hello in this video I'm going to share five common symptoms of driving anxiety the people who have a
fear of driving always think are unique to them but they're not I'm also going to share two ways
you can fix the problem and give you a bonus way you can overcome your fear for free my name's Paul
and I work online with people all over the world to help them overcome their fear of driving and
the reason I'm making this video is so many people come to me convinced that they are the only person
in the world who's got these symptoms and they think that they're weird and there's something
really strange and they've got some huge problem that can never be overcome well let's get straight
into the symptoms and if you've got a fever driving you might recognize some of these things
the first one is many people who come to me say they have a fear and a panic attack when
they're sitting waiting in a queue of cars and a stoplight or a red light depending on what
you call them wherever you are in the world this is especially true when you're waiting
to turn across traffic so here in the UK you'd be waiting to turn right across oncoming traffic
I work with many people in America who say that they're waiting to turn left across traffic and
as soon as the light goes green they feel fine but when it's unread the pressure is on and I
feel like everyone's watching them and all eyes are on them some of you will be thinking that
I'm psychic because I have had people who've said to me wow you must be psychic that's exactly what
I'm thinking no I don't have any special powers at all I'm not psychic it's just because I work with
so many people who have this problem then I hear it over and over again so if you've got that don't
worry it's very common and let me move on to point number two now the second thing that many people
have in common when they have a fear of driving and this is one you maybe haven't even realized
do you have a fear of speaking in public if you have ever had a fear where you don't like standing
up and doing public speaking in front of groups of people maybe at school or at work you don't like
giving presentations and you don't like that kind of thing at all well that's very common very very
often people who come to me with driving anxiety have a problem and you may have heard me say in
other videos how driving anxiety has nothing to do with driving but what you need to realize is that
all of these things can be linked together so you see your fear of public speaking is the same thing
it's causing your fear of driving so when people come to me and they work with me and overcome
the problem this is what I mean by you don't just get rid of your driving problem in many ways your
driving anxiety can often be the last thing to go sometimes people say it's weird or works with you
and I still can't drive yet but my public speaking has gone much better well that's because first
we're not working on the driving driving anxiety it's just a symptom of another problem and it
will show up in other areas of your life such as this is number three waiting in a Queue at Shops
have you ever found that when you're queuing in shops and you're in a long line of people
you feel panicked I've had times where clients of mine have said if there's more than five or
six people in front of me I just have to pull my basket down and run out of the shop screaming
because I guess horrible feeling of panic attacks coming on and he just feels terrible
and talking at that let's move on to number four another common one that many people with a fear of
driving have trouble with is roller coasters yeah as some of you will be thinking wow I've got all
of these I've got this thing about waiting in a cube of cars speaking in public waiting in a cute
shops and roller coasters I've never lied them I just hate that feeling of being out of control and
I hate going on the loop the loop and I hate being trapped and feel all closed in well this proves
that I work with so many people who have the same problem and you're not on your own okay a lot of
help can be found by realizing that you're not alone thousands of people across the world have
this problem and that's why I do what I do the fifth symptom I'll give you and this is one that's
really going to shock a lot of people is did your problem begin around a wedding were you going
to someone else's wedding and the panic attack driving happened on the way to or from the wedding
that's wonderful surprise a lot of people because you might think back and think wow I never even
realized yeah we did start around the time of that wedding so those are five common symptoms
things that have happened to people the times it's begun the times the problem comes up and there are
others I'm going to in other videos but let me tell you now the two ways that we fix the problem
if you've watched my other videos which I'll talk about more in a moment you'll know that
it's actually a repressed memory it's an emotion from the past which is trapped and needs releasing
and for some reason it's coming out when you drive or when you're in shops or any of those situations
I mentioned before and it seems weird because it actually hasn't got anything to do with that
situation and that's what it can seem so funny the way you mind I realize is although you have
a fear of driving you could have easily become fear of spiders or a fear of elevators because
when this memory comes up whatever you're doing at that time becomes your phobia and this phobia
can be anything I've known people who've had a fear of post boxes so when he walked past post
boxes and would freak out every time they saw a post box for some people it can be a fear
of wheelie bins it can be a fear of police cars which is nothing to do with the police it's just
whatever you're doing at the time that kind of latches on to the emotion you're feeling and it
can become a phobia now that's one way you can do it but another way you can fix it is to look for
faults in your logic and I've done another video about logic and anxiety sometimes what happens is
the memory or the emotion or whatever you want to call it is so long ago that you actually forgotten
it and even your subconscious mind as in a way forgotten it and it's just become lost in the
midst of time so if you can't find a memory what we can do instead is find fault with your logic
and I'll give you an example of this now I once worked with a client who told me that I hated
Liars quite common thing again people say this often comes up in sessions people say I hate liars
I can't stand people who lie and I ask them the question well why are you lying to yourself then
and they stopped and thought for a moment and said I'm sorry I don't understand what you mean I said
well think about it you can drive a car right you know how to drive you've got a license you
can drive anywhere in a suitable yeah so why are you lying to yourself if you hate liars
and he took a moment to get it but what I was saying to them is why are you lying to yourself
and pretending you can't drive if you hate liars and that's the loop they were caught in they hate
your Liars but they were lying to themselves and when you highlight that Loop what happens is the
loop breaks and if you've got a fear of driving you're no doubt familiar with this Loop you've
probably had this thing where you feel like you go around in circles because you want to do it but
you can't do it but you want to do it but you hate it but you love driving but you hate it and you go
round and round in a loop and you takes someone from the outside to highlight that Loop for you
and then the loop breaks down it's not the problem is this mysterious thing that you don't understand
but when you highlight it and shine a light on it it starts to fall apart and although The Logical
conclusions you've come to will just fall apart it's like a big rope it's been Tidings and Knots
and you'll just doing the knots one by one and the Rope just opens up and instead of being this
big mess that you don't understand it's just a nice straight rope and that's what we're doing
and there would be we're undoing those knots and a final point for this video which is the free
bonus I mentioned about a way that can help you overcome it is to watch many of my videos what
people have often said to me in a consultation is you know it's weird after watching a few of your
videos my driving just got better and I don't know why I don't know if it's the way you speak I don't
know if it's your voice I don't know if you've put hidden messages in any of your videos or there's
something like that going on but for some reason after I've watched a few of your videos and then
I've watched 5 10 20 of them it just started getting easier and easier well the reason for
that is the more you understand the problem the more you'll start to undo the knots yourself
you've only got this problem because you don't know what it is so the whole point of therapy is
to highlight what it is therapy is not this weird thing where you go through these deaf
procedures people talk about close your eyes and imagine yourself walking through a house and as
you open a door you transport it to a magical land and this person Whispers the solution to
your problem in your ear and people say to me I never understand that stuff well neither do I I
don't get it at all it's just people who don't know what they're doing and they're coming up
with these weird wacky Solutions whereas what I do is say look it's simple you've got a problem
but you don't know what's causing you so when you know what's causing it the problem will go
think of you love this imagine you go along to some paranormal events and kind of ghost hunting
nights somewhere and you hear a spooky noise this ghostly voice wailing from the wall and
it scares you and then somebody with points so there's a speaker hidden in the wall and
it's just an MP3 someone's playing through the speaker what happens to your fear of the ghost
when you realize it's just an MP3 playing through a speaker when it goes because as
the saying goes knowledge is power and once you understand where your problem is you will fall
apart in the cold light of day and it will go so by watching more in my videos and understanding
more and more about it that alone can be enough for some people to overcome the fear of driving
watch these other videos on the screen now for more help overcoming your fear of driving and
if you'd like to work with me online from anywhere in the world contact me through my
website 1stdrive.com thanks for watching and as always I'll see you again soon for more videos