Uncle C, back in the office. And in this video, I wanted to discuss the number one issue that
I'm seeing a lot of times with men and just self development and their masculine frame
in general. So here's the thing. YouTube, my channel,
many content creators channel any quote unquote influencers channel, anybody who you take
advice from, this is what you have to understand with all sound advice when something is good.
When you have yourself dialed in, meaning you are doing the work, you're seeing improvements
in life. As a man with ultimate highs, when things are going well, eventually will always
come to ultimate lows. And you see the situation a lot where men get in this fixated mindset
of like self sabotage, or needing some sort of help or thinking that they're doing something
wrong. And the biggest thing that I'm noticing is that they just don't understand that there's
going to be times when you suffer, even if you're doing everything correctly, there's
going to be times that suck. Now, this is what I mean, I'm going to give you a few examples.
And not only that, I'm going to actually give you an inside look at my personal life too.
As you know, I go through my own journeys with development. And you know, whether that
be my business or whether that be with anything that I'm doing, I'm going to show you what
I mean. First, let's take a couple examples from my close members, group of men that I
work with and that I coach. So the thing is, is they'll oftentimes
get really great success when they first start something, okay, they're putting in the work,
they're seeing the development, and then all of a sudden, something will come to a halt,
meaning they did everything right there. Let's let's use women, for example. They went on,
they went on dates. They held masculine frame on point. She was texting him back and forth,
everything went great. And then one day, he just noticed she stopped reaching out or one
day, he noticed that she was no longer interested. And it really confuses him because he did
everything right that he was told to do. What do I mean by this, maybe he's been putting
in the work on his body or in his business. He's on his purpose. Okay, maybe he never
over validated her. So he didn't turn into a complete or soft little Pillsbury Doughboy
that she can pick at. Right, he helped frame and he was a good rock solid man. This really
leaves a bitter taste in man's mouth when they do everything correctly. And the negative
outcome still happens. But I'm going to teach you how to get around this. Okay? If you look
at myself, for an example, right now, this whole year, what's happened with me, as I've
been, you know, growing my business and coaching men, and right now I've kind of hit kind of
a slower point as winters came. And not only that, I've been doing some tweaks to everything
with different products. And I'm in a phase of growth where I've never been here before.
I'm hiring new people, I'm doing new things. And things feel different things feel uneasy.
In fact, things even feel native. When I woke up this morning, I was maybe even what you
would call slightly depressed. Okay, here's what you have to actually understand and differentiate,
there's a very big difference between being depressed and being sad. And just having the
low success or low results for that week or that month or that timeframe. Okay, you would
not know what it's like to experience an ultimate high unless you know what it's like to experience
an ultimate low. And as a man, there's going to be times when you suffer, we all suffer
in our own ways, and there's nothing that you can do to prevent the occasional time
to time suffering. Let that sink in for a second. You can do everything right in your
life, there will still be times that you suffer. You might be wondering, so how do you get
around this And where's the light at the end of the tunnel? Well, as a man as you progress
through life, things don't necessarily get easier. Even if you get more successful. If
you start to make more money and level up your career, you take on more responsibilities,
and all of a sudden there's more headache as you make that money. Okay? If you get really
good with let's say, women and dating for a while, you're going to notice that there
will come a time when it's unfulfilling or when maybe in your relationship, it goes stale
with your current woman. Okay, things just happen. So how do you counter that? How do
you default that? Well, the first method is just through acceptance, you have to accept
the fact that there's some days that are not going to be fun. In fact, not every day is
meant to be fun. Not every day is meant to be a success. And if you think for one second,
that just once you start to put the right steps in order with the right information
and the right methods in life that you're going to just automatically copy paste success
into your life that could happen or that could really fail, where it leaves a bitter taste
in men's mouth is where they do everything right, and she still pulls back and then he
thinks, well, I'm never going to date again. I'm never going to I'm not even going to try
with women or maybe he got burned once or twice in entrepreneurship. He started His
own business or he went a different route than most of his peers were going. And maybe
it was good for the short time being but he sampled it and it burned him and now he's
scared to go back and give it another 10 Okay, the biggest thing you have to understand is
that since life is suffering, you just can't give up. Because if you do not give up, you
have to understand that eventually you will dig your way out. And this may take a week,
this may take a month, this may take a year, this may take two years but with with every
with every peak comes a valley, with every high comes a low with ultimate happiness is
occasionally in life going to come ultimate sad sadness, with summer will come winter,
okay, you get what I'm saying. There's inverses, and there's opposites to everything. One of
the things that you can do to minimize sabotage and minimize distress, I really advise is
to just live a simple life. Now, this is a bit easier for me to kind of say and talk
about due to the fact of where I live. And not only that kind of has shaped my mind over
the years. But one of the things you have to remember is that if you live in a city,
or if you live in a place where people or there's lots of distractions, pulling you
away from the things that give your life purpose and give your life, meaning I would highly
advise to get out of that. Okay, a lot of people have asked, you know, how did I grow
my business and get so many clients within this past year? One of the biggest answers
is just because I don't have anything else to do. Okay, if you look at where I live,
a lot of you guys are nor in a warmer climate than me. But
this right here, I don't know if you can see this. We're gonna zoom in for a second. Okay,
this right here, when I wake up today, and it's 10 degrees outside, and not only is it
10 degrees, but you know, there's snow on the ground. And like, there's not a lot of
things to do, I don't I don't live in like the biggest town, which means I don't have
a lot of distractions, which means I can kind of set up my life, my house and everything
that I want and optimize my life for the success that I need. Now, here's the thing. The reason
why I often advise you guys, you know, throw away your Xbox, or ditch the television, or
do these things is because the quicker you can get to just clear cut results, it's going
to be easier to avoid the sabotage. Okay, a lot of this can stem from where you live,
this can stem from who you surround yourself with. But you have to remember there's certain
things you can control what you can control, you must put those things in place. So you
can propel yourself forward. The things that you can't control. Like when you do everything
right, and things still go south, you have to just roll with that. You have to understand
that distress and misery will come. Even if you do everything right, even if you give
it your all, even if you hold frame on point, even if you're on your purpose, even if you've
cut out the bad food, the alcohol, the things you shouldn't be watching the things you shouldn't
be smoking, you can still fail, just like I can still fail, just like anybody can still
fail. So it's Monday today, I want you to keep your head up no matter what. And not
only that, fellas you have to be you have to embrace the lows with the highs. The key
is to smile through all the times. Because at the end of the day, like it's life regardless,
and there's really not much that's going to fill the void even if you think it will, you
can make more money, you can find more women until you're satisfied with yourself. You
finally connect with God and you feel as if you were here for a reason. That's really
the only way that you're actually going to make it that's the only way you're going to
feel successful. That's the only way you're going to actually wake up with a smile on
your face and be thankful that you even have another opportunity. So hit the like button,
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