By the end of this video,
I'm going to give you six ways to starve that narcissist.
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Okay,
so let's go and I'm going to give you six ways and the best one is at the end.
So you're definitely going to want to stay till the end of this video.
Alright, so number one,
Let me tell you,
I've had to deal with narcissist myself and in my personal life
and I know how they are.
They don't respect your boundaries
and why don't they respect your boundaries?
They don't respect your boundaries because they don't really see you as people.
They see you as possessions.
Narcissist just kind of see you as an extension of themselves.
They're just a way to get narcissistic supply from you.
They want to just own you.
They want to control you and so when you try to lay down a boundary,
they want to break through that boundary.
They just show up to your house or office.
They don't want to respect that boundaries.
So they're going to want to break through.
So you have to really lay down that boundary
and then stick to it because they see it as a challenge.
The minute you try to have a boundary,
they're going to flood you.
They're going to flood you with text or going to flood you.
They're going to like push through and you have to condition them.
They've conditioned you in that love-bombing process at the beginning
of the relationship, they started conditioning you to see
if you were going to be a good form of supply
and so in order to start starving them in order to start shifting the relationship back,
you're going to have to start shifting and reconditioning them.
So it's going to be hard but you're going to have to do it.
All right.
So that's number one is boundaries.
Really start saying,
okay, you can literally start setting time,
you know, time interactions.
I will speak to this person,
but it's going to be for 30 minutes and that's it.
Like you can literally set a timer.
Set a timer on your phone
or set an agenda and say I will speak to this person.
It will be for 30 minutes and we are only going to talk about X and that's it.
Nothing more.
If it goes beyond that topic or that amount of time.
I'm done.
That's number two
Brief Interactions.
and that's part of keeping it brief because it's super hard.
They want to trigger you.
They do whatever they can to trigger you.
They know how to trigger you.
They go right for that jugular.
They know exactly how to get under your skin
and so you didn't make sure that you show no emotions whatsoever.
Part of the reason why they try to trigger you by the way,
is because then, they can try to use things against you,
especially in writing.
So be really really careful about that.
So that's number three.
Number three is no emotion.
this is part of no emotion,
but it's even a step further is not taking the bait.
They'll send things out there, you know,
trying to bait you.
Trying to hook you in.
It may be hoovering.
It may be love-bombing.
It may be something to get you to lure you in to their web
and you just have to say you're not going to take their bait.
They're going to say something, do something.
It may even be something through it.
Third-party show up somewhere,
at a third parties house or do something with a third party.
They're going to do something to try to get your attention to try
to get you triggered to get your attention.
You just have to say that you're not going to take the bait
because they're trying to get that supply out of you.
They're trying to get that supply and if you're going
to starve the narcissist from that supply.
You have to make that resolution to yourself
that you're not going to take the bait.
So what I want you to do right now is put in the comments.
I won't take the bait.
I won't take the bait because if you really going to starve that narcissist,
it's so hard but you have to say I won't take the bait.
Okay, that's number four.
and really really being careful about
how you're responding to them in writing
and the reason why is because this is where they're going to catch you.
This is where they're going to try to use something against you.
Just remember that dealing with a narcissist
is like getting arrested.
Anything that you do or say, they will definitely use against you
and I have a whole video on how to respond to narcissists text messages
and you can definitely check that out.
Really really good stuff in there.
So you definitely want to check that out
and the last one.
The last one is definitely the best one.
If you can do this, not everybody can do this.
Some people I get are still intertwined and intermingled,
Just get out, move on.
I always say wipe them from the CPU of your life if you can
The air is cleaner, the sky is Bluer.
The grass is greener.
So if there's a way that you can move on,
definitely do that and if you are in a situation where
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