- Hey you guys, this is Mat Boggs,
and today we're gonna talk about four things men do
when they want a relationship with you.
The first thing they do, and I know that this is obvious,
but it's important, is they pursue you.
You're gonna feel their energy,
you're gonna feel their attention on you.
You're gonna feel their focus on you
because they are pursuing you.
When you start feeling like you're the one
who has to carry the relationship, you're the one
who has to reignite the communication through the texting,
or you're the one who's saying,
Hey, where is this guy?
That's not the guy who wants a relationship with you.
The guy who wants a relationship with you,
you're not gonna have to wonder where he is.
He's gonna be right there pursuing you.
The second thing we do as men when we want a relationship
is called progression,
and this means we want to see you more often.
We progress the frequency that we're seeing you.
We progress the duration in which we see you,
we don't wanna see you just for a couple of hours
on a Friday night, we wanna spend all day Saturday with you.
We wanna hang out with you, we wanna go hiking with you.
We wanna spend more time with you.
The second way that we progress the relationship
is we actually progress the intimacy.
What does this mean?
This means that we progress what we're willing
to share of ourselves with you.
We wanna share the music we like, we wanna share
the things that we are most proud of, we wanna share the
work that we're doing with you, we wanna share our world
with you so that you can really get to know us.
So we progress how open we are in that relationship as well.
The third key to look out for
when a guy wants a relationship with you is planning.
He's gonna do advance planning.
He's gonna try to book you for a date on your prime time,
the most valuable moment of your week,
which is Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.
The reason we do this is we do not want
to even let the chance in that you're gonna go out
with some other guy on Friday, Saturday, or Sunday night.
So, typically by the time we end the date,
we're setting up the next date with you.
What you wanna watch out for is the guy who says
at the end of the day, yeah, I'd love to go out
again sometime, maybe this next weekend.
I'll text you and let you know.
And then he doesn't text you, and it's like
Thursday rolls around, you still haven't heard from him.
And you're wondering, where is this guy?
Here's the ugly truth about that guy,
and I'm sorry to be the one to say this, but it's true.
That guy is waiting around to see is there something better
gonna come around, is there a better option
that I'll be able to take advantage of
before I'm going out with this woman?
Screw that; you are not option number two.
You are not the second best option,
you are the first best option.
When it comes to the man who wants to be with you,
with the man who wants to have this relationship with you,
you are gonna be an absolute number one option.
He is gonna find you beautiful.
He is gonna find you amazing.
He is gonna feel like he won the jackpot with you.
He is gonna be like, Oh my God, this woman is amazing.
Like, I hit the lottery with this woman.
That's how he's gonna feel about you, and you want
someone to treat you that way.
Those other guys, they're not thinking you're a jackpot.
Those other guys are jackasses.
You absolutely deserve a man who's gonna treat you
like the woman you are, a woman who is amazing,
who has tons of value, and he's gonna do that
and show up in that way by making advance plans with you.
And the fourth thing that you're gonna experience
when you're with a man who wants a relationship with you
is peace, it's gonna feel easy.
It's gonna feel relaxed.
It's gonna feel like it's just flowing.
When I had the privilege of interviewing
America's greatest marriages, couples who had been
married over 40 years, and my best friend and I
wrote the book Project Everlasting,
one of the things these couples talked about was,
when they got together, it just felt easy.
There was this, like, grace that happened.
It just flowed, the relationship just flowed.
And so that's what you wanna look for.
If it feels hard, if it feels like a tug-of-war
with this guy, constantly back-and-forth,
that is not the sign that you're on the path
to something amazing.
And so that's what you're looking for, this sense of peace,
this sense of flow to your relationship,
like it's just clicking.
Because here's the deal, it is really hard to screw up
the right thing.
It's hard to screw up the right thing,
meaning you have to really make some serious mistakes
or you can make some serious mistakes.
And when he's the right guy and you're the right woman,
that relationship is gonna work out.
So there you have it, the four things to look for
when a man wants a relationship with you:
Pursuit, progression, planning, and peace.
And know this, that if you don't have that
in your life right now, know that you are beautiful,
you are worthy, you are amazing.
And your man, right now, is looking for you.
And when he comes into your life, you're gonna see
and feel and know those things to be true.
Now, if you like that video, I highly recommend
you check out this video that I made called the
3 Things You Can Say To Make Him Feel Like A Man
in your presence, because here's the deal,
when we feel positive in the relationship,
we feel positive about you.
So go ahead and check that video out.
And I have a question for you.
What is it that you do when you want
a relationship with a man?
What are the things that you tend to do?
How do you show up?
Go ahead and post that in the comments section below.
I love reading your comments, they're always awesome.
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Thanks so much for watching, I appreciate you.
I'll see ya soon.