Empaths and Codependents - Targets for Narcissists and Sociopaths
through my coaching today I want to talk about
co-dependency and compassion and boundaries very important many of us who
honor selves attracting narcissists discovered that we are so we have so
much empathy for people that we love who are not being very nice we have so much
compassion people who only ever since we live we feel we could understand why
people are not nice to us and so I know my own situation when my mother is being
abrasive I would observe how my mom and dad were interacting and I can come to
presume and ensuring that because daddy wasn't being nice to mommy and he wasn't
being considered her feelings and a heart she's working throughout the day
and he was being abrasive like a costume at that time mommy was not nice to me so
I was happy even at five six seven or eight years old had such great
compassion for my mom and I realized later on impact and that I could feel
with other people were feeling and while it's a remarkable quality to have as a
human being can be very very difficult to navigate when your child and all you
can do with feel you don't have to shut it off your feeling I mean to me I mean
I don't know if I was crazy if I would imagine that I could feel what a plan
she'll want a dog but I'm just as a little kid I remember walking path /
broken I was thinking to myself oh my god that plan man hasn't added me and I
don't know I can't be sure but I remember distinctly just simply being a
child with that
I thought I would worry about the birds and squirrels I wouldn't worry about
bears and dogs and when there is a thunderstorm I only got this poor ounce
changed walks away and and immediately think about a tree being cut down and
imagine that I could feel with that field and so so much into this world and
you can't help but feel everything and that's really hard when you're a kid
because a lot of people don't feel what other people are feeling a lot of people
don't care what other people are feeling their parents you know question how the
children feel i mean it's beyond me to imagine being a parent who doesn't
consider his or her child deals but I need to reality is a lot of parents out
there just don't give up and so we those of us who have this tremendous maybe may
have been born fetal cells they just have no understanding or passion or
empathy for the problem is is that creatures we don't have and so when I
met my hands and my first one particular I was like 15 artists such a lot of the
time completely boy crazy and you would like time in like five minutes and I
should have first and then I was 12 14 years all but I understand why he was
like that because you know he doesn't feel
to prove to him that I love you know he was flirting with other girls you know
you know you know he totally understood why he was he was but I had no passion
for myself now this video is about how those of others
figure out how we can still have everything for others but you know
figure out what's the boundary
why do we have all the well this is again I'm not personally but I think the
Bible is a tremendous history book in my opinion you know she personally that me
what happens when you go and so I focus on something else number 12 reality you
don't just take the focus back into your body and she's to focus upon others
doing to you if you want to use it as a lock myself it is so much
mom when that and so before me
compassion and understanding before it offers a narcissist understanding I
first started understanding why that person so I don't understand that first
make sure that I am taking care of me
mom female and male energy to make sure that I put myself that I honor myself I
respect the temple this is my spirit lives in respect my body and so fetal
Avalon and now they are considering my feelings as we all know we all know
where we are and what our society people are just a few people you know the
person dealing with hot but they never understand you know that's what he will
close to me because she is falling ice cream down all our ability to him and
all his ability to float
sure and all while there are just anywhere
and before we before we can be kind to others it's very he made his first asked
up a couple of questions so it's a checklist before that person having done
before off and my ability that have affected me before I understand myself
so I am standing while this relationship is costing made on an emotional level
emotions everything deal on emotions are they are and so if you're not going to
your heart and you and you will spiritually and psychologically angry
that we also ask is that we begin to see the Trinity to have your separate way
but understand that we have to understand our psychological cells with
all the information that's her psychology comes yes he believed that
personality traits can be ok whatever whenever the psychology so and so we're
also we're all so and so
codependent personality disorder
aspect of me
we are spirit soul and body so we are but this is that okay it does but so are
sending out his creation and we're grabbing and it's being transmitted to
us so we can see are now and that down and so if I feel in my heart that
information to be ok and the brain gets imprinted with this idea I am unlovable
whenever he is mobile and then we just
compassionate people just 10 then you will be picking up other people's now
this is a great quality as you be if you have if you have developed a lot of
objectifying
so I worked with quite a struggle with this myself
aggressive and I just know his behavior
justifying his behavior because I had to identify your behavior
jungle that's a lot of discernment I have to know them and so our selves and
they're so its people by nature very important that you have to develop
ok but you have not conditional or compassion to self when you really you
know people so that's why the gold fish ok so if it's just me and that I love
myself because I want to be around you care now all the people of India upset
because my goal and have compassion while they understand why I'm doing what
I do and I know anybody it's really not that I have to accept that people have a
right to their opinion and that they have a right to be unhappy
compassionate about how that makes me feel that I need to have compassion for
myself in that situation we got back to you and having compassion for self
important to keep in mind that we judge ourselves that we have to learn to
identify the difference between
and judging just need to figure out looking to figure out what kind of
person that you have when they're not who's seen me whether or not you have
the ability to hear that's not sure if you say that
and so is you are divine authentic stop and all we have to do is wait and then
start weeding psychological police stopped and asked to do that were able
to get higher and higher higher higher higher higher consciousness and we feel
that we have to we get it we get home welcome to all members of the family
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