do you have a bunch of people in your life telling you that you need to go out
more well stay tuned as we talk about this what is up everybody this is Chris
from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and today's problem is unsolicited advice alright anyways
welcome back to another video where this week I'm diving into the topic of how to
be a better person these are basically life lessons that I've learned over time
and soon I'll be jumping back into more scientific mental illness type stuff but
anyways share this video share this video if you have a bunch of people in
your life saying that you need to go out more
alright because we need to really really talk about this and this video was
actually inspired by my buddy Kay over at the channel bipolar pug so make sure
after this video you go check out her channel and subscribe
not only does she talk about her struggles and successes with bipolar
disorder she talks about a lot of mental health stuff she's an amazing amazing
woman and I really love her channel and I really want you to go check it out so
please do me this favor and go check her channel out and hit that little
subscribe but she basically made a video recently about social isolation now this
might sound contradictory to anybody out there who has subscribed me for a while
and as watched my other videos about how isolation can actually fuel depression
and anxiety let's talk about the unsolicited advice of people saying you
don't go out enough you need to go out more go out more go out more go out more
like back up back up like it blows my mind like that people think that you
need to do certain things like everybody's personalities are different
like I I am a very social person when I am in social situations I'm very social
I will talk my face off but most of the time most of the time I just like to sit
and relax with maybe one or two people many many many of my weekends or with my
girlfriend and my son I have maybe maybe three or four close friends and like two
of them live in other states you know what I mean
I'm not constantly going out especially as you get older me I'm a
recovering drug addict an alcoholic like the bar scene the club scene isn't
really my thing like I hear a lot of people like who think that Las Vegas
that's all we do but no I like never go out there like those of you who follow
me on Instagram this weekend we were on the Las Vegas Strip because my mom was
in town and like I was just telling my girlfriend I'm like man like most of
this is my worst nightmare just shuffling along with a billion
other people I I don't like it especially anybody out there who
struggles with social anxiety I just don't like it and like a lot of you
might be able to relate like and here's the thing too like there's nothing that
says you have to go out X amount of times to be happy like I used to go out
just because it was the social norm or it's what my friends were pressuring me
to do and I was miserable I was miserable so going out was not making me
happy one of the themes of this video is like why are you valuing the opinions of
other people so so so much why are you letting it get to you that they say you
need to go out more like if you like to chill and just sit at home and stuff
like that cool if that's your prerogative do it I remember when one
time one of my best friends the one I went to go visit in California she said
this years ago and I lost it because the people at her work were telling her you
should come out you need to come out you never come out like she just doesn't
like to like she's not in recovery but she doesn't really drink or party or
anything like that she likes to hang out watch Netflix with
her cat maybe go to some record stores and things like that and she goes to a
lot of concerts but like she doesn't do the whole clubbing scene I'm like girl
do your thing do what makes you happy you do you so like I'm here to let you
know that if you don't like going out into public social situations all the
time cool do that I am letting you know that
it's okay and if you have any friends or family members out there who say that
you don't go out enough share this video with them say hey man this guy Chris
over at this mental health channel the rewired soul don't forget to subscribe
he is talking about that much now here's what I will say like when I was
talking to my buddy Kay about this when she brought this up in her video like
it's 2018 being social has a whole different meaning to
now like for example a and I have never met in person she lives over in England
okay me and her have never met but we we socialize and we interact through like
Instagram or on Twitter or whatever my buddy Charlie over authentic mental
health he lives in another country we talk on whatsapp I talk to people all
over the country I'm constantly talking to so many people and being social
socializing in this day and age is not always face to face you can be extremely
social without even stepping outside of your door now like maybe 10 15 years ago
like maybe this was kind of weird and things like that but like anybody who
really thinks like oh that's not healthy that's not healthy like they need to get
with the times because they're romanticizing this old day and age where
you had to go out and meet people in they're like no it's much different now
my girlfriend got me into the podcast of jenna Marbles and her boyfriend Julian
and they were actually talking about gaming and how gaming is a social
activity like a lot of my really really good friends the people I've built
strong relationships through with like their online their gaming like I've been
playing a lot of Fortnight lately and like a bunch of guys and I talked to
most of the day or guys who live like on the East Coast I we've never met in
person but we like talking we socialize you talk about work we talk about life
we talk about our cat we talk about our sources or all sorts of stuff and this
doesn't involve me going out into public so like I just really wanted to rant
about this because like man it bums me out seeing people's mental health worsen
because they value the opinions of other people telling them that they need to go
out more you do what makes you happy now like I've mentioned
isolating makes anxiety and depression worse so you got to find out what your
balance is like don't isolate all the time like go to a coffee shop every now
and then go go shopping like don't take too much advantage of like how
everything can get delivered to your door like do certain social things just
because science has proven that being around other humans helps increase
different neurotransmitters in your head but for the most of them for the most
part you'll also get these neuro train meters going by just talking and
building strong bonds and relationships with other people so find a community
find your friends find people online like if you're in the art go on
Instagram find other artists if you're into like a certain TV show get into
different communities go on let it find people who are into the same stuff as
you are and socialize online I beg of you
I beg of you okay like just don't keep everything in and not talk to anybody
start building relationships wherever you can okay so again like I said share
this video so people can quit bugging other people trying to tell them how to
run their life and they need to socialize more and go out Born share
this video with them and hopefully this will give them another point of view on
the subject but do me a favor let me know down in the comments below are you
more of an introvert do you like to stay inside how do you build relationships do
you have friends who are online through different communities let me know down
in the comments below I would love love love to hear from you because you
sharing that in the comments might actually help other people who are
watching this video okay but anyways that's all I got for you today so if you
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