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>>> A COURT TO A RECENTLY
PUBLISHED INTERNATIONAL STUDY,
MEN'S SPERM COUNT IS DECLINI
SIGNIFICANTLY, AND HERE IN THE
U.S.
HERE'S CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST
EMILY DAYALA.
>> HE EMILY -- HEY, DERRICK.
IT'S IMPORTANT TO GET
CONVERSATION.
>> I'M GLAD WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
THIS BECAUSE THIS IS A TOPIC
THAT A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE
UNCOMFORTABLE BY.
IF YOU KNOW ME, I'M SORT OF AN
OPEN BOOK.
I THINK WE SHOULD BE ABLE TO
TALK ABOUT ANYTHING.
>> YOU SHOULD.
>> ESPECIALLY IF IT MAKES US
UNCOMFORTABLE.
TELL US ABOUT THE STUDY.
>> SO THEY DID A REGRESSION
ANALYSIS LOOKING BASICALLY BACK
OVER 40 YEARS O RESEARCH ON
SPERM ANALYSIS.
AND FOUND THAT IT'S DECLINING
YEARS.
IT'S INTERESTING FOE NOTE,
THOUGH -- TO NOTE, THOUGH, THAT
THEY AREN'T SURE WHY.
THEY SPECULATE EXPOSURE TO
PESTICIDES, OBESITY, LIFESTYLE,
STRESS, AND SOME PEOPLE AREN'T
TOO SURE ABOUT THE RESULTS OF
THE STUDY.
TAKE IT WITH A GRAIN OF SALT.
BUT THAT'S NOT TO SAY MEN DON'T
EXPERIENCE SEXUAL HEALTH ISSUES.
>> WHAT ARE SOME OF THE SEXUAL
HEALTH ISSUES THAT MEN --
>> SO YOU KNOW, OF THE -- I WORK
WITH A LOT OF COUPLES IN MY
PRACTICE.
BUT OF THE INDIVIDUALS WHO COME
IN, THE MAJORITY ARE MEN.
NOT WOMEN.
>> SO INTERESTING.
>> I KNOW.
SO I THINK WE'RE QUICK TO THINK
WOMEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO
EXPERIENCE SEXUAL ISSUES, BUT
MEN ARE, TOO OF THE I SEE A LOT
OF -- TOO.
I SEE A LOT OF ERECTILE
DYSFUNCTION, ISSUES AROUND RAPID
DESIRE.
>> LET'S START WITH THE FIRST
ONE.
A TOPIC THAT MAKES A LOT OF
PEOPLE UNCOMFORTABLE BUT SO MANY
MEN EXPERIENCE.
>> THEY DO.
>> I UNDERSTAND THE NERVOUS
SYSTEM PLAYS A REALLY BIG ROLE
IN THIS.
>> SEX BEGINS IN THE BRAIN.
THE LARGEST SEX ORGAN WE HAVE IS
THE BRAIN.
SO INFORMATION IS FED LOU THE
BRAIN AND SET DOWN OUR NERVOUS
SYSTEM TO SEND SIGNALS TO OUR
BODY TO RESPOND OR NOT.
IF THE SYMPATHETIC NERVOUS
SYSTEM IS ACTIVATED, WE'RE IN
THE FIGHT OR FLIGHT MOLD.
WE'RE ANXIOUS, STRESSED OUT.
OUR BODIES ARE NOT GOING TO
RESPOND SEXUALLY.
SEXUAL AROUSAL HAPPENS WHEN OUR
BODIES ARE RELAXED AND THE
PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM
IS ACTIVATED.
>> SO WHEN YOUR MENTAL HOUSE IS
IN ORDER --
I THINK THERE'S A MYTH, THAT MEN
SHOULD BE ABLE TO HAVE SEX
WHENEVER, WITH WHOMEVER, UNDER
ANY CONDITION AND THAT ISN'T
TRUTH.
BOTH MEN AND EQUIPMENT ARE
EQUALLY -- WOMEN ARE EQLAIL
AFFECTED -- EQUALLY FEATED.
THE -- AFFECTED.
>> I KNOW YOU MENTIONED SMOKING
AND OTHER THINGS IN OUR
A CONTRIBUTOR.
BUT WE MAY BE DOING THINGS THAT
AFFECT OUR SEXUAL LIVES WITHOUT
>> ABSOLUTELY.
YOU'RE MORE LIKELY TO BE
SEXUALLY HEALTHY IF YOU LEARN TO
MANAGE YOUR STRESS, IF YOU GET
ENOUGH SLEEP, IF YOU LIMIT YOUR
ALCOHOL INTAKE, EXERCISE IS
REALLY IMPORTANT.
ALL OF THOSE THINGS COMBINED
AROUSAL.
EJACULATION.
>> YES.
>> WHAT'S ONE OF THE
CONTRIBUTORS TO THAT?
>> ANXIETY.
A LOT OF TIMES ANXIETY IS TO
EJACULATION.
AND SO THE THERAPY THEN FOCUSES
ON TREATING THE ANXIETY.
AND I WANT TO ALSO POINT OUT HOW
IMPORTANT PARTNERS' REACTION IS
WHEN SOMETHING DOESN'T GO
ACCORDING TO PLAN SEXUALLY.
WHEN I'M WORKING WITH WOMEN, AND
I ASK THEM THE QUESTION, WHAT
WAS THE WORST PART OF THAT
EXPERIENCE, THEY'LL SAY
SOMETHING LIKE, I WAS WORRIED
THAT YOU KNOW, MY PARTNER WASN'T
HAPPY.
WHEN I ASK THAT QUESTION TO MEN,
99% OF THE TIME, THEIR ANSWER
>> OH, MY GOSH.
THIS IS VERY DEPRESSING
ACTUALLY, BECAUSE THERE'S SO
MUCH SHAME AND MAYBE YOUR
PARTNER IS SHAMING YOU WITHOUT
EVEN REALIZING IT.
>> SOME OF THE REACTIONS FROM
WOMEN ESPECIALLY OF MALE
PARTNERS, I MEAN, HONESTLY, IT
MAX BREAKS MY HEART.
WOMEN CAN BE MEAN.
>> D URVETION -- DUH.
>> AND MEN ARE AFFECTED BY THAT.
SAYING POSITIVE ACCIDENT
ENCOURAGING --
>> INTHAFT WAYS PEOPLE CAN
OVERCOME THESE ISSUES.
HUGE PART.
>> IT IS.
SO ONCE WE CAN IDENTIFY WHAT THE
UNDERLYING ISSUES IS, THAT'S
WHERE WE FOCUS OUR TREATMENT.
BASICALLY LEVEL.
I THINK MINDFULNESS APPROACHES
GO A LONG WAY.
SO WHEN YOU HAVE THE INITIAL
FEELING OF ANXIETY OR THE
THOUGHT, OH, MY GOD, I'M NOT
GOING TO, QUOTE, PERFORM, EVEN
THOUGH I HATE THAT WORD, JUST
SORT OF NOTICING THE THOUGHT AND
FEELING AND CREATING A BIT OF
DISTANCE AS OPPOSED TO
EMOTIONALLY ATTACHING TO IT.
WHEN WE BECOME EMOTIONALLY
ATTACHED TO OUR THOUGHTS, AGAIN,
THAT NERVOUS SYSTEM IS GOING TO
AROUSAL.
>> I COULD TALK TO YOU FOR
HOURS.
>> WE NEVER HAVE ENOUGH TIME.
>> IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO LEARN
MORE OR TO CONNECT WITH EMILY,
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR STOPPING