- Hey, psych2goers.
Thank you so much for your support!
How do the people around you make you feel?
Are you truly happy in life right now?
Having a loving and caring family,
partner, and friends is important
to keep you happy and fulfilled in life.
However, like anything in life,
it's impossible to have only the good things
without experiencing the bad things,
and having bad and toxic friends
has always been a very common occurrence.
Toxic relationships can be very damaging
for your overall wellbeing.
So it's very important
to cut the toxic relationships off
as soon as possible.
With this in mind, here are five types of people
you should stop being friends with.
One, the friend who always needs something.
Does your friend only ever talk to you
when he or she needs something?
This is a very telling sign
that you have a toxic relationship with that person.
Don't get this wrong.
It's okay to need things from your friends
from time to time.
But a friend, who is constantly asking
for things from you,
be it money, class notes, or a ride
without giving anything back,
is certainly someone who will not contribute
to your happiness.
True friendships involve mutual interest
and not one person just taking from the other.
Additionally, people tend to change
their relationship priorities
at different times in their lives.
And it's normal for your friends
to have less time for you
when they start working on a personal project
or when they find a partner.
What's not okay is only looking for you
when they need something
and then giving you zero priority
and disappearing once they get what they want.
That only shows that rather than being interested in you,
they only see you as someone who they can take from.
So, cutting these people out of your life
will allow you to spend more time and effort
on people who are actually interested.
Two, the friend who gaslights you.
Have you ever had a friend
who constantly blames you
whenever something bad happens in the relationship?
If the answer is yes,
you might need to consider
that your friend is gaslighting you.
Gaslighting refers to the act
of manipulating a person to question their thoughts,
memories, and things happening around them.
Make sure that you compare what your friend is saying
with the way they act.
For example, if your friend says
that they care for you after blaming you,
but treats you very badly,
chances are that they are only saying
that they care for you
as a way to gaslight you.
Three, the friend who never reaches out to you.
Do you feel like you are the one
doing everything in a friendship to maintain it?
Are you always the one who has to make the plans
to meet with your friend?
A very common trait of a toxic friendship
is a one-sided investment of time and effort.
If and when they decide to answer your texts,
they also make you feel
like they are doing you a favor.
If you can relate to that situation,
then it might be a good idea
to find a way out of the relationship.
Being in a friendship where you have to do everything
and then they make you feel like they're doing you a favor
can be very exhausting
and make you feel underappreciated.
Four, the friend who always talks about themselves.
Keeping a balance in relationships
can be considered impossible,
so accepting that some things will be unfair
in friendships is very common.
However, do you feel like your conversations
with your friend always end up being about them?
Even when you talk to them about a problem
that you're having, they turn it around
so that the conversation ends up being about them.
You might be looking for someone
whom you can vent your problems to
only to find yourself being the one
listening to your friend's problem.
Having this kind of friend
can be frustrating
since you will feel like you cannot rely on them
or tell them anything
while you always have to give them
your time and attention.
Five, the friend who always talks down on you.
Do you feel like your friend constantly says things
to put you down or make you feel inferior?
If the answer is yes,
then the best you can do
is stop being friends with that person.
It's normal to feel like you are not in a place
that you wish to be
when one of your friends gets a promotion
or has achieved something you have not.
After all, this feeling
is one of the main driving forces for success.
However, it's completely different
if your friend is the one who comes to you
and brags about the promotion
with the intent of making you feel
like you are inferior.
You are better off with no friends
than with friends who enjoy
making you feel inferior constantly.
If any of the situations addressed above
sound familiar to you, then reevaluating
who you should truly consider a friend
and reorganizing your priorities
is the way to go.
After all, you wouldn't want to be investing
most of your time and effort
into nourishing a toxic friendship
that will only negatively affect
your overall wellbeing.
We hope we were able to give you insight
into how some people are just not your friends at all.
Do any of these describe your experience?
How did you find out?
Leave a comment down below
about your encounters with them if you'd like.
Please feel free to share any thoughts
you have as well.
If you find this video helpful,
be sure to hit the like button
and share with those out there
being taken advantage of.
Don't forget to subscribe to psych2go
and hit the notification bell for more new videos.
Thanks for watching.