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As a quick note, we wanted to say that this video
is for educational purposes only, and we're not suggesting
that you need to end your relationship
if you're familiar with any of these reasons.
What's important is to sit down
with your partner and talk about any issues first.
We also encourage you to speak with somebody you trust,
who can provide support, with that said, let's begin.
Being in love can feel like one of the most
amazing feelings in the world.
Even though you and your partner
are very much in love with each other,
it doesn't necessarily mean that they'll stick around.
Sometimes you can be in a relationship
with someone who loves you
and that person can still wind up leaving you.
That feeling of abandonment can really hurt.
And it does because you know that you had love
within your grasp and you still let it slip away.
It can make you question your entire relationship.
Like why would they so willingly walk away from love?
To help you get some closure,
here are six common reasons why people choose
to leave the ones that they love.
Number one, they don't feel respected.
Do you respect each other in your relationship?
At the foundation of any kind of relationship is respect.
Your partner may love you
but they will never allow themselves to stay
in a relationship that didn't have mutual respect.
A person's dignity is always going to come first
and it's best to stay mindful of that notion.
Number two, they don't feel emotionally supported.
Are you able to be vulnerable and open around each other?
The bulk of what makes up a good relationship
is the emotional support between two individuals
who love one another.
Neither one of you wants to feel slighted or cheated.
The rough patches are common
and having to be vulnerable can be difficult.
Vulnerability opens up the possibility of pain.
And if your partner doesn't feel
that they're being supported emotionally, it's less likely
that they will allow themselves to be vulnerable with you.
Number three, your relationship
has experienced a loss of physical intimacy.
Have you ever been in a situation where you still love
and care for your partner
but you're not attracted to them anymore?
Physical affection is much more than sex.
And as part of the glue that holds
the relationship together.
Research has found that non-sexual physical intimacy
is key to longterm happiness in a relationship.
And that held close, skin to skin contact, releases the same
bonding chemicals in your brain as sex would.
Research has found that humans have an innate ability
to interpret emotional messages through touch alone.
In a 2009 study conducted by Hertenstein,
blindfolded people were able to correctly interpret eight
distinct emotions, such as anger, fear, disgust,
love, gratitude, sympathy, happiness and sadness,
solely through the touch of a stranger, with 78% accuracy.
Loss of physical intimacy is often the first step
towards a loss of emotional intimacy.
It's such a critical part
of our relationship that when it's gone,
you or your partner may be tempted
to look for it somewhere else.
Number four, they don't feel adequate.
Believe it or not, a person is always at risk
of leaving the relationship whenever they don't feel
like they're enough for somebody.
In a relationship, your partner wants to feel
validated by you and desires to be appreciated.
Over time, if they don't get the appreciation they deserve,
they may feel inadequate
and choose to leave the relationship.
Number five, they don't feel listened to.
One tip you always get is that communication
is very important in a relationship.
However, we might take that to mean
that we need to be doing a lot of talking
in the relationship, but it's more than just talking,
it's also about listening.
Do you truly listen to what your partner has to say
or do you listen just for the sake of responding?
Healthy communication consists
of both listening and speaking.
If your partner doesn't feel properly listened to
and like they don't have much of a voice,
they may feel that they can't express themselves
in the way that they'd like to.
And number six, they no longer feel an emotional connection.
Studies have shown that the love
and passion that comes with the initial boost
of marriage, has a tendency
to wear off after about two years.
This is why the best relationships are the ones
that have genuine friendship at their core.
Emotional connection is often what sustains
a long lasting relationship.
And if that is no longer there,
this may be another reason why people choose
to leave the person they love.
Did this video help you find closure,
or if you've left someone you loved,
did you relate to any of these reasons?
Let us know in the comments below.
It can be difficult and overwhelming,
especially when making the decision
to leave a relationship that you're invested in.
We hope this video was able to provide
some insight for you, please like
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and you think it could help someone else too.
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