You won't be unloved after this video. Now, when I did the little poll on the community tab many of
you said you wanted to see more "how-to" videos so I'm going to do a "how-to" for you today.
And what I'm going to go through is - Number 1: Go through 5 reasons why you experience
unloved-ness in your 3D. And Number 2: I'm going to go through how you can correct this
so you can experience more loved-ness okay. Before I do this - down in the description will be the
self-love success stories playlist. Now there's some very basic self-love things you can do and
there's some good learning in those videos that are different ways people got their self love up,
I'm not going to go over old ground so you can go and see that whenever you like and go through it.
But today I'm going to go through some things that are more subtle
and some deeper levels of how we don't love ourselves and how we create that unloved
feeling that gets projected out and then it gets photocopied and showed back to us,
by often people we love, at work, our families and in romantic relationships. So, now..
I'm gonna put also at the end of the video how self-love influences your manifestations okay,
your vibe of unloved-ness or your vibe of loved-ness, so that will be a pop-up at
the end of the video. Now Number 1) Why you experience unloved-ness is because
your energy and your vibe is more in the state of 'I'm not loved, I'm not wanted,' you're more in
that state and that is why you experience the evidence of it. Now we have reasons why we're
in that state - it's because of our childhood experiences, our teenager experiences and then
it overflows onto our adult experiences okay. Now don't think because you've got this that you are
in a minority, I think this is a bit of a pandemic personally, I think the collective consciousness
as we grow from our childhoods into our teenager lives, into our adult lives - I am yet pressed to
find somebody that hasn't had something happen to them - whether it was a divorce, whether it
was someone died, whether it was the teacher at school, whether it was friends moving away,
things in life impact us and have a deep impact when we are very young. And that's where the
beliefs start to hatch and take root okay. Now how to correct this - practice daily..
'I am love' - not 'I am loved by somebody else' - not 'I am lovable by somebody else' - it's 'I
am love.' 'May divine love be made alive in me' as Florence talks about - Florence Scovel Shinn.
Now, so by making it a priority - so many of you want someone else to make you a priority
okay, make yourself a priority. And how do you do that? Now a little exercise for
you - sit down and write a list of how you don't treat yourself with respect,
love and care. I'm not talking about the basic stuff - I'm going to be showing you and giving
you examples of how we do it in more deeply rooted ways that you might not even notice
okay. Now I'm going to give you some examples: Number 1) Big number one - addictions, okay.
Alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, overeating, gambling, pornography, overspending to make yourself feel
better and you've got to stop lying to yourself if you're doing this okay. This is just between you
and you okay, you don't have to tell anyone but you need to be honest with yourself about this
okay and say to yourself yeah I do do this and this is a form of lack of self-love and it is
also a form of disrespect and if I'm treating myself with disrespect then it's no surprise
that I get disrespected or unloved-ness experiences on the outside okay. Number 2)
Big one - workaholism, okay. This is destroying your health okay - chasing the dollar like it's
you know this oasis in the desert, we all need to have money, we all need to bring money in
but you can do it in a way that is respectful over time as you build on your self-love and self-worth
okay. Now workaholism is a bit of a drug, it's a way to avoid things, it's a way that we often
deal with our fear of 'not enough-ness' and it's a belief that keeps running = 'you have to work hard
for money, you have to work hard for money, you have to work hard for money, there's never enough,
there's never enough, there's never enough.' So workaholism is looking at your beliefs okay and
where did you get them from and again goes back to the old inner child, childhood experiences.
Now you can see people that have got this one I was on the um on the bus today
in London and it's like there's some people my goodness the black circles they have around their
eyes, they look like possums or someone's punched them. You know it just unbelievable and it -
I will say what I was thinking - in Australia we say it's like two pee holes in the snow.
So it's really that you treat yourself with disrespect by over working, you smash your
health and you end up not being able to take care of yourself because you're exhausted.
Now if you want to manifest having more love and more evidence of love-ness, if you're exhausted
and constantly running yourself into the ground you're not going to get the person that shows up
and loves you to make up for that okay, your vibe is exhaustion - is a negative belief
and it's a negative vibe, it's a negative state okay. But you've got to do the external things
to correct that. Now in some situations you're in jobs where you're being pushed,
but think about how can I relieve my stress - do I need to get another job? Do I need to
employ someone if it's my own business? Can I work out ways to pull back a bit? Okay, now..
Number 3) Over giving to others. Now I see this a lot especially with women okay,
over giving to others from a feeling of obligation
and not knowing or saying - I mean we know the word "no" but we don't use it enough. So you
have the right to say no - no that doesn't work for me at the moment and you don't have to go on
and on and explain why okay, you're allowed to say no if you don't want to. And that includes family,
that includes friends and that includes a romantic relationship, a boss? Maybe not (laughs), but
you know you've got to look at where am I draining my energy okay. Number 4) Procrastination.
Not doing that course that you said you've wanted to do for ages to further your knowledge okay.
Not being consistent with your exercise, not being consistent with your meditation
if that's something that you want to do. Not being consistent with rest or time to relax
okay. Now this overflows into this next one. Number 5) Way too much screen time. Now some of us
work online but that doesn't mean you have to be you know with your eyeballs glued to the screen,
you know after you finish work. You can make decisions to read, you can make decisions to
listen to music, to cook, to do yoga, whatever it is that uplifts your well-being and recharges you
rather than draining the battery. Now where do I see this a lot is people on social media. Now
every time I'm on a bus in London there's someone doing this in front of me, constantly, it is this
obsession, addiction to 'I need to know what's going on' or 'I need to distract myself' with you
know other people's lives, other people's what's going on.' Now I'm not saying don't look things
up and don't research and all of that, that's all well and good but this aimless kind of thing is
I think this is actually a bit of a sickness and I'm I'll be honest I don't like social media,
those of you that use it you know each to their own but I think it has
elevated people's insecurities because they compare themselves to others and then they use
that to beat themselves with a stick - 'that person's got this, that person's got that,
I'm not there yet.' And instead of spending that 30 minutes or an hour a day doing that - perhaps
read a book, perhaps watch a YouTube about how to do something, perhaps listen to a podcast, perhaps
stare out the window and do your affirmations about 'I am love' and I am 'may divine love be
made alive in me' and do that for your journey and develop yourself in some way okay. So..
this whole yeah 2nd best and I'm not good enough that comes from social media
browsing, you know is a bit of a thing as many of you know now and comparison. Now..
food for thought, which ones of these do you do? If you want to put down below which ones
you need to work on put them on there, if you want to not say anything and you want to
to keep it private up to you, but this is a kind of a second layer to self-love. Yhere's self-love
meditations, affirmation, scripting, you know making sure you sleep enough,
do your exercise and all of that but this is more subtle. This is as we move through our day
how we drain our battery, how we over give to others and how we don't have any reserves. And
how we use whether it's the addictions, workaholism, social media, we use all these
things because we think it's making us feel better but really ask yourself - is it? So..
say to yourself which ones of these do I need to change?
And you might say 'no I'm okay you know I'm okay and and my vibe is much better in I am love
and I'm doing quite well with that.' Whatever it is if you want to put it down in the description
where you're at with these things, how you're going and which ones you need to work on,
let me know because this is really important, it's really important and if you've got those
"possum eyes" like I said I see on the bus make sure you get some sleep. Lots of love everyone
and as always I'll see you on here and I will do more "how-to" for you - videos. "how-to" videos
and I will also be doing more success stories when those of you that have some send them in,
because I do read them out when I get them but you know it's ebb and flow with that,
so if you know someone with a success story my email address is in the description down below.