I think one of the things that I noticed the most when I'm working with coaching clients
is that they are talking to girls who are wasting their time. Here's the thing, I don't like to play
victim. This is not an anti woman video. And I'm not just saying that to be politically correct.
I'm saying that you need to notice which women are a waste of your time. It's not something that the
woman is doing. It's something that you're doing and what you're doing is you're not recognizing
that she is a waste of time. I get it. Trust me, I've been in this exact situation more times than
I'd like to admit when I'm not recognizing that a woman is wasting my time. Is she interested?
Is she someone that I really want to pursue? We're going to be going over that and more right
now. Once you learn this, you're not going to be having women who are wasting your time. That means
that you're going to be more efficient with your time, which is going to help you meet women that
are interested. This is going to be a process that's going to go so much smoother and much
faster for you. I wish this was something I knew when I was younger. If I did, then I would not
be wasting so much time with women I knew who are not interested and I'd have even more experiences
that I've had in my life and ones that I can learn from. Basically this is how it's going to work. I
have this filter in my head and this is the filter I'm going to share with you. I have a filter in
my head that is, is this woman willing to meet up with me? That's filter one. And if it seems
like it's kind of hard, then it's not gonna work. I'll give you the signs in just a second but they
all have to do with this filter. Is she willing to meet up with me? If she is great. That passes the
step one. Step two is, is she willing to escalate with me physically? Because if you're dating
and you're trying to be a guy who is dating, you're not looking to get into a friendship.
This is barring any sort of religious situation. I know people are at different lengths of that. I'm
not speaking to those people. I'm speaking to guys who are interested in having sexual, physical,
intimate type of relationships with women. Again, filter in my head, is she meeting up with me? Is
she willing to escalate to something physical? Let's go into the 5 signs that those things
are not happening. I like to say by date three (so this is sign one) by date three... if she
is not kissing you... and I mean you're going for the kiss but she has not replied to that kiss,
or I should say responded to that kiss, she's not letting that happen, this girl is probably a waste
of time for you. She's probably not interested in doing something physical. By date three,
there are a lot of people out there who are already having sex. I'm not saying you have
to have sex by date three, but if you are not even at the least kissing, if she's not willing to kiss
you back by date three, this is a waste of time. I have clients I work with where they are going
on date three, date four, date five and this has barely happened. My guess is this is a woman who's
either not interested or is just at a pace that doesn't match yours. It's very important here. I
literally was texting this to a client the other day. This is not the same pace that you're going
at. This is something where it's going much slower for you. I'm just gonna take a wild guess. There's
probably a lot of guys out there that want to be kissing by date three. No judgement if you don't,
but I'm talking to that guy who does. At the very least, if that's not happening,
big sign this is a waste of time. Another one, this is a pretty obvious one. She's responding to
your text messages days later. Okay, days later. Hours is normal. People are busy and they're doing
work and whatever. But if you get a response from a text days later from a girl that you're talking
to that you're interested in, this is probably a sign that she's not too interested in you.
Women who have a high level of interest are sometimes responding within minutes,
if not at least a couple of hours. Any woman who's responding back to you and you think maybe
you have a shot with her, something's going on and she's responding days later... there's no excuse
in the world, except for a very outlier type of situation that maybe happens but it is so rare
where she's not texting you back and it's taking her two days to do it. Any more than a couple
days, this woman is not interested, big waste of time. Third one, this should be the biggest one,
she can never meet up or she's flaking a lot. Again, with the exception of a very outlier
experience. I'm working with a client right now and they went on a first date, everything went
well. On the second date she's like, my brother's in the hospital. I can't meet up with you on this
day. I have to fly back to where I'm from. And then she suggests but hey, let's do a video chat.
Obviously this girl's interested. But if a girl keeps flaking on you or she's not interested in
meeting up, you can't get her to meet up with you, big waste of time, drop her, move on. Number four,
this is one that a lot of guys don't think about. And this is why you got to watch the whole video
here because I have a lot of good things to say. This one is she just got out of a relationship.
This is sign number four. She just got out of a relationship. These women are a waste of time
because you just don't know what's going on with that past relationship. Is she still into the guy?
Is the ex texting her. Are her feelings still confused about whether she should be dating or not
dating? Anyone who just got out of a relationship recently. I'm gonna say anywhere between
one day and three months. This is a girl who is most likely a waste of time and I wouldn't
invest any time into this woman. You should be finding someone who is way more further out
of a breakup so you know that she's more ready to be dating you and doesn't all of a sudden, one day
after three or four dates and she just goes oh, you know what, I just realized I can't be doing
this. I'm still talking to my ex and things are still unresolved there. Blah, blah, blah. Again,
we're not playing victim, we're not blaming women. It's on you to recognize these things.
Make sure you find out if she just got out of a relationship or if she brings something up there.
Anything like that is a waste of time. Here's another one, sort of related to this, but a
little bit different. That's why I have to bring it up as sign number 5. Sign number 5 is she says
she's not ready to date or she's just not ready to get into a relationship, anything like that.
What this is saying is either A, she's making it up and lying to you because she's not
interested in dating you. It's just some sort of excuse or she means it but you, my friend are
sticking around. You're sticking around, you're orbiting, you're hanging out being like okay,
she said she's not ready to date yet. She didn't reject me. She used the I'm not ready to date
yet. So maybe if I stick around long enough when she's ready to date, she'll come around and she'll
pick me. I bet you that there's a lot of guys right now, maybe even it's you who are going...
shaking my head, I can't believe that that is something that I've been doing. A lot of guys
do this. This is a waste of time. It's wasting your time because it's preventing you from being
on dates with women who are interested in you. There's no guarantee that this woman is ever
going to come around. And most likely it's a lie or an excuse and she's just not interested in you.
But we don't want to wait for that. We want to be dating women and going through these experiences.
Because how long can you wait till she's ready to date? Who knows? It could be a month, it could be
six months, it could be two years. You have no idea. Don't waste your time with a woman
who says anything about the fact that she's not ready to date right now. Any women right now that
are not willing to meet up with you, that are not escalating or show any signs that I've said, cut
them out of your life right now. Goodbye, move on from them. Stop responding to their text messages.
Don't necessarily ghost. Just tell them that you're not interested anymore. Whatever it may be,
however you want to do it, cut them out, move on and move on to some women that are interested
in you and are not exhibiting these signs. Here's something to look out for. Gotta make sure you're
being honest with yourself. There's very little exceptions here. Very little exceptions. I've
already mentioned some of the exceptions. Some women are very religious, maybe you're religious,
maybe outlier experiences that have happened. But be very honest with yourself. If you are out here
dating and you see any of these signs, do not play this oh one-itis I'm so into this one woman. No,
you don't understand Tripp, there's something so special about her. It doesn't matter how special
she is. If she's not willing to meet up with you and physically escalate, this woman is a waste
of time. If you need help with this, if you need some actual feedback on your specific situation,
don't hesitate to reach out to me for coaching. Just go to Coached by Tripp dot com. I'll put a
link down below and you can click on that link. It's going to take you to an application form
where you and I can then finally get on the phone together and see if coaching is a good
fit for you. I can help you with these situations and help you meet more women. I want to help you.
I want your success. Please go down if you need more help. Don't hesitate. A lot of guys don't
know that I do coaching and this is my avenue to tell you that I do and I can help you. Hope
this helps. Let me know in the comments below if any of these are ones that you've noticed
from any women. So write a number 1, 2, 3, 4 or 5 if any of these are ones that
you've seen. I want to hear from you and so does everyone else. I'll see you on the next video.