For guys, the hardest part about dating is the most important and crucial part of it:
maintaining an interesting conversation that makes the girl attracted to you.
So many guys overthink this, make mistakes, freeze up and have no idea what to say.
Since I’m a god, I’m gonna go ahead and show you the BIGGEST mistakes that you’re
DEFINITELY making, and show you how to fix them with conversation tactics that will build
her attraction towards you and make her more likely to go home with you.
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Mistake #1: Roadblock phrases
Now when most guys are in conversation with a girl or with anyone, they’ll often respond
to someone’s story or sentence with a roadblock phrase, or phrases that completely kill the
flow of the conversation and don’t warrant a response or continuation.
So if a girl tells you a story and you only respond with, “Oh that’s dope” or “Oh
wow that’s so awesome.”
What the fuck is she supposed to respond to that?
Exactly.
Phrases like, “cool” or “that’s great” or “awesome” without any follow up or
substance to go with it, create a roadblock in the conversation that forces the girl to
put in EXTRA effort to keep the conversation going.
And if you started the conversation and are trying to get with HER, then she’s not gonna
waste time stirring and driving the conversation forward when you haven’t proven to her that
you’re an attractive guy worthy of her attention.
These create surface level banter and small talk and don’t push the conversation forward.
And the reality is, that most people are guilty of using roadblock phrases in conversation
with girls and guys in general, so next time you catch yourself doing it, be sure to eliminate
it.
Like I’ve said in previous videos, girls follow an emotional train of thought while
guys tend to follow a logical train of thought.
This is why It’s so important to understand that the goal of ANY conversation with a girl
is to create an emotional connection with her because that emotional connection is what
will make her want to escalate the connection to a physical one, aka you and her taking
it to pound town baby.
This brings me to mistake #2.
Mistake #2: Making the conversation too logical
Like I just said, girls need to have an emotional connection with a guy in order for them to
want to hook up because at the end of the day, a physical connection is rooted in an
emotional connection or desire.
So when you make the conversation too logical and boring, it’s not gonna appeal to her
emotion and thus YOU aren’t going to appeal to her sexually.
This is why roadblock phrases are so bad to include in conversation because they kill
any potential for emotional connection.
Make the conversation fun, exciting, light, and comfortable, and you’ll appeal to all
the right emotions that will make her want to smash like a pumpkin.
Mistake #3: Interviewing the girl or asking transactional questions.
This is something I’ve mentioned before but anytime you meet someone new, you’re
typically guilty of interviewing them in order to find common ground and make small talk.
So you end up interviewing them and asking transactional questions like “What’s your
major” or “What year are you” or “Where do you work.”
Then you end hoping that they’ll respond with something that will make the conversation
interesting and push it forward.
Well newsflash, that thing you’re hoping they’ll say that will magically make the
conversation interesting probably doesn’t exist.
YOU have to be that thing that makes the conversation interesting by appealing to the girl’s emotions
and instead asking open-ended questions that require her to describe her emotions and feelings.
So for example, if a girl tells you that she recently went to a Drake concert, instead
of interviewing her about it and asking questions that only warrant, logical, short responses,
you can ask questions like “What was it like to see him live” or “What was the
coolest part of the show?”
Questions like this have an emotional undertone and require her to respond in a way that spikes
her emotions and shows how she feels about a certain thing when describing it.
When people talk, especially when telling a story, they often hint at what emotional
state they were in and prior feelings they felt.
If you can find those underlying emotions and feelings that a person had or has, and
relate to them in conversation, it validates the other person’s feelings and creates
a connection between the two of you.
So in the concert example, if she were to say something like “The show was wild, the
whole crowd went crazy when he performed Sicko Mode.”
You can see that the emotion she’s describing is excitement and hype, so you could respond
with a similar personal, EMOTIONAL experience by saying something like “That sounds like
it was crazy.
Every time I go to a concert I get hype as fuck.
The last concert I went to needed to bring in extra security because of how insane people
went.”
Boom.
Just like that, you related to her emotional experience with a similar one and now that
there’s an emotional relation there, she’ll feel more comfortable with you and it’ll
make all of the ensuing conversation flow a lot more naturally.
Now you don’t always have to relate it to the same exact experience she had, it can
be a totally different experience, but as long as you’re relating it to the same emotions
and feelings she described, it’ll work.
You can always just say the phrase “Yeah that’s sort of like how”, followed by
a similar emotional experience.
Mistake #4: Seeking the girl’s approval
Now I’ve talked about this time and time again, seeking the girl’s validation and
approval SCREAMS neediness and will kill any attraction she has for you.
But worse than that, it’ll actually force you to have worse conversations with the girl.
If you’re constantly seeking her approval after every sentence you say, then you’re
not gonna be able to create an engaging interaction.
This is why it’s important to be unreactive and grounded in yourself.
Focus on making sure you’re having fun and she’ll be compelled and attracted to you.
And that’s it.
Here are the 4 biggest mistakes summarized:
Using roadblock phrases Making the conversation too logical
Interviewing the girl And seeking her approval
Steer clear of these in your next conversation and your chances of success will increase
by a ton.
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