That depolarizes your own energy
and has you searching for something outside of yourself
that isn't outside of yourself.
The key to this is healing that love, healing that energy,
feeling the self love,
let go of needing it from the outside
by knowing that it isn't even outside.
It's only within you.
And if you haven't checked it out yet,
there's something called the 21-day Magnetic Love Challenge,
21 days of transformation of healing the codependent wounds,
healing attachment styles of anxious or avoiding attachment
to become more secure,
helping to really feel worthy and self-love within
so that you can actually attract that love into your life.
If you haven't checked it out yet,
go to aarondoughty.com/love or click the link below.
But this is one of the most important things
that I've noticed, is getting inside your own frame,
that completely changes the attraction field
and the life of self-confidence too,
you start to literally feel more self-confident
about yourself.
Now, the fifth thing that will block you
from attracting love as a high vibrational person
is one that many people fall in the trap under
in the spiritual community.
I see it happen all the time.
That is the whole whole idea of labels,
of twin flame, different types of soulmates,
and people get so heady over these labels
that then they end up trying to force things to work,
force people, and it, it becomes this very, like, thing
that you're trying to control
that ends up doing more harm than good.
Like on Instagram and stuff, you'll see, like,
there's so many people doing twin flame readings
and all this stuff,
not dogging on it or saying there's anything wrong with it,
but a lot of times, the people that are searching
for their twin flame, it's like a,
it's like a codependent relationship.
It's looking for a codependency,
it's almost like normally there's some type
of attachment pattern that is normally anxious or avoidant,
and they're looking for something
and waiting for this big old thing of the twin flame,
and it ends up blocking them from just being in the moment.
They become so, they become so focused on the outside
that they stop being in the moment.
Imagine you're going on a date,
and the whole time you're on the date,
you're like, I hope they like me,
I hope everything turns out well,
I mean, this person is my twin flame,
it is, it's forever meant to be,
I mean, it's literally half of my soul has been cut in half
and now I'm an incomplete soul,
and, like, this person's gonna completely complete me,
but think about that, think about how disempowering that is.
Think about how much,
you're also putting someone on a pedestal.
They're, you, and you don't know this yet,
but you are the other half to my soul, okay?
And if you would just act correctly
and you would just act in accordance
to how I want you to act, everything's gonna be okay.
But then that makes them run away
because it's a heavy-ass energy.
So one thing I'd highly recommend you do
is to let go of the labels
and start treating everyone in your life
in a way as a twin flame, as a soul mate, or whatever,
something, when you, Bashar,
who's like an Abraham-Hicks channeler,
people ask him all the time about twin flames,
he always says the same thing.
Everyone in the, in the moment who's in your life,
friends, family, they are your soulmate in that moment.
And if you treat them as your soulmate in that moment,
you'll start to create a deeper degree of trust and love,
and what'll end up happening is from that,
you'll feel more connected,
and you'll then attract more and more of that synchronicity.
Remember, synchronicity is always around you.
It's just are you allowing yourself the ability
to perceive of it
by noticing and being aware of the different patterns
that are in your life.
So these are all things that will help you
to attract that love,
and if you haven't yet listened
to my most powerful meditation for attracting love,
it is right here, it has over 4 million views,
and hundreds and hundreds of people,
thousands of people, if you read the comments,
have attracted love from it
because it activates the energy within.
So if you haven't checked that video out yet,
it is right here, listen to it for 21 days
and watch what happens.
Make yourself comfortable.
We are about to go deep into your subconscious mind.
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Set the intention that.