(mouse clicks)
- Well, I'll get to it.
(chuckles)
In five words, describe what you think
being intimate with me would be like.
(laughs)
- In five words, okay.
Fun...
Sensual...
Heartfelt?
- Okay.
- Long-term.
- Okay.
- Spontaneous.
- Alright, alright, those are good words.
I like that. - Okay.
- Oh, I think I gotta answer it too.
(clicks tongue)
I guess I would definitely also say fun.
Fervent.
- Ooh, I like that!
- Gentle, maybe, to start, I don't know!
(both laugh)
Did you say intimate?
- I don't think so.
- No?
I'm using that.
I think that's my fourth word.
- Yeah.
- And um...
New.
- Okay, okay.
- Yeah.
- Okay, so what's something
you genuinely think that I should know about you.
(he laughs)
- Let's see, something you should know about me.
Hmm.
I mean, I like love music, that's like my whole life.
So if you're around me, be prepared
to have the music blasting like at all times,
you know, that's, I just I love going to concerts
and making music and just like,
yeah, music is like my entire life.
- I heard you playing music.
- Oh for real?
- And I actually work with music artists.
- Really?
- So I'm shooting like behind the scenes for music videos.
I'm like on tour with a music artist.
I was like, like, so before I flew here
I was in Ottawa filming for an album release party.
- Oh damn!
- And I got to do clothing pop-ups
for music artist City Fidalia.
- I don't know him.
He's like touring with IDK.
- Okay.
Oh, so you like--
- I'm like, in it!
Like, we're going to get along!
- Oh shit, all right!
- Like, when I heard you playing the music, I was like,
(whispers) I have to show up.
- Like I was like, I heard it and I was like, okay!
- Who do you like?
- I really like trap right now.
- Yeah?
- Yeah, yeah.
Like R&B, soul trap.
- Yeah.
- Yeah, yeah.
- I really, I'm a big fan of that like,
that dark RNB sound for sure.
But I love like hip hop and--
- Okay, who's like, your OG hip hop artist?
- Like...
- This is going on the internet maybe, so...
(he laughs)
- Like, if I had to pick like, my favorite right now?
Or like, you mean like, when you say OG,
do you mean like, throwback?
- Do both.
- All right.
- And I'm gonna judge you.
- All right, fair enough.
Damn, it kinda changes.
- Right?!
- Like, too often.
You know, I, like, there's just
too many good artists out there.
Like, I can give you who I've been listening to lately.
- Okay yeah.
- Which is like, I've been listening to a lot of
like, Internet James, Jack Harlow.
- No way!
- Yeah.
- Get, wait, wait, wait!
Can I just, this is actually insane.
So I've actually, like, I asked Jack Harlow
if I could use his music in one of my videos.
- For real?
- He said, yes, he's coming to Toronto.
So I fly back tomorrow morning--
- Are you from Toronto?
- To shoot him that night.
Yeah!
- Oh right!
So I'm shooting him, I'm shooting his photographer
and I'm trying to interview him.
- Yo!
- And I was like, yeah.
Did you see the "Ghost" video that came out?
- Yeah, yeah.
- So I was like, "Can I use your track?"
And he was like, "Absolutely."
- Yo, that's tight, that's tight!
- This is crazy.
- Yeah, that's what I was playing in the road.
I was listening to Jack Harlow!
- Yo!
- Yeah, yeah.
- What! - So that's dope.
That's crazy.
- Jack Harlow.
Okay, what do you, 6lack I really like.
- Oh yeah I love him.
- J Cole, I've been into that.
- J Cole is the reason, I got into like
making my own music, but yeah.
That's like, I love hip hop like through and through.
Like crazy.
- What!
This is so weird!
What!
- Yeah.
- Okay, all right.
I'm open to it.
I believe in good energy.
- I fuck with it, I fuck with it.
(both laugh)
- What's the most valuable thing
you learned from your worst date?
- I don't think I've had a bad date.
- No?
Never?
- There's always something like,
funny or like a story behind it.
- Yeah.
- Something valuable that I've learned.
Uh, make them wait.
Oh, snap, all right.
- Yeah, yeah.
You've really never had a bad date though?
- No.
- No?
Because even if the person is like crazy,
that's hilarious to me.
- True, true.
- Oh, this is like, okay.
When was the last time you cried?
- Hmm.
I don't know.
I'm a pretty happy person in general.
And I don't really allow too many, like, bad things
that would make me want to cry to get into my space.
You know?
Like my whole like, mantra, is how could you be mad today?
So that's like, I just don't.
I don't, I don't run into it that often, I guess.
You know?
- That's pretty cool.
- So it's, it's been awhile though.
I'd say like over a year, maybe something like that.
So what about you?
- I saw my best friend yesterday.
So like, it was like--
- It was like happy tears.
- Yeah, yeah.
I don't know.
I don't think, yeah.
I just don't cry that often.
- Okay, all right.
That's honest.
- When was the last time you lied and why?
- I feel like, okay.
So that last question.
Like technically I did cry, but I was,
I feel like there was like a deeper, like more recent cry.
You'd probably want to know.
So I might just go with it yesterday one,
- All right, that's fine, that's fine.
- But like I feel like there's like,
I guess that's not a lie.
- Nah that's like being real.
- Yeah, that makes sense.
- Yeah, you just like, I mean, you said--
- I took the easy answer.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
But I know the question was asking for something deeper.
- You were like revisiting that like,
"Hmm, I don't want to do that."
- He just told me how he was so happy, he never cries.
So I'm not going to answer that question.
- It's not even like that!
It's just like, like I said, I just like,
don't really, I don't know.
I don't have too many.
I don't allow too many things to
bring me down. - That's a really good,
that's a good space to be in.
That's a good self-awareness.
- Yeah, you know, I just feel like, I mean,
things happen that you,
are out of your control that will inevitably make you cry.
Like, you know, family stuff and relationships whatever.
But I haven't had any relationship worries
to worry about for a while.
My family's crazy, but everything's been good.
So like.
- So have you lied in this conversation yet?
- No.
Have you?
- No, not yet.
- Not yet!
- There hasn't been anything.
- That's fine.
- I will promise that
I'm not gonna lie in this conversation.
- All right, I promise too.
We'll pinky promise.
Is it my turn?
No, it's your turn.
Wait, right?
- [Both] Yeah.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
(he laughs)
- Don't look at me like that.
- What do you think are my soft spots?
Meaning, if you had to seduce me, how would you?
- Um...
(she snickers)
- Well, first of all, you know, I'd probably play,
if it's like just us like somewhere,
I probably like put onto some music, you know, real quick.
'Cause that's like, like I said, music is like
my love language, it's everything.
- Okay.
- So, you know, maybe, maybe set the mood
gotta have the vibe, right?
- I like that.
(both laugh)
- And like, seduce you like physically, I guess.
I don't know.
- However you think.
- You know, I'd say the neck and the ears
always is a safe bet.
That's always a good bet.
Maybe, maybe whisper sweet nothings.
(both laugh)
- Yeah, you know, that's definitely my,
yep, you're right.
You got it already.
- All right, all right.
- Yeah.
- Yeah, that's how I do it.
- Okay.
- What about you?
- I knew you're going to ask me that!
Like the way you kicked up, I was like,
I know he's gonna ask!
- Um, okay, if I had to do it,
I think it would definitely be eye contact.
I feel like you're, that would be that.
And it would be like a slow approach, you know?
And that like kind of like silence.
I think you like touch too.
So it'd be like a hand and like an approach.
- I do, yeah.
- And there's obviously some music playing.
- Of course.
- I wanted to say candles, like dimly lit.
- I like literally always have a candle in my room.
Like when I'm chilling at night, like going,
so you're like spot on right there.
- We got it.
I think we're on the same brain,
we've crossed over into that.
Yeah.
- I also, I definitely liked my hair played with
even though like, one of my things is like
I hate when people like, just touch mine.
Like it's like chill out.
- Yeah, yeah.
- But if I invite you to,
then it's like, you know.
- Okay.
- Who doesn't like their hair played with?
- So if you, if she, if you think she's cute,
then it's okay.
- Yeah.
- Okay.
- More or less.
- Okay.
Okay.
What do you think I'm hesitant to tell you right now?
- You're hesitant to tell me the last time,
why the last time you, you cried cried
and we don't need to dive into this.
I'm good.
Unless you want to.
I'm all ears.
I'm a good listener.
- I will actually tell you the last time I cried.
- All right.
- I'll do that, because I said I would be open.
- All right, all right, fair enough.
- The last time I cried was--
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