(they laugh)
(upbeat music)
- I'm AJ.
I am a 25 year old writer, performer, producer
here in New York city.
And I'm a Gemini.
I identify as a queer man.
There's a lot of letters in the LGBT community
and that fits for a lot of people,
but societal categories don't really work for me.
When it comes to dating as a Gemini,
I do see my people pleasing aspects coming out a little bit.
The problem with that is,
I can sit across from somebody at a date,
make them feel wonderful
and they realize they've made a new friend
versus a possible romantic or intimate partner.
My goal for today
is to be able to have enough self awareness
to set those delicious boundaries.
Even though that might hurt somebody.
(upbeat music)
- [AJ] What's your name, honey?
- Oh, Chris.
- Chris. I'm AJ.
- Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you, Chris. Where you from?
- I'm originally from Long Island.
- Did you love growing up there?
- No. (Chris laughs)
- Yeah, okay.
- What do you do in town?
- So I'm a content creator
and I also manage one of my family's businesses.
- When you say content creation, what do you mean?
- Mainly do cosplay works, so.
- Wow! - Yeah.
- No, keep going, keep going.
- So I do guy versions of female characters,
mostly princesses.
So Cinderella's like my main character.
- Okay.
- I do Rapunzel, Sleeping Beauty, Ariel, Belle.
I did Snow White, Princess Jasmine,
Odette from the Swan Princess.
- Of course.
- I'm doing Elsa.
I'm about to work on Tinkerbell.
- Have you been single for a while?
- Ahhh, I've technically only had one boyfriend
that lasted
six weeks.
- Yeah. Let's bless him really quick.
Let's put stars over him really quick.
- I don't want to. (Chris laughs)
- Now let's get on with the conversation, right?
- I'm sure he's doing great.
- In a romantic way, I'm not sure it's there.
- He seemed more like someone I could, like, Kiki with.
(upbeat music)
- Nice to meet you. Matt.
- Matt? - Yes.
- Pleasure. - Good to meet you.
- You look good in green.
- Oh, likewise.
- Do you like spending time at home, at home
as much as you like spending time out with friends,
like, how's your dance with that?
- I was a very much introverted when I grew up.
- Yeah.
- I was very much like the kid in the corner.
I was nice to everyone. It was very important to feel.
- Matt was? - Oh, man.
- No, you're so charming. (Matt laughs)
- I do balance those.
I love going out, I love being in.
- But then also a day where, like,
nope we're drinking red wine and watching Schitt's Creek,
- Love it. - Or other stupid television.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah. - All day long.
That's fine too.
- How dare you call Schitt's Creek stupid.
- It's not stupid, it's so good.
(Matt laughs) It's so good. It's so good.
What's your Hogwarts house?
- It says Ravenclaw.
- Come on.
- I'm fine with that.
- That's great. - Right, yeah.
- My Hufflepuff nature was like, babe,
can we just chill for a while?
(Matt laughs)
You're like, no, we're going to get this done.
- Yeah, but what are those things
that you kind of gravitate to a little bit?
- Um, I like humor.
I like someone who's aware of what's going on in the world.
- Right.
- Clever, but not a dick is ideal.
You can tell when there's something cooking
behind someone's eyes.
- Exactly, yeah.
My bullshit alarm is finally tuned.
(Matt laughs)
Finally tuned.
God, he's so charming.
Matt was somebody
I could see myself talking to a lot longer.
- Yeah, we smiled a lot,
we laughed a lot
and I always feel like that's a good sign.
(upbeat music)
- What's exciting you right now?
- I recently started into my acting career.
- That's amazing. - Yeah.
- Congratulations. - Thank you so much.
- To adopt a creative lifestyle is huge and important.
- I feel like when you have a little calling
in your intuition, you've got to follow it.
- Of course. - You know.
- The second that you say I'm going to be an actor,
I'm Michael and I will be an actor,
the universe will start accommodating to that request.
Does that make any sense?
- No, totally. - Good.
- Positive affirmations. - Absolutely.
- To the universe. - Absolutely.
Can you tell me what it is you're looking for
that you haven't found?
- I mean, I'm kind of a go with the flow kind of person.
Just living life working, yeah.
- Are you into the idea of like,
you're going to walk into an elevator one day
and there he'll be,
and then it's all going to make sense after that?
- Totally.
- How you feel about manifesting
and also being reactive about it too?
Do you have a relationship practice
or like a, you know what I mean?
Like, a formula or a routine
to be able to find that perfect person for you?
(crickets chirping)
I was kind of prompting a few more conversations.
It's almost like he answered it,
and then I was like, alright,
what are we going to talk about now?
- He was super cool.
I think we could totally get along
'cause we share so much in common.
(upbeat music)
- You'll have to excuse me.
I'm kinda sweaty, the room's hot
and I think it's hot outside.
- That's why I brought this.
(AJ laughs)
Cool us down.
- It says stunning on it. - Hello?
- That is hilarious.
- On brand.
- Tell me what is exciting you the most right now?
- I'll just say, like, where life is going right now.
- Yeah.
- I've been feeling, like, really excited.
- I feel recently really motivated in my relationships.
I, I'm really interested in, like, filling my cup full
and everybody gets the trickles on the side.
- Yes.
- You know what I mean? That's.
- Once I got enough. - Yeah.
- Then I can give to the children.
- Right,
and it just inspires me a little bit more
to have a daily creativity practice.
- If we do one thing a day that scares us,
(AJ gasps)
then we're making progress.
- I think so. - Right?
- You are speaking my language so much.
- Okay.
- What's your favorite place in New York?
- There's this gorgeous rock in Central Park,
- Right as, off of Columbus Circle?
- Yes, you got it.
- Bigger than the rest? - Yes!
- That is ridiculous,
the fact that you said that is ridiculous.
- Oh my God.
- And connected energy, it's just.
- Some kind of magic there.
- There was something about Justice.
We met and wild geese changed their flight directions,
and ancestors and angels screamed in harmony,
like, Justice and AJ have finally met.
- AJ and I shared a really, like, special moment
we both had a very spiritual connection to.
(upbeat music)
- Stop overthinking this.
This sucks.
Okay, we're good.
How am I going to choose who I want to see again,
while knowing that I'm going to tell people
I don't want to see you again?
It's difficult.
Let's see how this goes.
Chris, I don't think there's room
for a relationship between the two of us.
At this moment, I feel that I might be
either too intimidating or you are,
and I don't think that's what I'm looking for.
Does that makes sense at all?
- Actually, absolutely yes.
- Okay.
- Very mutual understanding of who we could be as people.
- And I'm going to tell Michael
I don't see a relationship for us.
Right now, I'm willing to say
that we'd be good friends
or artistic collaborators in the future.
You feel okay with that?
- Yeah, I got such a good vibe from you.
- I appreciate that.
- Like, a total artist collaboration.
- That went much smoother
than I thought it was going to go.
- Totally in sync as far as being friends.
- Right now, I think Matt has so much charisma.
He's super, super attractive and,
and almost in an intimidating way.
Could I be good enough?
You left an impression on me.
So charismatic and charming,
I think I like threw myself over.
(Matt laughs)
I was like, God, he's charming.
- That's very nice of you.
- Do you perhaps see a possible romantic future?
- Maybe a friendship thing, maybe more.
I would need probably more time to determine that.
- I think so too.
- But I think it's been really fun to talk to you.
- I appreciate that. - Yeah, yeah, of course.
My guess is it would become more of a friendship.
- I guess I'm okay with that.
I'm not hurting about it right now,
but I don't know what's going to happen
when I'm at the bar two hours from now.
And then there's Justice who just came in
and it seemed like we'd known each other forever.
I feel that we would close all the bars in Manhattan.
You need to know, for some reason
the second you walked in,
it was like, thank you,
Justice and AJ finally met.
What's difficult for me is
I don't know what that means moving forward.
Like, did you think romantically,
did you think something that's more cosmic
and more of a friendship or cordial way?
- Romantically, I'm like,
it's really hard for me to get into those spaces.
But instantly, this has to be, like, besties.
- Yeah.
- I feel like me and you understand each other.
Not only spiritually, the way that we just connect.
- Yeah.
- I'm sorry but I need this in my life.
- We have to let this continue.
- Yeah - Supposed to be.
- Definitely. - There you go.
- Meant to be. (They laugh)
- I just know for certain that I need to see Justice again.
- Me and AJ totally same page.
I was definitely supposed to meet him here.
That's it.
- I didn't find love today,
but I did get a little caught off guard.
Maybe that's a feeling
that I need to start risking a little bit more
if I am going to find that perfect person.
I also think I really want to
ground myself a little bit more.
Maybe it might become a little bit easier
to find love
rather than finding four new best friends.