This is Sami from Ministry of Attraction and today I want to talk
to you about why you should stop watching porn.
Now I'm sure people are watching this and thinking fuck
that, you're not taking away my porn from me, that's all I've got
left, and I'm here to tell you that you should stop it and I'll tell
you why.
The first reason I want to tell you what you should stop it is
because it's unnatural, okay?
Your brain is only used to seeing things
and getting excited when they're real, okay?
You're basically, back in the olden days, think about your
ancestors, your ancestors was able to see maybe 30, 40 girls over his
entire lifespan, okay, and when he would see a girl that meant that
there was a chance for reproduction.
That's a chance for him to pass on his genes.
So he would see an attractive girl and
then he would get excited and say, you know what, this is what I need
to do, this is where I need to pass on my genes.
Fast forward to present day and you can see those
30, 40 girls that he would see in his entire lifespan, you'd be able
to see them in 10, 15 minutes on a screen, okay?
Now think about why that's wrong.
Your brain is used to firing dopamine when you're going
to get food, when you're going to get sex, one of these things where
you're going to help your chances of survival.
So if your brain is firing dopamine, back then, it was
firing dopamine because there was a good chance of reproducing and
you'd get excited, whereas now, you're watching 30, 40 girls on a
screen when you're like changing them and changing them, and like
within almost 10, 15 minutes, you're able to switch whenever you
want, okay?
So your brain is firing dopamine, pssht, DOPAMIIINE!!!
And as soon as you have like a little
bit of disinterest, you are able to close video, open new video, and
then you're sending more and more dopamine, because your brain still
sees this as a chance to reproduce.
Your brain's thinking all these girls, I'm going to be able to
reproduce with.
So that's why you're still firing dopamine into
your body and your like, oh God, I've got to do this, okay?
Now the other reason why I think it's bad
for you is because it's an unnatural position, even, okay?
When you're sitting down and watching porn, you're either on a
screen from your phone holding it and watching it like that and
that's what you're getting excited, or you're sitting down at your
computer and you're typing on your keyboard and playing with your
mouse, and it's just a very unnatural way for you to get
aroused, okay?
So your body kind of gets used to this position and what
happens when you see a real girl, when you're out with her and you go
home and you're in a bed?
You're like, you've got all these
emotions, you've got all this touching, all these smells, all
this, so much energy is going on and you like, oh my God, I don't
know what to do…
So, some people have erectile dysfunction, all
right, and you shouldn't be having that kind of stuff if you're a
young guy who's out there trying to get laid.
You're not supposed to get erectile dysfunction.
If anything, you're supposed to get a
little bit nervous, but that's about it.
But what's happening is that you're so used to seeing girls
on the screen it's a completely different reality to you once you
get a girl in bed, you're like...
Actually I know some people who say, I prefer watching porn, and
masturbating to that, than having sex.
Why?
Because they've conditioned themselves so much that
this is what they need, that this is their bread and butter and
that's all they need and that real sex is bad for them, that's what
they've conditioned themselves to do.
Now the other reason why it's bad for you is because you are
being told by your body that it's satisfied, you're like, you know
what, you're telling your brain, you know what, you wanted sex, I
got it for you, I got it and there's 30 girls, I got sex with 30
girls for you, I've been watching on my screen and I got it for you,
and your brain thinks okay cool, that's good...
And then it's conditioned that the only way
you've had it from last time, from previous experience, is 30, 40
girls on a screen, and it keeps this reference experience and it's
just like forever it's like a buildup of, this is what I'm used
to, okay?
So your body's being lied to that it's satisfied.
So basically porn is rotting your
brain.
Just in the same way way your body needs food, you need
nutrition, you need vitamins, and when you're hungry your body wants
this stuff, and sometimes you can trick it.
You can trick it by not actually getting the things you
need.
You will get a fast food burger.
You go to McDonald's and you get a burger and you eat it,
and there's all these salts and sugars and your body gets tricked
into, oh cool, I got the nutrition value of my day, that's good, I'm
happy.
No need for more food, no need for vegetables, I'm good, I'm
happy with this meal that I've had.
So think about watching porn as like a mass version of eating fast
food.
If you eat fast food for an entire year, it'll be the same
thing systematically as watching porn for an entire year.
You're doing the exact same lie to your
brain, you're saying, you know what, you wanted something, here
you go.
And as we've gotten so used to in our modern-day society, it's
instant gratification.
You're so used to saying, I want this, and
then you'll see a big advert of "burger, two dollars, one huge
burger the size of your head, take it, it's going to fill you up, it's
all you need".
And you're like, okay cool, and you're lied to,
because you're thinking, my body needs this.
Same thing with watching porn, you are going to be
like, I don't need to have sex right now, I don't need to go out,
here's my computer, I'm going to sit down and watch porn.
And you're lying to your brain!
It gets you so lazy that people who actually watch
porn and up going out less, from my previous experience of guys who
I've seen who, all they do is just sit at home and watch porn, they
just get lazy.
So it comes to the point where they're like, you know
what, I'm not even going to go out tonight, I've already watched porn,
I've already masturbated, it's all good.
Now don't confuse this, I'm not saying stop masturbating.
You can carry on your masturbating
using your imagination, but definitely don't carry on
masturbating while watching porn, getting your body conditioned to
lying to yourself where it's just like, okay cool this is what I
need.
Now let's compare the two: when you're sitting down until
watching porn and you're on your laptop, so you're used to being,
you know, sat on a table, watching a screen, clicking around, and
you're at it with your other hand and you're just like clicking
through, changing searches…
When you get bored a little bit, when
you're dopamine level drops a tiny bit, you're used to changing the
screen, changing the scene and then you're like, dopamine back up!
And it's firing, firing, firing until
you reach a climax.
So you're used to doing it from your laptop or
even nowadays from your phone where you're just looking at your phone
and going through different kinds of videos until your brain gets
like the perfect scene for you to climax.
Now in real life, you're not sitting down on the table and
you're not holding a screen in your hand.
What you programmed yourself to do is wrong, okay?
So when you're out with a girl, and a lot
of guys have this problem, guys come to me and say, I was able to
take her home and able to do everything, but I couldn't get an
erection.
Why is that, you know, I really am attracted to her but I
just couldn't get an erection.
Now one of the things is you're
probably nervous, that's true, you're probably nervous, and that's
why, but at the same time, these guys who are maybe even able to get
an erection but they're not able to climax is because they're so used
to conditioning themselves on watching porn, sitting like this
while looking at the phone and being able to change scenes as many
times as they want.
So when you're out there in the real world, it's a
completely different ballgame.
You're not used to that, you're used to doing it one way.
Now the other extreme is people say, no
fap, no fap 90 days, don't even do that... bullshit.
I don't think that's a good thing at all, don't
go one extreme or the other.
That's a problem with pickup, people have
a skewed vision of how pickup should be.
Just like, go in all out or go out.
You can't do that, you can't be zero or 100%, you have to
find the fine line, that's why I think calibration is really
important in pickup, because goes a very used to just having one way or
another.
For example when people say in nightlife you shouldn't go
out and buy a girl drinks.
That's fine, but there are situations
where it's like, you know what, I've already slept with this girl,
yes I am going to take of my five dollars, five euros, whatever and
I'm going to buy this go drink, calm down, like it's not that big
of deal.
But a lot of guys are so conditioned of, no no no, they told
me I shouldn't buy drinks, I'm not buying the drinks, never, never,
not me.
So you kind of have to like, not be socially awkward about
it.
It's not zero or 100.
You can finally find the fine-tune of it,
where it's like, you know what, the situation calls for it, we've
already hooked up, I can buy her a drink, it's not a big deal.
So the same thing when you're watching
porn.
You don't have to completely cut out masturbation, I'm not
saying that.
I say carry on masturbating, just use your
imagination, you don't have to watch porn and condition yourself
to it, but at the same time, if you are going to masturbate, only do it
when you come home at the end of the night at like four, five in the
morning, and you've completely failed, okay?
Don't use it as an excuse, don't do it before you go
out of the house, because that's another thing, people go spend
their whole week working, and when the weekend comes, they're like,
you know what, I'm going to go out, it's going to be great, I'm going
to party, they switch on the porn, the masturbate, they climax, and
then it's just like, you know what, I don't really need to go out.
The challenge I want to set for you
guys in this video is, go out for an entire week, set aside an entire
week where you're going to go out for four nights out of that seven-
day period.
For that entire week you're not allowed to watch porn,
and for those four nights you're going to go out until the bitter
end, okay?
You're going to go out from the time the club opens until
four, five, six in the morning, depending on the time the club
closes in your area.
And you're going to go out and you're going to
push yourself until the bitter end, until you have not taken home
anyone, and only once you have failed, if you've gone out and you
failed and you weren't able to take someone home, then you can go home
and masturbate.
Still, don't watch porn, go home and masturbate and
say, you know what, I tried, I'm going to give myself a little
break.
If you really can't, for those of you who are like, I'm
really dedicated to quitting this, completely stop masturbating for
the entire week, okay?
I'm not saying do it for life, but for
those seven days don't masturbate.
Go out there and you'll see how your basic male instinct is so much
stronger.
You're not going to go to the club and go up to girls like,
oh hey, you're going to have more like instinct, like ooh, yeah, this
is who I am, this is who I represent, I'm a fucking man,
whereas if you watch porn you're kind of like, more like, hey...?
I don't really need this because I've
already watched porn, but hi, how are you?
Maybe I'll be able to take you home.
Maybe I'll get an erection.
A lot of the guys will have that problem because they're
so used to watching porn that they won't be able to get an erection or
even climax because they're so used to watching it sitting at home on a
laptop watching the screen and that's what they're programmed
their mind into thinking that that's what sex should feel like.
All right?
That's all from me for this week, and until next time,
take care guys!