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Today is another video request, and the question is, 'Should Christians date or marry non-Christians?'
This is going to be a very interesting one.
So let's not waste any more time. Let's get right to it.
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Now, is it wrong or a sin to date or marry an unbeliever?
Well, it doesn't matter what I say.
It matters what Scripture says about it. So let's take a look at what the Bible says.
1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.”
So, here Paul is not just talking about romantic relationships, but any company, bad company.
So, yes, we do have the power to choose who we are friends with, who we spend our time with,
but they will influence you even without you realizing it.
Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
If you have bad friends,
they will influence you negatively, and they can cause a lot of unnecessary problems.
And if you want to date an unbeliever or marry an unbeliever, you will be UNEQUALLY YOKED.
2 Corinthians 6:12 says, “You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted in your own affections.
In return (I speak as to children) widen your hearts also.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness?
Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?”
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
Now, this does not mean that you cannot talk to unbelievers or share the gospel.
In fact, you have to. Just like Jesus, remember, He talked and ate with sinners.
Jesus said in Luke 5:32, “I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance.”
But it's different when you want to date or marry an unbeliever. And the Bible is very clear.
It says do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.
Now, what does that mean, yoked?
Yoke means to put a yoke on a pair of animals, like a harness for work.
Now, it's easy for two of the same types of animals to work together,
to move in the same direction like two big Oxes, but if you bring together two different animals;
If you bring a big strong OX together with a DONKEY, they're not the same.
It's not going to work. The donkey is more stubborn, and he's going to want to go in its own way.
And it's the same for a believer and an unbeliever. We are two different types of humans.
They are spiritually dead.
They don't want to follow God, they want to do their own thing, and you are spiritually reborn.
You want to follow God and do as He tells you, not out of fear because of hell,
but out of love and respect for God, because as a Christian, you are a new creation.
2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.
The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”
The unbeliever doesn't want to follow God, but you are different,
because you know the truth of the world and of God.
Your Spiritual eyes have been opened, and you have the yoke of God upon you.
Jesus says in Matthew 11:28, “Come to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
Now, listen to this.
“Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart,
and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.”
Look, at the beginning of a relationship you might have a big crush on this person,
but if they are not a believer.
In time that relationship will get very, very, very difficult.
Ask anyone who has been married for a long time.
Marriage is not easy. It takes work.
Even for Christians, it’s not easy because there will be disagreements.
There will be problems, there will be issues, there will be hard times.
And if you're with an unbeliever who sees the world differently,
who thinks differently, it will be a lot worse for you.
Why?
Because they are spiritually dead.
There is NO SPIRITUAL HARMONY between you.
They are spiritually dead, and you are spiritually alive.
When you became a Christian, God gave His Spirit to you, and you were spiritually reborn,
and you are a temple of God.
2 Corinthians 6:15 says, “What accord has Christ with Belial?
Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?
What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God;
As God said: ‘I will make My dwelling among them and walk among them,
and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.”
God is the one who created marriage in the first place.
He is the one that brings a man and a woman together and makes them one flesh.
Jesus says in Matthew 19:4, “Have you not read that He who created them
from the beginning made them male and female,
and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother
and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
So they are no longer two but one in flesh
What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."
This is so beautiful!
You know, marriage can be one of the most amazing experiences you can have in this life,
in this world;
IF God is in the center, it is the foundation of your marriage.
But it can also be one of the worst experiences of your life if He's not in it,
if it's not a Godly marriage.
And here's a few reasons why:
Because you live in the SPIRIT and they, an unbeliever, lives in the FLESH.
Romans 8:5 says, “For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh,
for to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.
For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God;
for it does not submit to God's laws; indeed, it cannot.
Those who are in the flesh cannot please God."
And then you have two different opposing WORLD VIEWS.
Colossians 2:2 says, "That their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love,
to reach all the riches of full assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God's mystery,
which is Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.”
You see your whole life now as a reborn Christian, as a child of God, is about Christ,
because you are in Him, and He is in you, and the unbeliever cannot understand this.
1 Corinthians 2:14 says, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God,
for they are folly to Him,
and He is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.”
And then you have different MASTERS.
You have God almighty, and they have... let's read it;
“And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked,
following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air,
the Spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience-
among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh."
You were an unbeliever when you first came into the world,
until the moment you accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior,
and then you became a child of God that is led by the Holy Spirit
Romans 8:14 says, “For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.
Then you have two opposing AIMS in life.
The unbelievers they just do what their fleshly nature's desire.
But as a Christian, your desire is to live for Christ and to please Him.
So everything you do, you do for Him.
1 Corinthians 10:31 says, “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do,
do it all to the glory of God.”
And the list goes on.
The difference between a believer and an unbeliever,
But imagine if you get CHILDREN, how are you going to raise your children?
How are you going to teach them right from wrong,
if your beliefs are different from that of your husband or your wife?
What are you going to do?
Will he or she allow you to teach them the truth about God? To discipline them?
There are a lot more things that we can talk about,
but look there's nothing wrong with building quality relationships with unbelievers.
If God leads you to do it because it might just save them, but romantic relationships are different.
Is it right for a Christian, for a believer, to date or marry an unbeliever?
No, it's not, not according to the Bible.
You might say, well, dating is not that serious. Well, why do you date in the first place?
You date not just to play around, right?
Because you know what the Bible says about this.
If you're dating, you date someone to find someone to marry.
If you are dating an unbeliever,
let me ask you this question, and I want you to be very honest with yourself;
Are you dating that person because God wants you to?
Or because you want to?
Let me ask you another question;
Are you willing to wait on God, to pray and wait until He sends you the right person at the right time?
Remember, Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything,
but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving
let your request be made known to God, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
This is one of the most important decisions of your life, who you will marry.
Because you will be with them forever, every single day, until the end of your life,
and it will change your life.
So don't just jump into something. Don't be hasty.
Do it with God and wait on Him to send you the right person at the right time.
And then when He sends you your husband or your wife, remember this always,
the happiness and the peace that you need does not come from your husband,
or your wife, or from anyone else.
Nobody can fill that emptiness inside of you, that thirst you have no one can quench it, only God can.
Jesus said in John 4:13, “Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again,
but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again.
The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
One of the mistakes that people do is that when they marry,
they think that it's the other person's responsibility to make them happy.
To give them what they want and need to be happy in life.
Of course, it does help, but no,
everything you need comes from God because if you have Him, you have everything.
And always remember to put God first in your life because no one can beat Him.
No one can beat His love for you.
And remember, He is your first real love.
God loves you, and I love you too.
Bye!