Hello! I'm so excited that you're joining me
for this episode because i want to talk about
something that i think plagues so many of us,
this:
We're sat on all these ideas and we just don't
bloody know what to do.
I did a workshop the other week and I was
asking in the workshop how people are feeling
right now and where they're at. And this is
the three words that were used the most:
overwhelmed, stuck, frustrated. Overwhelmed,
stuck, frustrated. Those three words came up over
and over and over again.
And i think the thing is that so many of us are
sat on these amazing ideas. We have the things
we want to create. We want to do these things,
we want to be able to create successful
businesses. But we are just stuck, we're
overwhelmed and we're frustrated that we're not
actually making the progress we want to be
making. And i totally relate to this. Because i
was thinking back to when I first started my
business and i didn't know what the heck i was
doing.
It was a phone unlocking business, i didn't know
how to make it successful, i didn't
know. I didn't know all the things i needed to
do. It felt overwhelming, it felt like a lot to
figure out and i felt stuck a lot of the time,
and and then it felt frustrating.
And even when i started FEA, i sat on that idea
firstly for three bloomin' years - three
years - because not only did i not know what to do
and how to do it, i also had all my doubts and
worries and fears around like, "Who am i to do
this?" Like that was honestly my biggest
thing, "Who am i to do this?" I felt like i
wasn't good enough, i felt like it was
ridiculous, i felt embarrassed, i didn't
take myself seriously, i thought people would
think i was a joke, i thought i was a joke. All
these thoughts, i didn't even realise i had,
bubbled up to the surface when i finally thought,
"You know i've got this idea, maybe i can put it
out there." And then as i started to like think
about what that would look like it was like all
this stuff started bubbling up, and i was
like, oh my gosh. And it just felt easier to
procrastinate. It felt easier to do nothing.
And i think that's the thing. We have these yeah
great ideas and we just can't get out of our own
way to make the progress we want to make and
create the success that we really desire. But
what i have learned is that there is a way to
get out of your own way, and that is a way to
create the success that you desire. It all just
starts by actually taking action and that sounds so
simple. And you're like, "Well great, you've not
really told me anything..." But like
Rumi says, "As you start to walk on the way, the
way appears." As you start to walk on the way,
the way appears.
And this is so true. We're so bloomin' afraid
to take the step that the pathway can't ever appear
for us because we're not ready to take that step
and start. We have to be willing to take that
first step and go all in and start for this
pathway to unfold for us to walk down.
So what can you do when you feel like you've got
these ideas bursting out of you, you want to
create things you want to sell things, but it's
just this jumbled, overwhelmed mess in your
head.
Well i want to share with you some really simple
steps that you can take. And this is simple,
because this isn't about secret magic tricks, like
"my secret recipe". It's not about that. There
isn't that. It's just good old, simple steps
you can take, that i think will make a big
difference.
So, when you want to create and sell
something, when you have an idea that you've been
sat on, whether it's a course, a membership
site, a coaching programme, a physical
product that you want to create, whether it's a
service that you want to start offering, whatever
it is that you want to offer and put out into
the world, it becomes overwhelming when it's
this huge idea that feels so daunting, so big that
you don't even know where to begin with it all.
That is overwhelming. That is literally like a
recipe for analysis paralysis. I have been
there, and it's frustrating
But one of the first things you need to do is
sit down and get everything out of your
head. Literally the number of times i've had
to sit down and do this. Because it just starts
started getting all tangled up in your head,
all jumbled up, and it gets bigger and bigger
and bigger. And it's more and more and more
overwhelming. And we create overwhelm
ourselves. Overwhelm is an internal response to
what is going on, and our ideas and our thoughts.
So instead of letting it all build in your head,
get it out on paper. So literally sit down with a
pen and a piece of paper and write out your
thoughts, write out your ideas, write out what it
is you want to create, write out how you feel
about it.
You really just want to see what is going on. And
I always find that when I actually do take the
steps to do this, and I write everything out,
even in doing that, I feel so much more clarity
around what I'm trying to do. It's not this jumbled
up mess in my head, it's actually on paper, and I
can see it and I can see, "Okay, that I can park.
Right, this I'm going to focus on". But literally
getting it all out of your head is such a good
place to start. So take that step, get it all out
on paper, how you're thinking, what what you
thinking about what you want to create, all the
thoughts that you have around it, and get it all
down. Step one.
Okay, so step two, once you can see everything on
your piece of paper, I want you to start
identifying, what are the areas where you actually
don't know what to do? So let's say you've got this
idea, but you don't know what to do. Okay, great,
circle it. You don't know what to do. And go
through and look at like things where it's
actually a gap in your knowledge. Because the
thing is that sometimes I think, when it comes to
creating things, we think we should know how to do
it. But the reality is, if you've never created
it before, how are we supposed to know? And
it's like with anything, if you have never played
the piano before, well, you're not going to be
able to go and sit at a piano and play it. You
need to go and probably get a teacher and start
taking lessons and start practising, you're going
to be crap for a while, and you're going to
practice and practice, and you're going to get
better.
And it's like this with the ideas that you're sat
on, that you want to create, you want to bring
into life. Well, you have to actually look at what
do you need to know, in order to go and do it?
And what happens is that we don't know, so then we
don't have any confidence in ourselves. So it's
like, okay, what do you need to learn in order to
be able to start to make progress, to move in the
direction of your desires, to follow your
dreams and ideas? What do you need to know? So
really get a pen and a piece of paper again, and
just make a list: "These are some things that I
just I don't know". And maybe you're just like,
"I just don't really know anything." But then I
want you to try and break it down. Because break it
down. What does that mean? I don't know what
to call my business. I don't know what thing to
create. I don't know whether I should create a
membership site, I don't know whether to create a
course. Like what is it that you don't know?
I think so often, we actually also know a lot
more than we think we know. So often, we're
actually not really tuning into our own
intuition, into how we truly feel make
decisions. So often, we want someone else out
there to make the decisions for us, when
actually it's us to have to make the decision. But
we're not willing to listen to ourselves,
we're not paying attention. And so often I
find that, actually, we're getting all the
signs and the signals, this is the thing, this
is the thing, but we're just ignoring it.
So look at how you can tune into your own
intuition into the way you feel about certain
ideas that you have, to see if that will help
guide you and into what the next step you might
need to take is, but write it all out, see
what you need to learn. And then once you've done
that, look at who can help me with this?
And again, go on Google. Who can help you? Who can
help you to start progressing? Who would
you know, online? Who do you know whose email list
you're on who could help you? What organisations
could help you? What YouTube channels could
help you? What podcasts could help you? Who could
help you to do what it is that you want to do?
Because the answers you're seeking are out
there, they're all out there. It's just about,
you've got to figure out how you find the answers.
You've just got to become the little detective to
find what you're seeking. And I think when you look
at it from that perspective, like you're
going on this amazing adventure to see how you
can take your idea and create something and then
actually be able to sell it. So you're going on
this adventure and this exploration. So it's like
open yourself up, open yourself up to this
adventure, to the opportunities that are
gonna pop up, to the experiences that you're
going to have. And when you see it as this fun
adventure, it becomes less daunting and it just
becomes more doable. And you can be like, "Right,
I need to go and learn this, I need to go learn
this, I need to go and learn this, this person
can help me on my way." And once you start doing
that, you start taking action and then the
pathway starts to appear, it starts to unfold for
you, because you start taking that action.
So get clear on like what you need to learn? Where
are the knowledge gaps? Who can help you and what
is your intuition saying? What feels good? What
doesn't feel good? What excites you? What doesn't
excite you? Listen to yourself. Listen to the
direction that your heart is calling you in. And
follow that. Literally follow that. It's calling
you in that direction for a reason. Listen. I would
listen. Whenever I've followed my heart, my
soul, my gut, my intuition, it never led
me astray. So trust yourself. Honestly, trust
yourself, it's probably the most powerful thing
you can do.
Okay, so the final thing is this: what is the next
tiny, teeny tiny little step you could take right
now, today, that could help you to make progress
and move in the direction of your desires? To help
you as you go on this journey of creating and
selling. What is the next teeny tiny little step
that you could take today to start you on this
journey? Because if you could just forget about
all of the things and just think, "What is the
next tiny little thing I can take?", that will
help free up your mind. So you've not got all
this pressure of trying to figure out steps 100,
101, 102, and you're just figuring out the next one
step. It makes it doable, it makes it simple. And
you can do that. And once you've taken that step,
then after that you can think, "What's the next
tiny little step, and then you can take that
next little tiny step. And then you take the
next little tiny step.
Literally, it is as simple as that. You're
gonna create success through taking tiny
little action steps. That's it. And that
action, it's gonna look different for all of us.
It's not like I can sit here and say, "This is
the one step you must take right now", because
that's not how it works. We're all on this
amazingly unique journey. And we have to honour
that. And we have to listen to ourselves. But
the thing we have to do is bloomin' take action,
because when we're sat not taking action, we
just sat in the overwhelm, the confusion,
the analysis, paralysis, and we just don't do
anything because we don't think we can do it.
If you just start taking a little step, and
another little step, and then another little step,
and then another little step, you'll start to,
One, get more confidence, you'll start to Two, get
more knowledge, you will start to get more
clarity, and you'll start to spot more
opportunities, you'll get more help and support,
because they'll all appear on the way for you
when you get going and you take this action.
So what's a tiny, teeny tiny little step you can
take today, right now, that can help you on this
journey that you want to go on to take your idea,
or ideas, out of your head and actually bring
them into reality, to create and then to sell
something? What is the first teeny tiny little
step you can take? It doesn't need to be more
complicated than that, honestly, it really
doesn't. Whenever I'm sitting down to create
and to figure out what I'm going to create and
sell, it literally starts by a teeny tiny little
action step of like, "I'm just gonna take this one
little step first." And that's it. Like, you
don't have to have this grand, huge plan. In
fact, sometimes when you've got those huge
grand plans, it's just actually more
overwhelming and confusing.
Really, clarity comes from taking action,
confidence comes from taking action and gaining
knowledge and experience. So really, it's all in
just having the guts to take that tiny step, that
teeny tiny step. So what can you do today? Could
be as simple as just saying to somebody that
you know, "I'm going to do this. This is my idea.
And I'm going to figure out how I can create and
sell it." That's it. And that is even in itself
has power in it. It's like that commitment to
yourself is so powerful. So yeah, it's just taking
those teeny tiny steps. And realising that, when
you are taking an idea out of your head, and
you're turning it into something that you can
physically create and sell, and you've never
done it before, it's going to push you so far
outside of your comfort zone. You're going to
have, not only so many doubts and fears crop up,
you're also going to have lots of knowledge gaps.
And it feels terrifying at times. Also inspiring,
exciting, but also terrifying. It's like
being on a bloomin' roller coaster ride in
the dark: so many ups so many downs, and you're
just like, "I just need to get off this thing
sometimes."
But the way I always used to think about it and the
way I still think about it, I'm strapped in for
the ride. I want to be on this entrepreneurial
ride, because I want to live my best life. I want
to be able to take my ideas and see what I can
create, see what I can make happen, see what I
can bring to life. I want to explore the desires
that I have. I want to see how much success I
can create. I want to see how much impact I can
have. I want to live my best life. And that means
I've got to be true to myself. I've got to be
true to what I want in my heart. And I feel like we
all owe that to ourselves. But so often
we just don't follow those niggles and that
those nudges because we're so afraid to get it
wrong. We're so afraid to fail. But I think the
biggest failure is actually not listening to
yourself, is not taking that little step. Because
you're going to get to the end of life and
think, "What was what was I waiting for? Honestly,
did it even make a difference if I failed?
No." Because anyway, if your idea doesn't work
out, what you want to create doesn't work, you
will have learned so much that the next thing will
happen and the next thing that will happen.
You know one time I actually had a business
to business telecommunications
company. And it made money - a little bit of
money, it wasn't like huge amounts - but it did
make money. And in the end, I didn't end up
running it for very long. And I've had other ideas
which I've started that I've actually just not
done anything with. They've not become
successful. But the thing is, all of those things
have been part of my journey. And I've learned
something from every single one of them. And
that whole journey has led me to getting to
where I am today. So I feel like the only real
failure is not doing anything to bring your
ideas to life.
So there's no point in waiting around. Like I
said, all the answers are out there, you have
already so many answers within you. So it's just,
start taking those teeny tiny steps to get you to
where you want to be. And if you can do that, and
surround yourself with people that are going to
encourage you and help you to do that, you are
going to feel so proud of yourself. And it's going
to be so exciting to see what you can bring to
life, because I know that you can achieve so much.
So yes, take that tiny step. But if you want to
help, I mentioned at the beginning, I have this
brand new challenge called Create & Sell that
I'm hosting is a three day challenge, it's
completely free. And I want to teach you how you
can actually take your ideas and create
something, and then how you can sell them.
Because I think so many people get so overwhelmed
by this whole process, and they're so worried
that no one's ever gonna buy from them, they're so
worried it's never gonna work out. But actually it
can be simple. And I want to show you the process
for creating and selling something.
So if you're teetering on the edge of an idea to
create a membership, a course, whatever it is, a
digital product, come and join me for this
challenge, go all in and just take this time to
see what you can actually bring to life. It's going
to be so much fun. And hopefully you're going to
create something amazing. So if you join me for it,
sign up at fea.link/create. And you
will find all the details for the free, three day
challenge. So hopefully I will see you there.
But regardless, I hope this episode has inspired
you to get out of your own way and to realise
that your ideas and dreams are with you for a
reason and they deserve to be brought to life. So
do it. Bring them to life. They are begging
you to bring them to life. I hope you have a
wonderful week and I will see you next week for
another episode of The She Means Business Show.