This video is about "Why No Contact is the Only Option!" I'll explain how and why no contact
is the only option for you moving forward... To find out more please stay tuned to this video!
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There was once a young woman who got dumped of her boyfriend of several years...
they had lived together... they had traveled the world... they'd been through so much,
he was a cheater, a liar, treated her really badly... decided to push her to her limits, which resulted
in a big argument and ultimately a breakup. Because they lived together... she patiently waited until
the dust had settled and she secured somewhere else to move and so on... after that was all done
and the moment she finally had no ties left with him she did the following = she blocked his number
and his family's number and some friends and so on. It was officially over, it was done, when asked why
did she do so, she said no "contact is the only option!" What is no contact? The no contact rule
is where you don't call text or message an ex in any way after a breakup. It includes not talking to
friends or family about them or the breakup itself. The woman in this scenario insisted she was going
to do this the very moment she moved out of the apartment and had no more ties to her ex. "I was
done with him entirely!" she said. No calling, texting, social media, friends, family, no contact at all!
This is a very difficult thing to do for most people, in fact this woman initially said
she had her reservations blocking and deleting his mother "who I got on with so well! Was hard at
the time..." she said "but as the weeks passed it was the right thing to do... it was the only option."
I myself am a seasoned veteran of no contact and of course, I too have been on the receiving end many
times of no contact, blocking deleting and so on. I am used to it and well versed enough to give my
honest advice on it, for those who've never done it before, if that's you. here is why no contact is the
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Let us put our empathetic hats on here and look at things from the perspective of the EX who we're
cutting out of our lives...No contact is good for them! Let me use a real world example = a man
broke up with his girlfriend several years ago, as they were not compatible and argued all the time
She was a drama queen with her own issues... the problem was he never went no contact with her
and refused to block her..."I'll always love her" he said "if I block her it shows I hate her!"
For five long painful years this couple kept breaking up and getting back together
Weeks would pass... they wouldn't speak... then one would message the other and then they're back
together in bed... the cycle repeated ...the fights got worse and worse... this man's parents and friends
were fed up hearing how many times he was getting with her and breaking up. Long story short they
ended up getting engaged and then they got married only to divorce a few years later, and even after
the divorce they were still on and off. It was a toxic, childish waste of time, completely stupid
Long story short the woman was waiting for him to completely let her go but he was too much of a
coward to do so... He couldn't bear her moving on and she couldn't either... so instead they held onto each
other tightly wasting their precious life, time and energy fighting and making up for many years.
Let them go! When you love something or someone you should be able to let it go, rather than let things
linger longer than they should like a bad smell. I know you have to split up and you know you've got
to do the difficult thing but if you love that person you'd want what's best for them, even if
they're toxic or maybe you hate them, but still wish them well because you're not a bad person!
Let them go = block, delete or even if you don't want to block, go no contact
because if you keep that metaphorical door open per se, you're running the risk of them
wasting their life, never moving on and if you're not careful yours too!
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Now just like it's good for your ex to go no contact, its actually good for you too!
You may not see it now and your future may appear scary or very bleak... but your future self will be
grateful for your decision to cut them out and go no contact sooner than later. There was a woman who
divorced their cheating husband a few years ago... she kicked him out and refused to speak to him
again! Yet she didn't go no contact... she still had his number and text him from time to time...
The sad reality was she never moved on with her life despite him cheating, breaking her heart... she
still long for him and kept that emotional tie! She became obsessed with her ex in an
unhealthy way... she begged for him back, begged him to contact her... begged for a slither of attention
all because he manipulated her to feel guilty for doing so, and then wormed his way back in to
living with her... until she kicked him out again for cheating again and breaking her heart again!
But what if she had gone no contact? What if she had not spoken to him?
She would have been unaware of his whereabouts... she would not have been hoovered back in... she
would never have got manipulated again... she would have potentially moved on with her life and if
she wanted to move on to date someone else, maybe have had a better relationship! No contact is good
both ways! No contact is healthy for both parties! I get it, some people have children, financial ties,
business ties, partnerships etc, but they must keep contact to an absolute minimum in those extreme
difficult circumstances... however what if you have no ties to your ex, or what if you're
not in business? What if you've got no mortgage? What if you got no kids? Why don't you do this?
Why don't you cut the slate clean, move on and do so with the understanding that it's best
for you both to no longer speak about anything anymore? What's the gain for you and what's the
gain for them? And remember you're doing this because it's good for you in a healthy way
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my videos! Sometimes post breakups people think they can give their ex the benefit of the doubt
and wrongly assume they will finally understand me now it's over. They think variations of the
following = "watch them come crawling back or they're gonna miss me so much..I'll leave the door open for
one more night of passion with them... they'll change when I take them back...finally I have the power!"
No contact for the mature, healthy, insecure ndividual is not a game and it's certainly not something to
manipulate the other person especially in this context... no contact is to move on with your life
and hopefully to make sure your ex does the same too in their own way, and if they don't that is not
your problem... they're an adult... they should take their own personal responsibility in doing so
I made this mistake...I once dated a narcissist for years but we split up originally for a few months
after I just had enough and foolishly I did not go no contact...I said to myself "she will finally
learn how to treat me better... if she was ever to come back to me she will have to be very different!"
Well she hoovered me back in, she promised she had changed, she promised me the world and I fell for
it. The reality was things were far worse and I wasted more precious years with the wrong person
only to eventually and finally block and delete them forever! Let's have some cold hard truths =
you are not a martyr... you are not there to teach a lesson... you are not there to
open their eyes... you are not there to get one over them and get revenge in this sick way
you are here and watching this video and learning the message to hopefully
move on in a healthy way and actually end up becoming happier and getting the life that you
actually truly want... Do not approach no contact with any other ulterior motives
On this channel I get a lot of comments of people who have blocked and got no contact for the very
first time in their lives... they've said "I was so terrified pressing that block button but after
I did I'm relieved to be free! I was so drained and tired from my relationship going no contact
has been like a breath of fresh air! I'll never be tempted to go back...I finally have my destiny
in my hands again...I'm rediscovering who I am... I'm thrilled to be doing so, as I mentioned before I'm
a bit of a seasoned veteran aka very experienced unfortunately when it comes to no contact... I've had
to block, delete and move on from friends, family and plenty others in my life... I cannot recall the
very first time I went no contact now but I've done it so many times that I'm just used to it
Perhaps you might think I'm very ruthless but I'm here to tell you that it works and it's the right
thing to do! I am not wishing you to go no contact on others in your life but certainly your ex needs
to be done in this way and treated in this way ASAP! Once you've done it and the days, weeks pass
things do get easier! Your confidence grows, life seems manageable again, you will be
happier, you will feel healthier you just need to take that first step... you need to do this
There's always a first time for everything... be brave, bold. I remember plenty others including
myself who are watching this video were once in your shoes or about to do the thing you're about
to do, and we're all here to tell you and remind you that we're better off in the end for doing so!