Have you ever been in a situation where you feel awkward or you say something awkward or weird
that makes you feel uneasy or you do something that's awkward? I feel like this was my entire
junior high, high school and even college career was being awkward, feeling awkward,
especially in social situations. I want to attack this today on a video and I want to discuss what
you can do to feel less awkward in the situation. And why it's so important. Why is it important
to learn this? Because you want to be less awkward, therefore appear and feel more confident
because confidence is something that women are attracted to. I don't have to tell you that. You
know that women want a confident guy, they want someone who's sure of themselves, someone who's
effective in society. When you're more confident around women, it sub-communicates all of this.
That's why it's so important. Let's talk about this for a second. Let's talk about awkwardness.
One thing you have to understand is, it's only awkward in a situation, if you feel it's awkward.
Even the most confident people sometimes screw up and say something awkward or do something awkward
or just are a little bit off. The difference between someone who is awkward and a confident
person is how they handle the situation. What I'm saying here is awkward is only
awkward if you feel that way. And the reason this is is because of something called the law
of state transfer. What this means is that the emotional state that you're in can transfer
over to the person, in this case the girl that you're talking to. If you feel happy and excited,
she might feel that way because you're feeling that way. We tend to take on the emotions of
others because we're empathetic humans. If you feel awkward, she will feel awkward.
If you feel anxious, she'll feel anxious. I remember a long time ago, I was hanging out
with a couple of guys and I was feeling anxious about something. It had nothing to do with women.
I was feeling anxious about something going on and I was acting very anxious. And my friend
was like dude, you're making me feel very anxious right now, what's going on? You got to chill out.
And it's funny because I wasn't saying anything. None of this was verbal at all,
but he could feel it. We tend to feel what's going on around each other based on their emotions. If
you're acting and feeling awkward, she'll feel that way. If you ever do something that tends to
be awkward or weird or strange in a situation, but you blow it off like it's not a big deal,
this is going to be the key from turning awkwardness into confidence. What I'm talking
about here is this idea of social awareness which is very sexy to a woman. She wants to be
with a guy who is very socially aware. This is an alpha male trait. This is showing that this
someone who is a leader, someone who is the leader of the pack, so to speak. And only that person is
going to have tuned in social awareness. What I'm saying here is call out the weirdness. Acknowledge
it. Acknowledge the fact that something you said was a little strange or a little weird
or that you might be feeling a certain way. But be careful here. I don't want you to call out
the fact that you're nervous because that's not going to look confident. You're going to call
out the fact that something happened that might have been a little strange. I'll give you some
examples right now. Let's say you're talking to a girl and all of a sudden your head goes
blank. Do you ever go blank or you forget to say something or you forget what you're about to say?
Instead of sitting there awkward and tense and weird about it, just acknowledge it.
This is social awareness. Acknowledge it and call it out. You might say... man, I totally
forgot what I was gonna say there. Does that ever happen to you? Do you ever just completely blank?
You can say that. You're acknowledging it, you're calling it out, you're drawing her in.
This is how a confident person would react in a situation like that. Let's imagine
you're nervous and you're talking fast like this and everything's going 100 miles per hour.
Well, you can all of a sudden catch yourself, again social awareness, catching yourself and go,
"you know what, I'm talking a million miles per minute. Let me slow down for a second."
And keep on saying what you're saying a little bit slower. This is an example of something where
you're doing something that feels like you're acting awkward and you're calling it out. I
wrote them down. That's why I'm looking down here. Here's another one, a very common one.
Sometimes you're sitting there and it's not that you forgot what you were going to say next,
but you ran out of things to say. I dare you, when you run out of things to say,
because this is a big fear for guys as they they don't know what to say to a girl when they go
up and talk to her, I dare you to call that out. And you'd be surprised how amazing your brain is,
how incredible your brain is coming up with something to say in the moments where there's
a little bit of a silence. But what you can do in this situation to, again social awareness,
call it out and say, "you know what, I totally ran out of things to say." What I'm saying here is the
technique is call it out. Call it out. The next time that you're in a situation where you think
you've done something that's a little weird, a little strange or just off of your game, anything,
just call it out. This is gonna happen to you no matter what. It still even happens to me. It's
like you're not always completely on, not always completely smooth. Sometimes you'll do something
that completely screws up the conversation. And by the way, what's so interesting about all this is,
you are probably thinking in your head that it's way more awkward than it really is. A lot of the
times when you're talking to someone, you are judging yourself so much harsher than the person
who's talking to you. You might think a silence is going on for longer than it really is. But it's so
painful for you because you think you're the one who's screwing up. What I'm saying here is even
though you might feel like you're screwing up or being awkward, most of the time you might not even
be feeling that way at all and you're having a completely normal conversation and whatever glitch
you think you made is not that big of a deal. But in the case that you think it is, you know now
what to do and what a confident person does. If you want to learn about how to be more confident,
I have a free video called Instantly Confident that teaches you how to be the most confident
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Instantly Confident. Press the like button if this helped you and I'll see you on the next video.