Matt: Have you ever had an attractive girl look at you, and you didn't know what to
do? If you respond the wrong way, or even too late, your chances to seal the deal
could slip away. The first glance can already create tension, and it sets the
tone before you even start talking to her. So
in this video I'm gonna help you capitalize on that crucial moment. My
name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and this is what to do if a girl looks at you.
Anchor: He has mastered the art of Seduction.
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Matt: We've done all the testing, we know what works.
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Matt: Now, it's pretty common for most guys to feel a little bit off-guard when
a hot girl looks at them from afar. Especially if they haven't been in the
game for a while. Before we go over what to do, I noticed that a lot of dating
coaches out there recommend that you act all mysterious and aloof. Like sulking in
the corner of a bar somewhere, as if you expect women to come talk to you. That
does not work very well. In fact, most women will find you creepy and will stay
away from you. Seriously man, don't give off that serial
killer vibe. If she looks at you and you wait too long, it can seriously kill the
mood. And it can make you seem like you're too afraid to even talk to her.
And please don't do the infamous sending her a drink from the bartender.
"Hey this is from that guy over there." But I really don't recommend doing that. At least not
on the initial approach. Waither: "This drink is from the gentleman over there."
Matt: Now, most of the time when a girl looks at you, that means she's interested in you. So
that's a great start. All you need to do is capitalize on the situation. First,
make sure to look back. Women love a man of action. Alpha males are what attract
women the most, so take charge and control. Women don't usually make the
first move. Men do. She's looking at you to make sure that you get the message.
When you've caught her looking at you, look back without hesitation. Now, if she
looks away before you get the chance to make eye contact, keep looking for just a
few seconds to catch her attention. It's important that she knows that you
noticed her. The beauty is that looking back can create sexual tension. And
that's before any words have even come out of your mouth. Make sure you maintain
dominance when you're looking back, don't act all meek and stare at the floor. If
she stares back, keep looking at her. As if you're enjoying each other and
enjoying the moment. Even before you get near. Now that you've caught her
attention, make sure you smile at her. Simply looking at someone smile
literally brightens up your day. A chin up, confident smile is the way to go. It
actually gives her comfort. And shows her that you're a fun guy to be with. When
you're looking back at her, the moment she notices, give her the best smile you
have. One that says, "Hey, let's have some fun." You can also look away and smile for
a moment, then look back at her. This brings a certain allure
and mystery. While at the same time acknowledging that you're going to
approach her and would like to know her better. Here are also some things you
should not do: Avoid a creepy nodding smile, or cheesy smirk. And please don't
frown thinking it's cool to feel entitled. Women hate that. Don't try too
much to force the smile either. Just relax.
Make sure it comes natural, as if you appreciate her looking at you and you're
enjoying every moment. Whatever you do, don't do this.
A good way to know your perfect Smile is to practice every day in the mirror. Go
ahead, it actually helps. Next, I want to talk about establishing eye contact.
Confidence dictates control. When you look at a woman, always maintain eye
contact. Even before the conversation starts. Check her reaction. The moment you
look back and she notices, lock eyes immediately.
Keep at it if she's doing the same. It's actually a very enjoyable stare down
especially after you've thrown the perfect smile at her. If she looks back
quickly, that usually means one of three things:
She got creeped out, or she's the shy type, or she's playing hard-to-get.
Women play hard-to-get all the time, so whatever you do, don't give up yet. If you
think she's the shy type, then give her enough time to adjust. Turn it down a
notch, but don't wait too long to approach or you might lose your chance. I
actually have a whole video on how to deal with shy girls and I'll go ahead
and put that link down in the description. By the way, if you haven't
subscribed to our channel yet, go ahead and do that right now. Hit that subscribe
button. Now if you think she's playing hard to get, then by all means keep the
confidence up and take control. And remember to focus on her eyes. It can be
a total turnoff if you're staring down at her body, rather than her face. "Up here, Michael, up here!"
Matt: Now taking all the previous tips into consideration, approaching her is
the best part. Remember, a woman looking at you is an invitation. Women don't make
the first move, men do. Instinctively, women go for the aggressive and
assertive man. Because that's exactly what they look for in males. Security. And
if you're sloppy and slow, that looks like a weakness and a turn-off. When
women throw out the signal, men that make the move are instantly more
attractive. Remember that body movements are important. Walk tall with a straight
back and your head up. No slouching, or looking at the ground. And keep the eye
contact when it's already established. Now let's talk about opening the
conversation the right way. Now you probably already have that girl all
excited even before you start talking to her, and that's great. When you approach
her make sure to keep the confidence up and start out strong. Here are a few good
opening lines: "Hey, I don't think we've met yet, I'm Matt."
"Nice to meet you!" "Hi ,you know you can't just look at me like that without at
least saying hi. Hi." "Hi there, I'm Matt by the way." So remember man, an attractive
girl looking at you from afar can mean many things, but one thing is for sure. Be
a man, look back, and then make your move. She'll appreciate that, and you'll
probably thank me later. Now that you've made your move, what do you do next?
Well a lot of guys struggle with keeping the conversation going, and knowing what
to say to spark attraction. That's why I created a free Conversation Cheat Sheet.
You get my top conversation starters for any situation.
Simple techniques to never run out of things to say. Simple ways to escalate
the interaction, and more. Download it right now, because you'll want to keep it
handy before you go out. So just click the image in the bottom right of this
video right now, to download your Conversation Cheat Sheet. And if you're
not subscribed to our channel, then go ahead and hit that subscribe button. And
if you want us to personally mentor you, then make sure to check out our bootcamp
schedule. My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and i'll see you in
the next video.