this video I'm gonna show you why you should stop chasing relationships and
love and I'm gonna show you a process that is so much more powerful that I
think will change your life welcome back to another video my name is Erin and I
hope people expand their consciousness now this
video I'm gonna show you exactly why you should stop trying to attract a
relationship trying to attract love into your life what to do instead and how
this is the game changer like chasing a relationship is the reason you are in a
relationship I know that sounds a little bit harsh but when you are putting out
the energy that you are chasing someone else that you really really want someone
to be in a relationship with you you are putting out a resistance and you think
of it like in your energetic field say this is you and in the energetic field
you're saying I want this person over here what happens is by saying I want
what you end up doing is you end up feeling this resistance that then they
subconsciously feel and it keeps them from coming into your life even at
different levels where even if you don't know this person yet if you're putting
out the resistance vibration of chasing love really desiring some type of
relationship then what you are doing is you are putting out an energy that isn't
serving you they'll stop it stop it that's the key
stop putting out this energy and understand that anytime you say I really
really want something it automatically vibrationally says I don't currently
have it and when we are focused on chasing someone or chasing love it's us
projecting our happiness outside of ourselves and it's having us run to try
to get somewhere we currently aren't so think about this just from an energetic
standpoint as well if you say I really really want you I really really would
love how you around all the time I really really
would just like you to come to dinner with me and I really really would enjoy
that how does that feel it feels desperate and it feels like something
that repels you you're like Oh bro I don't not necessarily just kind of want
to do my thing I don't want that pressure but you see that's what a lot
of times we do even not just with the relationships to be honest with you just
with things in general anytime you say I really really would like to have money
it's this really really desperate energy and we're putting that energy out not
aware that that's the reason we're not attracting what we want there's a
process that I talk about sometimes called reality Tran surfing that's about
decrease in importance you put something on a pedestal you then are glorifying it
and you're saying that that's not natural for your self-image and think
about this from also a point of view of a character in a movie let's use this
metaphor if you are running around trying to be the Cameo in someone else's
movie by chasing them you are not the star of your own movie you are a cameo
in someone else's they can feel that and they want you just to let them do their
lead role you might actually be a little bit annoying to them because they're in
their lead master role and here you are trucking along trying to be the Cameo
trying to be the supporting role trying to be just somebody in their movie and
because that's the frame because that's the energy that's put out that's the
energy that responding to they are responding to the energy you are putting
out you putting out the vibration that you are the Cameo and everyone else's
movie is going to make it so that they just conveniently put you or do they
think you need to be and the reason being is because you are not at your
core if you were at your core you would be the star of your own movie and you
wouldn't be chasing someone else if you're chasing I remember I used to work
with someone that used to observe this about one of our co-workers it was
always chasing different women really want to be go out with them
really want to do this really want them to be in a relationship with him and she
said something very interesting to me she said anytime you're chasing someone
else it means that someone else is running that's the frame that's being
implied someone else is running from you someone else is trying to get away
trying to stay in there Cammi and to try to stay in their star role and then
here's someone else comes along trying to be the Cameo trying to save the day
trying to trying to catch think about that it's like a cat-and-mouse game but
you see so many people that I see are going through this where it's I really
really would like to be in a relationship I really really would like
this person to return my phone call I really really would like my ex to do
this that's the wrong frame that frame will keep your ex far far away which
sometimes may actually be a good thing that frame will keep people from feeling
connected to your energy that frame will keep these things away from you to stop
it just that's the big message of this video stop it because chasing implies
lack chasing implies resistance chasing implies you are not good enough already
therefore you need someone else in your life because you just want to be someone
else's cameo role and then it sounds a little bit harsh because I'm trying to
help you understand the energy dynamics of what you may be putting out into the
world I'm doing it from a loving way just a level of awareness way where you
realize hey I'm chasing success I'm chasing money I'm chasing all these
things and in the moment that you chased it you're saying I'm not good enough
I need more here's the irony if you were to give up the chase you would let go of
the resistance if you were to instead of focus on trying to do or do get
something you were to focus on being yourself you would then develop gravity
where people would want to be around you you
contageous type energy and you'd be the star of your own movie and when you are
the star of your own movie guess what you have a very attractive energy you
don't have to chase anything because you have gravity things start coming to you
but you us first off become aware of your own level of worthiness you must
become aware that you can have fun in life and you don't need them put someone
else on a pedestal when you put someone else on a pedestal you are saying that
you will find it'll be whole and complete when they do X Y Z because
they're so amazing but you completely miss it that you're amazing as well you
are amazing but when you're chasing someone else you're externalizing your
own happiness you're not coming at it from the frame
that you are already old and complete they can vibrationally feel that how
many times have you heard of this happening listen to this this is
something that happens all the time you have a guy and girl a girl and girl a
guy a guy whoever they break up one really wants the other oh so sad about
this so sad about this so sad about this and it's hard for them to get over and
the other one just wants nothing to do it's like do you just do your thing or
whatever it is then what happens is that person starts to let go of it and says
you know what I'm gonna go have fun with friends tonight I'm gonna go do this I'm
gonna do that I'm gonna take care of myself
they start to do what they want to do they vibrationally kind of forget about
the person they've been chasing their mind for so long and then within a day
that person texes them back wants to know how they're doing why is that
because vibrationally they can feel that that person isn't chasing them and now
they're like what's going on here is this person now feeling worthy a whole
and complete without me and that sometimes makes them actually want them
it's a little bit twisted but it is the way it works I've seen that happen so
many times people that start to get into their own frame start to do what they
want to do start to be the hero of their own movie and then what happens is the
other person can feel that all the sudden they're interested
because the energy dynamic has changed and they're not putting out that
resistant energy anymore I remember that happen when I was in
high school with one of my first girlfriends it was someone we were
together for like four or five months it was nothing
nothing that serious but it was one of my first girlfriends was after the whole
the whole thing with my ex stepmom and my dad were then I had freedom and I
could actually like being a relationship or have friends and there was one girl I
was with for like four or five months and what happened is after like after it
was a relationship where I felt like I was I was in a way chasing and trying to
trying to really be in her movie then this is what happened I started to
realize that was when I started to have freedom could hang out with friends and
stuff I then started to realize that there were other girls at that school
that liked my brother and I they thought we were really cool they wanted to hang
out with us so my brother and I start to hang out with all these cool kids we
started to go to parties we started to have fun and then I stopped I I didn't
really focus on I realized I was put all my eggs in a basket and it was a basket
that was broken so then what happened is the energy dynamics shifted she could
energetically feel that I was not needy anymore I didn't really care I was over
it and the moment I'm over it is the moment that all of a sudden there's this
interest again now remember that for like two three weeks she would call me
trying to talk to me but I was so in a different world because I had like a new
group of friends that I was excited to hang around and I wasn't I wasn't
interested in it anymore I could feel that like the energy
shifted so that's what happens when you shift the energy you will be more
attractive people will want to be in a relationship with you
people want to be around your energy usage in general even money which
doesn't even have an actual personality will want to come to you every area of
your life will transform when you stop chasing and reaffirming that you don't
currently have that which you want to create in your life stop playing the
cat-and-mouse game Tom and Jerry was a great show but it's over stop watching
the reruns and stop chasing over and over and over
again and if you do realize you're doing it but the moment you shift your energy
and you realize that you already have that which you are chasing is the moment
you stop putting out that resistant energy and it's also the moment that you
stop creating that lack mentality the moment you stop being the Cameo and
everyone else's movie and you start getting to your core neediness is one of
the most unattractive qualities that people have and especially in
relationships now the thing is is what is the alternative to this the
alternative is you understand this when you get to your core you are doing what
you're passionate about you are feeling empowered you will be putting out your
true energy your true vibration and then you will find someone that is equal to
that version of you think about it like this you always get a reflection in your
life of that which you are I noticed that in my past relationships if I was
working a nine-to-five job that I wasn't passionate about I would normally find
someone else that was not passionate about what they were doing they were
also working a nine-to-five job they weren't passionate about it was always
an equal reflection as to where I was and guess what where I was that wasn't
really who I am me working a job I'm not passionate about I'm not in my core
frequency then what happened is instead I changed my energy I then started to
focus on doing what I'm passionate about that was me going full-time on YouTube
I'm then in my court frequency which then allows me to meet someone at a very
deep level and a completely different type of relationship you see that is the
key you must first find yourself before someone can actually find you and before
you can stop chasing everyone else or someone else not everyone else but you
can stop chasing because you're worth it you're worth you get into your core and
you deserve you feeling worthy whole and complete the irony the paradox is that
by doing so you will then put off a more attractive energy
then these things will all come to you because you have shifted the energy
dynamic and I know there's probably been someone in your life that you've seen
that energy example that I've used where when you switch the energy then someone
up people just feel it off of you I remember one girl that I used to work
with she said that she never got hit on by guys until she was in a relationship
when she was in a relationship she'd get hit on by guys like five six times a
week and it you know you want to know why I think that was when she got into
relationships he started to feel worthy whole and complete and then what would
happen is people would start to see that in her energy field but before that she
was really really hoping that someone may really really like her and that she
would chase someone and the energy dynamic was different so instead of
waiting for all these things to happen realize that any emotion you want to
feel already exists inside of you you just may have a rule that says you can't
currently feel that emotion then if you just get the person then you can feel
the emotion then you can feel the gratification in actuality if you feel
the emotion now by realizing it already exists within you all of those things
come to you easier you feel worthy all and complete you're at your own gravity
you're the star of your own movie guess what these things come to you if you
chase it it means you don't have it if you're trying to be the cameo in someone
else's movie it means that you're playing a role that isn't actually a
leading role you're the you're the one that's disposable the star of a movies
not disposable Liana DiCaprio is not disposable in a Christopher Nolan film
like Inception or something you can't take his role out it wouldn't be the
same movie but someone on the sidelines some little some little person that
makes a little entrance and then leaves probably don't even think about that so
change the energy by changing your focus knowing you are 100 percent worthy whole
and complete the more you get to your core of that realization is the more
your life will begin to change now here's the thing as well what you will
see in the top of the description box is a meditation for completing the
past and for feeling 100% worthy whole and complete that meditation if you
listen to for 21 days will change the dynamic it will have it so that people
erase that resistance that they feel towards you you will start to feel 100%
worthy only complete and then these things will come to you relationship can
come to you love can come to you because you are embodying it and you are the
star of your own movie that meditation will help you do it and that's why I
recommend you listen to it for 21 days now here's something as well I have a
lot more videos I'm gonna do a series on these kind of concepts so if you want to
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