there is a difference between
complaining to release stress and your
unconscious ego giving you a false sense
of agency to divert you again and again
from the real work you need to do in
order to make real change in your life
this video addresses the latter one stop
complaining about life circumstances you
refuse to work on in any capacity like
your job
I just hate working nights man look man
I know that work sucks sometimes if you
hate this job that much you should just
become a lawyer so you can have day
hours and still fight crime yeah but
that's like four years of school dude
yeah but do you want me to life of
misery or for mere years to have the
life that you want or your significant
other yeah she is just like always
listening man it's so annoying well have
you tried talking to her she's always
asking me to upgrade her software it
never ends there's always a new update
or installation well maybe you should
tell Alexa don't say her name
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I'm happily single great I'm going to
have to sleep on the nightstand tonight
to stop complaining consistently
overtime without effort about things
that you have control over like I'm just
like so busy I don't have time to do
anything I mean I know that I've been
controlling my schedule and I can just
like you know plan a little bit so it
would be so stressed out a week to week
but I just can't or I just can't seem to
get into shape you know my current
decisions made me feel terrible
and I know little daily decisions could
lead to long term health I just like
can't three
stop complaining about injustice or
wrongdoing in the world and refusing to
be a part of the solution you know we
all have this habit of using social
media as a substitute for activism and
Tokat me wrong I mean visibility and
awareness are valuable and the virality
of the Internet is incredibly useful to
get like national or global attention on
a very pressing issue but if you never
donate volunteer vote or make meaningful
little changes in your own life to
aiding causes that are important to you
then it's time to step it up because
words without action is not activism
tweets are not votes and a Facebook post
does not substitute for an hour of
volunteering if you're going to complain
you can also contribute something my
therapist says is that chronic
complainers who don't do anything to
change their life are often people who
were subjected to some kind of trauma
early on that is unresolved and it's
inhibiting them in adulthood and this
can be as simple as like when they were
a kid they had their reality denied are
you guys for real telling me you don't
see this no honey
you're crazy
or maybe they were shut down when they
tried to take action when I grow up I
want to be a lawyer objection you're
gonna carry on the family business of
the Jill aunt ISM the most important
thing we can do is to make space for
people to freely express themselves
while also setting our own boundaries
for instance one of my best friends
wanted to break up with her boyfriend
for like a solid four months and it got
to the point where I had to tell her
lovingly but sternly look you have one
more month to complain about this to me
at this point I feel like it's really
unkind to continue having a relationship
with this person without having a real
conversation with him about how you feel
I love you but I also need to set this
boundary to keep on loving you and look
I've definitely been a chronic
complainer I mean who do you think was
the inspiration for this video myself
but sooner or later you have to become
conscious of the ways your unresolved
traumas are holding you back heal them
take control and responsibility for your
own life and be okay I'm Anna Akana and
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